Heavy Is the Head: When Elevation Breeds Haters

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What's going on, everybody? Welcome to another episode of the Kickback.

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I am the host, The Dude, and tonight's topic is, Heavy is the Head That Wears the Crown.

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Talking about all the things that we carry through life and for life and how,

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it gets heavy from time to time. But as men, we're expected to carry it.

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And when we elevate and want to be someone different, the world still sees us

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as a version of yourself that they saw you as.

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And that's the biggest problem. how do we deal with or change people's view of us,

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i'm battling i'm battling with that right now as we speak and that's the reason

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why the title if you can't see the title says heavy is the head that wears the crown,

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and the question i have tonight is how do you deal with people who can't see

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past the old version of you.

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If you can't see, if you still talk to me and deal with me as if I'm the old

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person, you got a rude awakening coming or I probably am going to remove myself.

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Because I don't, man, one thing about me, I've been out here four plus years, man.

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And it's a wrap come 2027 for explaining things in multiple ways and several times.

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If you don't get it, then I'm not the one to give it to you.

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I just got to pray for you and hope you get it sooner rather than later because,

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time is of the essence, man.

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It's crazy because it beat people that you think would know better.

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It beat people that you think would be on the same frequency now that they older because we all older.

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You feel me? So it's just a shame for real when it's that way.

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You know, people still think you're that old person.

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People still try to ask you. Right.

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And it's it's you will hurt yourself right but then it's also the version of

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you that people you know now have made up in your in their minds of you,

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but it's not actually you and it's like they made up a version of you to try to compensate for the,

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the lack of in their life whether it's lack of confidence whether it's lack

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of sense whether it's lack of whatever and people want to try to bring you down to their levels.

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We've talked about this before, but you also mentioned the Dick Gregory reel,

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and my wife brought it to my attention yesterday.

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She says, babe, it's like you put on a pair of glasses that only you can see

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the world from your perspective.

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Your higher power gave that to you. The rest of the world can't see how you

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see the world, but they want you to come back down to their face.

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Yeah people don't know how to people don't know how to accept the fact that

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you're not on their level no more so they in small ways try to get you to stoop

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back down instead of respecting the fact that you've transcended you've elevated,

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because they.

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I can't explain it for them man but some people are comfortable and complacent

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man you gotta be not be happy for folks but you gotta let let people be,

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right you gotta be and let be you know what I mean live and let live,

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I was here this week I was here with this week oh Joe think he better than us

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because he got his stuff together he think he better than us and I'm

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like you don't know the path that I had to walk down to get to where I'm at right now exactly,

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they don't know how many steps you've taken how long your journey has been Yeah.

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And how much you've changed. And the fact that you're still changing.

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Why they talking about where you at currently.

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Right. You know what I'm saying? Just imagine when God bless you with more.

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Then what they're going to be saying, you know?

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It's that fence that we always talk about, man. You know, people dwell in a gray area.

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And some people know which side that they reside on.

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But facts are black and white, my brother. there's no gray area in facts right right right,

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there's no gray area in facts but the fact of the fact that your insecurities,

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and your lack of drive wheel determination,

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makes me something else because you don't have the same drive you don't have

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the same wheel as i have So because I have drive, I have will, I have determination.

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Oh, now I got the big head and I think I'm better than you.

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Yeah, man. That's they self-conscious. That's really all it is.

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They self-conscious and they don't know how to hold themselves accountable.

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Because when you see somebody you know doing better in life after a time period.

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It makes you reflect on where you're at now. At one point in time, the scales were even.

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Right. But now, and it's not even like a scale, but it's like y'all was dwelling in the same community.

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And now you're no longer in that community. But the fact of the matter is we

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still, I'm just going to be real with you. These are my coworkers that have said this about me.

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And I didn't even know these people before I got this job.

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And like I said my drive, my will, my determination irritates them it makes

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them feel some type of way about me because I'm a go-getter and they're complacent,

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now one of the sayings is if he ain't got no haters, he ain't popping.

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If he ain't got no haters he ain't popping man I don't know I,

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stay away from negativity honestly right I try not to tend to anything that

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doesn't land on my doorstep right but if it lands on your doorstep then,

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I'm sure I'm confident that you know how to articulate your words carefully

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to not let them slide but also be graceful in your approach,

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of course my brother but it's still irritating knowing like i drive through my old years every night,

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i drive in the community i grew up in every night and i see where i came from,

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i see where i where i i i made it from to where i live at now and it's like,

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i ain't i'm no better than you but i'm not complacent i want better god just elevated me,

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and you deliberately moved forward a lot of people take a million steps in place,

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versus deliberately moving forward and when you don't yeah and when you realize

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you feel me the mic drop is when you see somebody who's actually took steps forward,

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but you feel like you don't took way more steps than them but you've been in place the whole time.

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You've been walking around in circles while a person actually been taking a path forward,

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it's hurtful man you know it's a it's an emotional regulation thing it's one

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of those things where you have to emotionally regulate because if not you're

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gonna be labeled as a hater,

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sorry to say but you're a hater if you don't know how to congratulate if you

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don't know how to congratulate what the what our grandparents say if you ain't

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got that nice to say don't say nothing at all,

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don't say nothing at all and it's sad to see grown folks,

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wrong folks that's really when i gotta move around when it's grown folks,

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we're talking about all of this mess ain't nobody had nothing nice to say about

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me so i guess i shouldn't talk at all they ain't had nothing nice to say about me here lately hey man.

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Let you know you're doing something to rub folks the wrong way but you're doing

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the right thing it's crazy when you do the right thing and it rub people the wrong way,

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right and that's that's the part that's puzzling me i ain't doing them but going

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to work doing my job doing what's,

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of me for calling my job duties yeah i'm doing a little extra here and there,

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but then my co-workers oh he think he's better than us he think he did he think

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he better i'm like wait y'all can do the same shit animals.

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Y'all can make the same moves I'm nature. But I realize they're complacent in where they are.

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They're okay with what they got coming to me. I'm not okay. I get the same thing.

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I get that. I done had that same thing before for my family members, man.

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I had to emotionally regulate for real because if not, like I had anger problems.

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So once I see some BS, I got to go and move around because you ain't even going

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to be able to handle my tongue if I really just come, how I become.

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So like, you know, it speaks to your character, man. You know,

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it's one of those things where,

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You analyze and it further clarifies your vision. You know.

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It's amazing how God turns ugly situations into blessings.

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Blessings in disguise, you know what I mean? Because when you know how to respond

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gracefully and continue to move forward.

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And stand your ground while not being offensive, that's all praise be to the Most High.

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And those are opportunities for you to do that.

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The test as well because a lot of people grow arrogant with wealth and riches

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and abundance and then they take an opportunity like that and be like,

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and then to start talking down on people instead of being like hey man you know

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you're doing the same thing i'm doing the same thing that you could be doing,

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you see i'm saying the difference between those two responses,

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right well y'all ain't because i try not to be i work more on being non-judgmental

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now like i could would say something about my brothers.

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I could be teed off about this, that, and the third and what they not doing

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and what I feel like they should have been able to provide for me when I came

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home, but I don't know what they going through in life.

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I don't know what their journey is at the moment and I can't be all high and

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mighty like I ain't never struggled before.

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So like it's a test, man, but it's also an opportunity, man.

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A test are opportunities to either rise or fall, man.

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I want to congratulate you for being able to hold yourself in that moment.

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And that's what my wife said. My wife said it's a test from God.

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She said he's testing me.

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Like you said, she said there's a blessing coming, and this is a test,

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and there's a lesson that I have to learn through this.

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And when I learned the lesson, I passed the test that my God had tested me with.

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And there'd be more blessings on the way.

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That'd be a test because if you were in the past that test and remember your

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most high, in order to articulate yourself, it probably would have delayed a

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blessing on the way for you.

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But you might have just sped it up. You hear me? Yeah, yeah.

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You might have just sped that thing up because, you know what I'm saying?

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Man, it's crazy how, People who haven't got they self together and people who

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also just stand on the opposite side completely.

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You know, it's sad that they try to turn.

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A good thing into an ugly thing, man. It's like, it's toxic to me.

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I back away from all toxic and drama for real. Like when people have negative

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mind frames like it, I try to be, you know, graceful, but at the same time,

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I'm not finna waste my breath either.

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You know what I'm saying? So I got to gauge how, how low they being at the moment

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to see if I even want to indulge because at the end of the day,

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my ashes don't speak louder than my words.

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Most definitely. And you can't get caught up in the mud all the time.

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Sometimes you make a scratch worse by scratching on it versus just leaving it be. Very true.

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I've done it so many times, my brother. You just don't understand.

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Man, we all help. That's great. You know, you just be digging and you get to

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get you. Then you get to dig and to dig. And then the next thing you know,

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you look at it, it's bleeding. It wasn't bleeding.

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The man's bleeding. He sure. it's just nas bleeding blood hair workers you want

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to quit scratching right,

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it's just you know in elevation and the other thing i learned is when you when

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you elevate and when you when you raise higher through your higher power,

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people villainize you oh yeah man they make you out to be the bad guy i told

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you it was mind-blowing for me to see it because i'm fresh out of prison trying to do good.

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I've been going to school, working, getting jobs, and staying out the way and

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being independent versus being a burden.

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Y'all seem to have an attitude with that. Y'all think I feel like I'm better

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than y'all? I'm trying to pave the way for all of us to do better.

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Y'all think I'm trying to stand on y'all and say, what is wrong, y'all?

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It's crazy, man. It's really wild, man, because you just see how backwards society

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is, man. You know what I mean?

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It hurts that It's not common for our communities to unite, but that's reality.

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It's not common for black people to have fruitful conversations, but it's our reality.

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You know what I'm saying? Versus us bonding and unifying and working together to all rise.

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It's people who want to talk about you instead of trying to ask you what you

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got going on so they can clarify their own little plan.

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You know, I found out, I figured that out in my current job.

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Because coming from where I came from, family-oriented, family togetherness, work together.

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One was down. We lifted each other up. We moved. We moved as one pretty much all the time.

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You know, you got that one straggle out there, but we kept it all wrangled in.

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These motherfuckers, yeah, these better motherfuckers, yeah. Oh, Lord, Jesus.

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If you don't like it, then why are you still here?

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Yeah, man. It's really sad, man.

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I stay away from all drama toxicity. I ain't never seen people getting so mad when you do your job.

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Why are you doing it? It's my job. What do you mean? Right.

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No, you're doing too much. You need to sit down somewhere. I stay away from

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that because you have to be careful when you stooping lower in order to try to rise somebody up.

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You know what I mean? you have to be careful with that because it's a sensitive

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situation. You're putting yourself at risk indulging in things that are beneath you.

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But if you got good intentions and trying to ride somebody up,

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that's a good thing too. There's nothing wrong with that, but you got to be

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very careful, man, because some people say something and then as the saying goes in jail,

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somebody's driving you like a car they taking your wheel and they just throwing

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it any kind of way they want to they they touch they throw a line out there

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you bite and now they just pulling you along,

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and for you know you look up and you weigh in the gutter somewhere trying to

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explain something to somebody who was way you ain't had no business turning

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around looking in your rearview mirror wow.

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Man that's deep that's deep you know because bubble said a long time ago we

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talked about he said why is the windshield what how do you go bubble about the

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mirror and the windshield some smaller than others,

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the windshield is bigger than the review mirrors that's it,

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windshield is bigger than the review mirror yep yep,

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yep i said in one of my songs man i said I said, foot up on the gas,

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and I broke the reviews off.

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Hate you when you broke, but they love when you were boss.

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You feel me? It's crazy how people, and I don't know, man. It's hard to be having.

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I'm glad we got this space because this is one of the only places we can have

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these conversations, man. But being real, man.

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You know what I'm saying? We just having real conversations here, man.

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We couldn't. We just said, man. You and the dude could not have these conversations

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at our workplace. And we work with grown-ass people.

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When I say grown-ass people, I mean some grown-ass people that's older than us.

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And we still can have a couple of things. Yeah, man. How you think I feel when

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I'm trying to look up to people for inspiration?

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Uh-huh. And then they show me that their attitude is way out of line.

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I'm better off just staying out their way and doing my job and keep on pushing

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versus indulging because I know it's almost like it's, you know,

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once people show you signs, it's almost like,

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You know, you can't even talk to them until you see them in a better light.

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Because if I, you already done show me that you, you, you, this is where you're dwelling at.

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So I got to stay away from you until I catch you in another environment and

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then be like, hey man, what's up, man?

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You know, we've been working, you know what I'm saying? And then you can try

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to, it's a, it's a, the environment nurtures the conversation that you want

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to have versus you forcing the conversation that you already see.

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Ain't no point in having it. Man, that is...

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It seems like there's a lot of that going on. It is a lot of that going on.

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I'm like, then you ask yourself, is you in the same conversation as me?

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Did you hear the same thing? And it's getting even worse. Are you even on the

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same planet as me? I mean, hold on.

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It's getting even worse, man, because... I say it to myself all the time.

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I know. There ain't no way in the world you could have got the same books I got. No.

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You couldn't have got the same books I got. Y'all know about the Pioneer age

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right yes yeah okay in today's world versus the pioneer age,

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majority of society is consumers yes and when you are overly consuming things

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you become subjective to what someone is what someone else is providing for you and it makes you,

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into a person that you may not even want to be but you or look up and you're already too deep in.

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A lot of people are just consuming and not producing. A lot of people are being

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shaped by any given moment.

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It's sad to say, but a lot of people out here can be your right-hand man,

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but a change and be ready to kill you.

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Like I just watched this movie on Netflix called The Gray Man about a CIA agent

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that they tried to kill because now he knows too much.

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But really it was a coup that was being happening in the midst of the CIA.

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But some guys who just pulled up on a plane, waiting on him so that he can extract

00:19:50.818 --> 00:19:53.888
him, got a call and now all of a sudden they trying to kill him.

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And I'm just like, how can people flip their mind like that?

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But it's like, is this really what goes on? Whether it's an order from above,

00:20:03.701 --> 00:20:08.061
from someone higher ranking, or it's just personal self-interest.

00:20:08.061 --> 00:20:11.730
It's not people that you can actually trust out here, man.

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I was just thinking about earlier this week, what you just said.

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How we begin Because back in the pioneer Back in the olden days In the pioneer age You know.

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If you felt like You was being treated unfairly Your goods that you were selling

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Was unfair You're like no Don't worry about,

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it Give me what you If you work for somebody And you feel like they're treating

00:20:35.241 --> 00:20:40.105
Just give me what you owe And I'm done And the whole community Gonna come behind you too,

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The whole community Gonna come behind you About a wrong being Now it's,

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Now it's the I can't lose this job. Hold on.

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When you found this job, you were looking for a job, right? Yes,

00:20:56.211 --> 00:20:58.634
sir. You know what I'm working on?

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I'm working on building my relationship with God. Yes. My most high.

00:21:04.619 --> 00:21:09.351
Amen. Because in my lonely times, and when I feel like I'm different and it's

00:21:09.351 --> 00:21:12.265
becoming offensive, I have to correct myself.

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And I got to learn how to have more conversations with the most high.

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You feel me? Smoke me one and talk to him and chill and kick it and have a good

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time because sometimes that'd be the only thing you got, man. No?

00:21:25.453 --> 00:21:30.962
That'd be the only thing you got until Friday when the kickback come on.

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For real. I heard that, brother.

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For real, man. And then when you get blessed with a spouse, with a woman that's

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a partner and a teammate, man, I had to grow into realizing how valuable my

00:21:48.138 --> 00:21:50.742
spouse is, my significant other is, because,

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in my lowest moments,

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when my future is not clear, through the thick and the thin,

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through the ups and the downs, through the mud and at the mountaintop,

00:22:02.043 --> 00:22:07.728
she be right there encouraging me, holding me accountable. Yeah.

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Amen. And that's serious, man.

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I stand on it, man. But let me get with y'all in a second, man.

00:22:15.868 --> 00:22:18.328
I'm going to get back on here. I'm going to make my slide right quick and then

00:22:18.328 --> 00:22:21.406
I'm jumping back on. Okay. Alright.

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Bro, ask your girl if I can...

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Yeah, but I... The title is, Head is the Head that Ways the Crown.

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And what I reason why I made it that is because this week I was told the people that I work with,

00:22:44.408 --> 00:22:49.915
told my supervisor that because I do the things I do I think I'm better.

00:22:54.786 --> 00:22:56.197
I like jealousy to me,

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I'm going to give you an example of what happened. So one of my coworkers,

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she brings her son to work. She's babying him.

00:23:08.230 --> 00:23:12.672
She made a statement saying, he's a little slow.

00:23:13.490 --> 00:23:20.374
He's autistic. He's going to need me when he grows up, so I got to keep my baby close.

00:23:20.659 --> 00:23:24.810
I'm not going to let him leave the house. I said, just because he's autistic

00:23:24.810 --> 00:23:28.283
doesn't mean you cannot grow up. Right.

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Just making it worse handicapping them even more so exactly because if the good

00:23:36.290 --> 00:23:38.151
mother called you home tomorrow what are you going to do,

00:23:38.835 --> 00:23:42.281
there you go right there what are you going to,

00:23:42.926 --> 00:23:46.940
do what are you going to do she got upset with me because I told her I said

00:23:46.940 --> 00:23:51.450
you do too much you're babying this boy I understand he's a little boy but you

00:23:51.450 --> 00:23:55.330
got to let him have some independence you got to teach him,

00:23:55.830 --> 00:23:57.937
how to survive in this world,

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man the best show i ever seen to demonstrate that was ray what what ray charles

00:24:05.650 --> 00:24:09.602
mama did with him right y'all remember seeing that movie yes.

00:24:11.138 --> 00:24:16.380
Yeah yeah yeah she she she it was tough on her but she she made and i know it's

00:24:16.380 --> 00:24:21.099
just a movie or whatever but it's a a demonstration of what should actually happen,

00:24:21.744 --> 00:24:27.220
you gotta you gotta you gotta be tough on where they can make it on their own and when i I say tough.

00:24:27.220 --> 00:24:32.230
I mean, you got to, they got to, you think about it, it's difficulty,

00:24:32.230 --> 00:24:36.910
you know, different challenges and be able to overcome them, you know? Yeah.

00:24:40.113 --> 00:24:40.273
But now,

00:24:42.813 --> 00:24:47.411
what you experience is that's the now. No, my baby can't do that.

00:24:47.684 --> 00:24:53.943
They can't do this. They can't do that. And then you go and send them to this

00:24:53.943 --> 00:24:56.183
institution that we call education.

00:24:56.183 --> 00:24:58.859
You go send them to a building to get some education about this.

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And they put some structure in and some wall and some guardrails in and oh my

00:25:04.303 --> 00:25:05.864
goodness, off come the rails.

00:25:06.973 --> 00:25:12.993
And then you go up there and you go up there and show you're natural so they

00:25:12.993 --> 00:25:17.629
expect everything that they do should be this should be okay because,

00:25:18.680 --> 00:25:23.974
my mama and my dad have defended me I know I was right I'm always right sure,

00:25:24.960 --> 00:25:30.374
Until that very child turns on you and busts you in your head. I'm sure.

00:25:36.080 --> 00:25:42.000
Now you want to talk. Right. Because y'all came in and me and Tamar was talking.

00:25:42.000 --> 00:25:48.210
And I said, you know, when God elevates you and he gives you a discernment and

00:25:48.210 --> 00:25:51.683
you can see things. And it's like this.

00:25:52.025 --> 00:25:56.350
When God puts those rose colored glasses on your eyes and you see the world

00:25:56.350 --> 00:26:03.110
totally different and you see people messing up and doing things, they villainize you.

00:26:03.110 --> 00:26:07.589
They weaponize the fact that you can see things that they can't see.

00:26:08.117 --> 00:26:14.520
And we also are talking about how people are complacent with where they are at work. I'm a go getter.

00:26:15.054 --> 00:26:19.250
I got off at seven thirty tonight. I literally have been on my bus.

00:26:19.250 --> 00:26:21.509
I got on my bus at five thirty this morning.

00:26:21.985 --> 00:26:26.100
I ran my walk out. I did a field trip. I did my afternoon route,

00:26:26.100 --> 00:26:28.168
and I did my afternoon program.

00:26:30.076 --> 00:26:35.823
So I make sure my family's in a good place, but some of my immediate coworkers,

00:26:36.420 --> 00:26:40.150
they're completely, I'm okay with what I got. I ain't doing none of that.

00:26:40.150 --> 00:26:41.406
I don't want nothing extra.

00:26:41.865 --> 00:26:45.000
But they don't want to talk about it. They don't have no drive.

00:26:45.534 --> 00:26:49.423
So what I'm telling me is I got drive, wheel, and determination.

00:26:50.212 --> 00:26:53.070
Let me ask you something, Joe. let me ask you something about those particular

00:26:53.070 --> 00:26:58.600
co-workers. Are there season? How long they been there? Damn.

00:27:00.255 --> 00:27:05.154
The ones I'm talking about, I've been there longer than them. Okay, okay, okay.

00:27:06.820 --> 00:27:09.833
Now you got something that's been there longer than you to go say the same thing.

00:27:10.175 --> 00:27:13.583
They just won't say it out loud. Don't act like you don't, because I know you do.

00:27:19.884 --> 00:27:27.534
I'm probably sure. I'm not going to dispute or debate. I want to know, when did we take...

00:27:28.372 --> 00:27:29.672
Drive and,

00:27:32.132 --> 00:27:36.652
when did we take drive out of humanity that you wanted to gain more? You wanted more.

00:27:37.172 --> 00:27:39.652
You wanted more out of your life. You wanted more out of your kids.

00:27:39.652 --> 00:27:41.262
You wanted more out of your family.

00:27:41.535 --> 00:27:45.297
When did we take that away? When did we just take that away and just say,

00:27:45.488 --> 00:27:47.549
I'm good. I'm just good with settling.

00:27:48.400 --> 00:27:53.859
I don't want to go no far. I'm good right here. Man, that kills me.

00:27:54.556 --> 00:27:57.912
That kills me. Man, I can't do it.

00:27:58.992 --> 00:28:07.912
But Mark said it weeks ago, about a month ago, that we think six steps ahead of the average person.

00:28:08.828 --> 00:28:13.069
That mean you being better than everybody then? Is that what that mean?

00:28:14.052 --> 00:28:17.905
No. It just means I see the mood before you started painting them.

00:28:19.112 --> 00:28:20.842
You should not catch up to where I'm at.

00:28:22.752 --> 00:28:27.632
That's a good question. That was good. I love that. That was good.

00:28:27.632 --> 00:28:30.389
That make me better than you because i can see six steps ahead.

00:28:33.212 --> 00:28:37.807
I think i think a little bit shorter down the road right right right,

00:28:39.353 --> 00:28:45.751
yeah they make it they make it they make it they make it like it's a bad thing you know,

00:28:46.652 --> 00:28:57.052
to want more to be you know to be ambitious about being best you know ambitious yeah ambitious yeah,

00:28:58.062 --> 00:29:05.022
but I'm right now one of the hatedest people at our job oh yeah and I don't

00:29:05.022 --> 00:29:10.856
even see why I'm hated by my co-workers but I'm hated on all sides the administration co-workers,

00:29:11.886 --> 00:29:12.350
hmm.

00:29:14.811 --> 00:29:19.693
Yeah it's unfortunate it's because your pursuit of the greater view that's all

00:29:19.693 --> 00:29:22.350
it is it's basically it's the same thing we're talking about,

00:29:22.986 --> 00:29:30.013
yeah you know elevation when when god elevates you and he puts you in a different

00:29:30.013 --> 00:29:32.570
position in life that other people can't see,

00:29:33.214 --> 00:29:36.713
it it puts a mirror in front of you and they can't,

00:29:37.630 --> 00:29:39.720
most people can't stand and look at you for us,

00:29:41.790 --> 00:29:46.553
right right if you look in the mirror and you don't like what's looking back

00:29:46.553 --> 00:29:49.343
then you gotta change what's looking back cause the mirror ain't gonna change,

00:29:50.533 --> 00:29:56.893
you the only person that can change it right I'm not changing you gotta change

00:29:56.893 --> 00:30:00.723
that's the only person that can change it that person in the mirror only way

00:30:00.723 --> 00:30:03.964
your reflection changes is if you change it yeah,

00:30:04.998 --> 00:30:09.573
yeah you gotta change you gotta stop doing what you doing you gotta stop,

00:30:11.538 --> 00:30:17.023
you get what I'm saying right okay I get what you're saying yeah stand in the

00:30:17.023 --> 00:30:24.055
mirror stand in the mirror look at yourself what do you see you see you right okay,

00:30:25.073 --> 00:30:28.133
put a hat on your head did that did that change,

00:30:29.853 --> 00:30:30.589
no off.

00:30:31.853 --> 00:30:33.114
I always do have a say.

00:30:38.284 --> 00:30:46.183
See what I'm saying? See what I'm saying? I need you to stop making me look bad.

00:30:47.151 --> 00:30:50.044
That's the point right there. There it is right there. Yeah,

00:30:52.300 --> 00:30:55.404
there it is. That's it right there.

00:30:55.404 --> 00:30:59.323
Stop making me look bad. So the question arises. Now do I allow,

00:30:59.967 --> 00:31:09.730
this person to change who I really am or or put me in a box of who I really am,

00:31:10.371 --> 00:31:18.330
to make them feel comfortable or to make them feel valuable or what? What do I do?

00:31:19.640 --> 00:31:24.802
I mean, I want friends. I don't want to make enemies, but what do I do?

00:31:25.900 --> 00:31:31.318
At this point, that's what I'm going to tell you. I'll take,

00:31:33.980 --> 00:31:38.851
this. If you were any I could see you coming. Yeah.

00:31:44.285 --> 00:31:46.700
Everything you just said, Riley, is what I've been,

00:31:49.420 --> 00:31:52.990
doing. what do i do with this situation so i just start right you know i just

00:31:52.990 --> 00:31:55.500
gotta shoot i just start praying,

00:31:56.540 --> 00:32:01.620
right right right that's a start that's a good start that's a good start because

00:32:01.620 --> 00:32:05.729
you're gonna get you're gonna get your answer it's gonna be revealed you know,

00:32:06.455 --> 00:32:11.620
right that's all you can do that's all that's all you can do that's all i've

00:32:11.620 --> 00:32:14.130
been doing for months now that's

00:32:14.130 --> 00:32:17.798
all because it's how you can do it's just praying and just thank god,

00:32:18.470 --> 00:32:23.294
come on now something i mean hey you gotta open somebody's eyes,

00:32:23.915 --> 00:32:27.400
right and that's you just said it john you just said right there you got to

00:32:27.400 --> 00:32:33.610
open somebody's eyes because the reality to that you are who you are you are who what god made you,

00:32:34.391 --> 00:32:37.990
and pray that somebody's eyes will be open like wait a minute,

00:32:39.175 --> 00:32:42.875
No, they don't like that. You ask too much.

00:32:42.895 --> 00:32:48.015
I'm just kidding. You ask too much.

00:32:51.716 --> 00:32:56.775
Man, let me tell you something. Look, y'all hear some good nuggets right here.

00:32:56.775 --> 00:33:03.782
I got a friend that I went to, that I worked with for years at the shared department. And he was young.

00:33:04.392 --> 00:33:10.046
And that dude used to come to work bringing blueprints to work on on building houses,

00:33:10.534 --> 00:33:14.675
and they talked about him man that dude they talked about him like he was a

00:33:14.675 --> 00:33:17.743
dog they said oh he ain't gonna do nothing with that,

00:33:18.231 --> 00:33:21.430
he think he gonna do that he think he gonna get away from the sheriff office

00:33:21.807 --> 00:33:26.515
and and do this and do that and he he talked about his his business a lot because

00:33:26.515 --> 00:33:32.133
he was so excited and enthusiasm and ambition about what he was trying to do,

00:33:32.747 --> 00:33:34.564
he left the share department,

00:33:35.417 --> 00:33:36.787
and now he's a millionaire,

00:33:37.783 --> 00:33:41.934
hey I ain't no millionaire but I'm wealthy the Lord has made me wealthy but,

00:33:42.421 --> 00:33:46.618
that story you just told right there Riley same I've been through,

00:33:47.355 --> 00:33:50.365
this ain't the first time I've been through something like this but the story

00:33:50.365 --> 00:33:54.012
you just told when I was cooking my last cooking job,

00:33:55.395 --> 00:34:01.248
my last cooking job said I told him I was gonna leave I wanted to start driving and they was like.

00:34:02.715 --> 00:34:04.811
And you know how people talk and somebody called me was like,

00:34:05.102 --> 00:34:06.751
you know, they said you ain't going to make it.

00:34:07.035 --> 00:34:11.195
You know, they said you'll be back. You know, they said. Doubt talking. Yeah.

00:34:11.555 --> 00:34:13.502
You should have never left. You should have stayed here.

00:34:14.153 --> 00:34:18.540
Six months after I left that job. Do you know that the company sold that building

00:34:18.732 --> 00:34:21.575
and all of those people lost their jobs? Mm.

00:34:23.876 --> 00:34:26.567
Mm. Mm. See? See? Yeah.

00:34:27.742 --> 00:34:32.327
Tell you, man, what God has for you, he has for you, you know?

00:34:33.162 --> 00:34:35.926
What God has for you, he has for you. Can't nobody stop that.

00:34:36.257 --> 00:34:39.962
Right. I went to God and I came to my wife and we talked about it.

00:34:39.982 --> 00:34:42.433
And my wife said, if you want to make the move, baby, make the move.

00:34:43.389 --> 00:34:47.622
God's already giving you your answer. Make the move. And I jumped off of that

00:34:47.622 --> 00:34:52.502
ship that was sinking and moved on. And all those people tried to see that.

00:34:53.782 --> 00:34:56.482
And hang in. and God.

00:34:59.002 --> 00:35:02.103
That's the way I'm put because it was a sinking ship,

00:35:04.240 --> 00:35:11.842
yes but you know it's like you know you help people you go out of your way you do things for them to,

00:35:12.842 --> 00:35:16.256
stab you in the back and say oh you think you know I ain't too good,

00:35:17.242 --> 00:35:21.922
like before I don't know if y'all was here when me and Jamara was talking they

00:35:21.922 --> 00:35:26.412
don't know the steps it took for me to get here they don't understand how my

00:35:26.412 --> 00:35:31.895
feet hurt I've been up all day and I'm here with you guys right now but I've been up all day,

00:35:32.656 --> 00:35:35.425
yeah yeah I mean just like,

00:35:36.282 --> 00:35:40.998
it's just like what it is Joe it's just like you one of us why you leaving,

00:35:42.302 --> 00:35:45.106
ain't it so good here why you running.

00:35:46.622 --> 00:35:50.534
Why you gonna run for masks it's good here ain't it eating three meals a day

00:35:50.975 --> 00:35:55.782
why you one of us why you think you gotta go You know what, Riley?

00:35:57.162 --> 00:36:00.861
You're being facetious, but you're spot on. You're spot on.

00:36:01.471 --> 00:36:06.376
You are spot on. People at that building, at my last cooking job,

00:36:06.753 --> 00:36:08.842
that was the mentality that they had.

00:36:08.842 --> 00:36:15.052
You are spot on. You are spot on, brother. When I say that was exactly what

00:36:15.052 --> 00:36:17.469
you just said was their mentality.

00:36:18.533 --> 00:36:21.610
That's it. The mentality thing.

00:36:22.353 --> 00:36:25.033
The mentality thing. It is. You know what?

00:36:25.553 --> 00:36:30.133
You saying that now I'm thinking about it and that's why these conversations

00:36:30.133 --> 00:36:35.809
are always good because that gives me a different perspective. It's a mentality thing.

00:36:36.139 --> 00:36:41.093
These people have these mentalities and I don't have it.

00:36:41.613 --> 00:36:44.800
I don't dwell in that world that they dwell.

00:36:45.648 --> 00:36:52.523
Right. Because see, your mentality have broadened. You have exceeded their mentality.

00:36:52.523 --> 00:36:54.645
Their mentality. You see what I'm saying?

00:36:55.893 --> 00:37:01.147
Like I said, the ambition, the drive. We talked about drive early, the drive.

00:37:01.548 --> 00:37:06.700
And it's like, you know, it's a mentality thing, man. They don't see it. They don't see it.

00:37:08.847 --> 00:37:14.407
And, you know, I'm like, because I listen, because we work in close quarters

00:37:14.407 --> 00:37:17.053
like you and your coworkers. We work in close quarters.

00:37:17.477 --> 00:37:21.937
So you have conversations with people. They tell you about their lives.

00:37:21.937 --> 00:37:24.907
They tell you about their kids. They tell you about their spouses.

00:37:24.907 --> 00:37:26.412
They tell you about all of this.

00:37:26.695 --> 00:37:32.007
And I told my wife yesterday, I said, because I work and it is what it is.

00:37:32.344 --> 00:37:35.878
I work with majority win. I work with majority win.

00:37:36.352 --> 00:37:45.167
And so I told my wife I said I think they are jealous of my relationship because

00:37:45.167 --> 00:37:49.307
they talk about the men that they deal with and how they ain't no good and,

00:37:50.067 --> 00:37:53.996
how they how they doing all of this and and I said me and my wife like today,

00:37:54.599 --> 00:37:58.807
today was payday for us and I was sitting down with two of my co-workers in

00:37:58.807 --> 00:38:02.889
between schools and one of my co-workers was like,

00:38:03.551 --> 00:38:06.204
I just applied for a new job. I need more money.

00:38:06.575 --> 00:38:12.317
I need more money. I ain't got no spouse. I said, I paid half of my check went

00:38:12.317 --> 00:38:15.677
to bills today and I still got the half my check left over because you got a

00:38:15.677 --> 00:38:20.457
wife and you a good man and I ain't got no good men in my life.

00:38:20.457 --> 00:38:22.978
And I'm like, is that my fault?

00:38:23.587 --> 00:38:25.102
No, but there's a reason for it.

00:38:27.187 --> 00:38:28.163
Yeah, it is, ain't it?

00:38:31.420 --> 00:38:34.737
There's definitely a reason for that. Hey, Joe, I got a question,

00:38:34.737 --> 00:38:39.417
man. When you were speaking about the job that you had cooking and you decided

00:38:39.417 --> 00:38:42.429
to leave, did you know the ship was sinking at that time?

00:38:43.029 --> 00:38:46.490
No. No. I didn't find out until after I got off.

00:38:47.171 --> 00:38:48.788
Okay. All right.

00:38:49.943 --> 00:38:55.392
But you did say you prayed to God about the decision that you was making.

00:38:55.735 --> 00:38:58.863
Yes. Yeah. I prayed to God about it. Yeah. Yeah.

00:39:00.063 --> 00:39:03.323
And he guided you out of that sinking ship. Yeah.

00:39:05.655 --> 00:39:10.206
I prayed to God that I was making the right move because I went from cooking,

00:39:10.572 --> 00:39:15.343
20 years of cooking. I went from 20 years of cooking to driving. Two,

00:39:17.623 --> 00:39:21.062
totally different areas. right,

00:39:21.621 --> 00:39:25.643
well you know when when riley said that you know you had a different mentality,

00:39:26.159 --> 00:39:29.563
you also got to remember that human nature plays a factor in a lot of people's

00:39:29.563 --> 00:39:32.754
decisions because people get accustomed,

00:39:33.294 --> 00:39:38.628
to a certain thing it's like you can be so you can be uh socialized by prison,

00:39:39.151 --> 00:39:40.991
you know you've been in prison so long,

00:39:41.535 --> 00:39:46.763
so you know when you come out you can't function in normal society because it's too too much freedom

00:39:47.203 --> 00:39:51.243
not enough control institutionalized right institutionalized so sometimes your

00:39:51.243 --> 00:39:55.173
co-workers you know they get accustomed to the paycheck they got they got their

00:39:55.173 --> 00:39:56.512
bills worked out around it

00:39:56.889 --> 00:39:59.813
they know how much they're going to make they know exactly how far they can

00:39:59.813 --> 00:40:03.803
go they can they know how much they can party how much they can and and that

00:40:03.803 --> 00:40:06.783
becomes their normal and they buy into

00:40:07.203 --> 00:40:12.013
that normal lifestyle they buy into that circumstance and they don't think outside

00:40:12.013 --> 00:40:14.414
of that they become a prisoner of their own situation,

00:40:15.243 --> 00:40:21.181
right yeah because they think they're making it oh i'm good i'm making it you know yeah.

00:40:23.937 --> 00:40:28.453
Yeah i don't see anything wrong with that i'm not that's if that's the way you

00:40:28.453 --> 00:40:31.518
want to live that's the way you want to live,

00:40:32.963 --> 00:40:39.943
but that's the job that i needed to elevate i needed to move people are afraid

00:40:39.943 --> 00:40:41.679
to change too that's the other thing,

00:40:43.258 --> 00:40:46.345
Change is a big thing for some people.

00:40:46.915 --> 00:40:51.147
And if you can't, those circumstances have to change,

00:40:52.085 --> 00:40:56.205
They don't know what the change is going to be like. They allow fear to be that

00:40:56.205 --> 00:40:59.224
factor that prevents them from flying, you know, going higher.

00:40:59.788 --> 00:41:03.925
Like that old expression goes, you know, you can't you can't fly like an eagle

00:41:03.925 --> 00:41:05.180
when you're hanging around with jerky.

00:41:08.785 --> 00:41:09.125
Right.

00:41:12.962 --> 00:41:15.305
Sometimes it's best to just stay on the ground.

00:41:18.857 --> 00:41:24.105
Yeah, you won't fall if you if you just stay on the ground. You won't have to worry about falling.

00:41:26.105 --> 00:41:33.283
That brings me to a story that I was told some years back about a guy that was mountain climbing.

00:41:33.875 --> 00:41:37.475
And, you know, when you're climbing on the mountain, you have to tie off.

00:41:37.475 --> 00:41:42.185
You have to put that, drive that bolt into the rock as a safety precaution.

00:41:42.185 --> 00:41:46.235
If you slip and fall, that's going to catch you before you crash and hit rock

00:41:46.235 --> 00:41:48.587
bottom. The guy was climbing.

00:41:49.556 --> 00:41:53.666
And his partner couldn't go on any further because of the altitude.

00:41:53.666 --> 00:41:56.195
But he wanted to keep going. And he kept going.

00:41:56.872 --> 00:42:01.202
And he pushed beyond his own limits. And he fell.

00:42:02.000 --> 00:42:03.696
He didn't know how far he had fallen.

00:42:04.745 --> 00:42:08.896
And then when he woke up, he was hanging there. And he knew that he couldn't stay there.

00:42:09.501 --> 00:42:12.959
But he was too afraid to make a move and go down.

00:42:13.572 --> 00:42:17.607
And they found him there because of fear. He didn't move and he died.

00:42:18.140 --> 00:42:27.876
And when they found him he was like six feet from the ledge oh man golly wow golly that's,

00:42:28.686 --> 00:42:34.236
how powerful fear is it really is it can it can freeze your momentum it can

00:42:34.236 --> 00:42:39.736
stop you from going forward and it can it can be your demise right i remember

00:42:39.736 --> 00:42:41.809
when i was in that truck underwater,

00:42:42.355 --> 00:42:44.869
water i could have freaked out and froze and drowned,

00:42:45.429 --> 00:42:47.664
right but god gave me a different spirit,

00:42:48.320 --> 00:42:53.533
and i got the heck out of there so right you know that fear is a real thing

00:42:53.875 --> 00:42:58.974
but it's fear is only an it's a feeling fear can't kill you,

00:42:59.602 --> 00:43:05.485
unless you give into it but let me ask you this very very clear can fear also be a motivator,

00:43:06.264 --> 00:43:11.885
Most definitely. Yeah. If you have that kind of mindset, fear is a motivator.

00:43:12.385 --> 00:43:14.805
I'm afraid of failure, so I'm going to do well.

00:43:15.386 --> 00:43:18.184
I'm afraid that if I don't get an A, I'm going to come home and I'm going to

00:43:18.184 --> 00:43:22.625
beat the brakes off of me. That's right. That's right. That's right.

00:43:24.664 --> 00:43:29.204
And instead make you face it head on. Exactly.

00:43:29.604 --> 00:43:34.684
I'd rather face you than face my mama or face my daddy. I know that right.

00:43:37.044 --> 00:43:42.684
You know what I always say I always say this outside of my house I didn't have

00:43:42.684 --> 00:43:46.464
no bullets because I had a bullet at home I mean I was worried about more worried

00:43:46.464 --> 00:43:50.872
about the people at home than I was at school I'm sorry y'all don't scare me,

00:43:53.364 --> 00:43:59.474
I know what's waiting for me at home and you ain't it you can't even hold the

00:43:59.474 --> 00:44:04.684
camera you I can hit back at home I can't do that so you're not good at some

00:44:04.684 --> 00:44:07.448
of that stuff that I've been trying to give out at home.

00:44:09.024 --> 00:44:10.951
You ain't got no extension cord in your hand.

00:44:13.724 --> 00:44:19.345
Yeah, I remember that. Extension cord. Hot Wheels track.

00:44:20.011 --> 00:44:22.008
How you gonna beat me with my own Christmas gift?

00:44:23.404 --> 00:44:28.244
Man, Ben P. You're gonna enjoy me in the box.

00:44:30.350 --> 00:44:34.320
I got on the school bus with a Hot Wheels track.

00:44:35.055 --> 00:44:39.494
My friends mess with me about that to this day on the bus, in on the bus she

00:44:39.494 --> 00:44:45.266
beat me all the way from the door to the bus to the front of the door, all the way to my seat,

00:44:47.915 --> 00:44:54.095
Got tracks from a track. Right. That'd be good. With the box.

00:44:56.139 --> 00:45:02.355
With the box? Yeah. Yeah. Man, them was the days.

00:45:03.815 --> 00:45:07.515
Yeah, you know. Them days when they say, this gonna hurt me more than guards,

00:45:07.515 --> 00:45:09.535
you know it ain't. No, it ain't.

00:45:13.835 --> 00:45:17.535
Don't even perpetrate that.

00:45:17.535 --> 00:45:20.505
You just told the story that's what you did this is not going to hurt you as

00:45:20.505 --> 00:45:26.238
much as it's going to hurt me right you're not going in and sit down I'm going in and inch down,

00:45:27.545 --> 00:45:33.415
your feelings might be hurt but my butt is hurt right I've seen you got to go

00:45:33.415 --> 00:45:35.175
do the dishes what you talking about.

00:45:39.766 --> 00:45:46.049
It's been puzzling to me, man, just how how the mentality of some people are

00:45:46.049 --> 00:45:50.213
and how they try to drag you down because they don't want to get up.

00:45:50.646 --> 00:45:54.506
Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Misery loves company.

00:45:55.104 --> 00:45:59.499
Yeah. Because of my fear of moving forward. I feel more comfortable if I have

00:45:59.499 --> 00:46:01.507
people around me, even if the ship is going down.

00:46:01.883 --> 00:46:04.268
I'm not thinking about myself. Right.

00:46:05.049 --> 00:46:11.509
I got somebody to go with me. Right. no I want us to all I want us to all get

00:46:11.509 --> 00:46:16.209
up together and move together no no sir no sir no sir,

00:46:18.469 --> 00:46:25.009
you be in the same place I'm at five days a week and collectively how many people

00:46:25.009 --> 00:46:31.409
you know gonna ride gonna say that we got it good here why you wanna do that you gotta shoot,

00:46:33.689 --> 00:46:36.384
they were swearing down we got it good,

00:46:38.889 --> 00:46:46.409
Riley you hit the nail on the head with that one I swear Riley you sure you

00:46:46.409 --> 00:46:48.309
wasn't on the bus with us you sure you.

00:46:51.869 --> 00:46:57.829
I've been on that kind of bus before you'd have been on some of them side conversations with us,

00:46:59.189 --> 00:47:04.439
why you want to rock that boat what you mean cause the boat taking on water

00:47:04.439 --> 00:47:06.884
that's why I want to rock the boat yeah.

00:47:09.402 --> 00:47:15.786
I can't understand this is what gets me you had you on the job and you got another brother,

00:47:16.395 --> 00:47:20.872
you know all the kinfolk ain't kinfolk but you got another brother that's working

00:47:20.872 --> 00:47:26.122
on the same job with you and then they want you to do something illegal against

00:47:26.122 --> 00:47:29.456
the rules that you can get in trouble for to help them,

00:47:30.066 --> 00:47:35.232
right why why do you and then and then when i don't comply to your request now

00:47:35.232 --> 00:47:42.822
i'm an uncle tom or i wasn't down or you ain't you ain't you ain't one of the crew no right not one of,

00:47:43.522 --> 00:47:46.502
the crew i'm trying to move ahead i'm trying to get ahead in life for me and

00:47:46.502 --> 00:47:50.082
my family and i'm not going to risk that to help you,

00:47:50.682 --> 00:47:56.142
when it's when it's not up above board and honest but see the fact of the matter

00:47:56.142 --> 00:48:00.771
is i get what you're saying but what about when you're called all of that,

00:48:01.339 --> 00:48:06.152
and you're doing good and you're helping somebody and you're doing right and

00:48:06.152 --> 00:48:08.097
you still get called all of that,

00:48:08.680 --> 00:48:13.242
oh yeah hey look we i think most of us have been there and done that and that's again,

00:48:13.722 --> 00:48:18.537
people are people are gonna be people and that's expression life be life and

00:48:18.950 --> 00:48:22.962
so ain't nothing you can do it's a stand on right trust in the lord with all

00:48:22.962 --> 00:48:26.652
your heart and lean not to your own understanding and all your ways acknowledge

00:48:26.652 --> 00:48:28.627
him that's it that's right yeah,

00:48:29.562 --> 00:48:33.982
that's right that's it that's it man that's it right now i'm telling you that's

00:48:33.982 --> 00:48:37.135
your best friend if you let him be that's it.

00:48:38.193 --> 00:48:45.665
In any situation in any arena on any stage that's including in the church.

00:48:47.684 --> 00:48:52.244
And look, I was underway on the ship. We were gone. We was away from home port.

00:48:52.881 --> 00:48:56.517
We had been gone for about four months.

00:48:57.304 --> 00:49:01.004
We would actually be gone a total of six months, but this was at the four-month stage.

00:49:01.805 --> 00:49:05.613
And I'm in Baltimore. My home port is in Virginia.

00:49:06.020 --> 00:49:12.584
I'm stuck in Baltimore in the yard, and they ship the mail from Portsmouth to

00:49:12.584 --> 00:49:14.788
Baltimore. So I'm processing the mail.

00:49:15.334 --> 00:49:18.788
That was one of my jobs. I had several. That was one of them.

00:49:19.090 --> 00:49:22.964
And I'm going to the mail and I'm looking at this piece of correspondence from

00:49:22.964 --> 00:49:25.551
the housing office back in Portsmouth.

00:49:26.244 --> 00:49:30.504
And so I open his address to the commanding officer. I open the letter.

00:49:30.504 --> 00:49:34.650
I review it before I give it to the XO who gives it to the captain if he need to.

00:49:35.225 --> 00:49:39.594
And it's about one of the brothers on the ship and they go kick him out of housing.

00:49:40.064 --> 00:49:44.957
And it says there's been several complaints made noise complaints late at night,

00:49:45.428 --> 00:49:51.584
coming from your unit and we're going to have to remove you from government housing man,

00:49:52.384 --> 00:49:56.717
and they and they had to put in parentheses the noise was of a sexual nature,

00:49:57.274 --> 00:50:01.364
oh man we're away from home so either,

00:50:02.164 --> 00:50:07.244
this brother's wife is in there having a tool time party or she got somebody

00:50:07.244 --> 00:50:09.644
else up in there with her yeah.

00:50:10.604 --> 00:50:16.304
But I mean even if she's at a school time party she ain't got to make that much noise come on now yeah.

00:50:18.764 --> 00:50:23.594
I gotta counsel the brother and let him know what's going on that's also part

00:50:23.594 --> 00:50:28.464
of one of my jobs I call the brother to my office I sit him down I read the

00:50:28.464 --> 00:50:31.032
letter to him and I know how to say look bro,

00:50:32.397 --> 00:50:36.624
there's something going on back in Portland back at home you need to call home

00:50:36.624 --> 00:50:40.204
and find out what's going on do you know he got mad at me,

00:50:40.804 --> 00:50:46.544
as the bearer of the bad news bad news he got mad at me i wasn't the one making

00:50:46.544 --> 00:50:50.776
the noise right right right right,

00:50:52.989 --> 00:50:56.029
But you But you were the lamp in the message Yeah.

00:50:58.505 --> 00:51:03.889
Shoot the barrel of bad news, man Shoot the message You can take it Nobody likes the barrel of bad news,

00:51:06.029 --> 00:51:09.189
So So when we say that That means nobody likes the truth,

00:51:11.327 --> 00:51:16.689
There you go I want to live in ignorance Ignorance is bliss Give me a lie any

00:51:16.689 --> 00:51:21.299
day, right? Give me a lie any day Especially if it makes me feel good That's

00:51:21.299 --> 00:51:23.617
right. Sugar. Make it sweet.

00:51:24.649 --> 00:51:26.869
Got diabetes. Last year.

00:51:29.009 --> 00:51:31.688
Now they're going to chop your feet off. Now they're going to chop your feet off.

00:51:32.279 --> 00:51:40.365
Man. But that goes back to, that's the leaving a father and correcting this lady about her son.

00:51:40.802 --> 00:51:46.608
This is where it all started at. She corrected this lady about her son and what she said about her son.

00:51:46.916 --> 00:51:50.933
And her wanting to enable him throughout the rest of his life.

00:51:51.444 --> 00:51:57.149
So because I told her the truth about this situation, she started on a campaign

00:51:57.149 --> 00:52:01.970
to damage my character. Smile in my face.

00:52:03.532 --> 00:52:06.319
Say hello. Talk to me.

00:52:07.543 --> 00:52:14.111
And that's premeditation. Yes, sir. That's premeditation. He's setting a trap.

00:52:14.731 --> 00:52:18.209
He's laying a trap. Laying a trap for you.

00:52:19.283 --> 00:52:22.374
Hey, the boys told you in the song, can't trust the big button to smile.

00:52:26.783 --> 00:52:31.091
It ain't going to be one of them traps. If you own the rules.

00:52:31.644 --> 00:52:39.246
Hey. She got a man at home. she didn't lay down all the stuff back and forth at home oh man,

00:52:40.941 --> 00:52:48.203
and see that's the other part of it you talk about and I'm not gossiping I'm just this is all,

00:52:48.783 --> 00:52:56.783
in just in conversation context is what I this is all in context but you said at a table,

00:52:57.483 --> 00:53:03.383
excuse me full of your co-workers and say my man ain't doing and A, B, and C.

00:53:04.019 --> 00:53:09.035
So I didn't put his name on the lease. So if he ever acts up, I can put him out.

00:53:10.805 --> 00:53:14.666
On this money to pay the business. I'm in control of my house.

00:53:14.904 --> 00:53:17.673
Right. That's not a real relationship. That's a convenience.

00:53:17.957 --> 00:53:22.426
Yeah, man. Folks, you had the old Terry Motives the whole time.

00:53:23.040 --> 00:53:28.565
You didn't even try to see if plan A can work. You already focused on playing.

00:53:28.565 --> 00:53:30.499
Billing out. Billing out.

00:53:32.471 --> 00:53:36.905
Got that golden parachute ready. See, I ain't married yet, but I think when

00:53:36.905 --> 00:53:40.845
we get to talking about a prenuptial agreement that'll let me know anything

00:53:40.845 --> 00:53:44.955
I need to know about you for real that I haven't found out already because if

00:53:44.955 --> 00:53:46.652
your face twitched or anything,

00:53:48.267 --> 00:53:51.936
I need a what they call it I need a polygraph I need a polygraph.

00:53:56.025 --> 00:54:02.865
I need a polygraph before I sign my name on that dotted line hey girl I got

00:54:02.865 --> 00:54:09.585
to know this is real I got to know it's to the great because I don't even want a divorce. Right.

00:54:10.423 --> 00:54:13.755
I don't want to think of that unless it's just absolutely the right thing to

00:54:13.755 --> 00:54:15.583
do. It doesn't got to that point.

00:54:15.957 --> 00:54:19.065
So are we better off separate than together?

00:54:20.880 --> 00:54:23.645
You shouldn't even be thinking like they're going into a marriage.

00:54:23.645 --> 00:54:27.285
You should be thinking about we finished. This thing is to the end.

00:54:28.985 --> 00:54:33.197
This lady's not trying to marry this man. This lady's not trying to marry this man.

00:54:33.905 --> 00:54:37.744
No. But It's just a matter of convenience.

00:54:38.332 --> 00:54:44.885
He's getting the milk and she's getting the steer. Yeah. You got to watch E-Women

00:54:44.885 --> 00:54:47.445
for real, man, because they be scandalous, man.

00:54:47.794 --> 00:54:53.680
The 2026, man, it's so bad out here, man. I almost wish I could.

00:54:54.345 --> 00:55:00.355
I was born way before the end when I was born because it was so many more values

00:55:00.355 --> 00:55:02.985
and tech back in the 90s, man. Yeah.

00:55:03.943 --> 00:55:08.419
And amongst the struggle of our people, there were so many values that were intact.

00:55:08.936 --> 00:55:12.163
Whereas now, you got your grandkids cussing.

00:55:14.363 --> 00:55:18.483
They know more about the iPad and iPhone than they do their own family. Yeah.

00:55:20.063 --> 00:55:22.543
They know more about the iPad and the iPhone than the book. Man,

00:55:23.063 --> 00:55:24.783
man. What you talking about?

00:55:25.503 --> 00:55:28.283
The book is on the iPad and the iPhone. That's a sad situation,

00:55:28.283 --> 00:55:33.263
right? The grandkids are cussing because the grandmama's 32. Yep, yep, yep.

00:55:35.226 --> 00:55:41.373
With the grandmama, the grandmama is trying to be like the young ones.

00:55:41.373 --> 00:55:45.483
You know, they dressing just like the young ones because they probably are young.

00:55:45.483 --> 00:55:47.963
But I mean, you know what?

00:55:48.783 --> 00:55:49.945
I saw that mess, man.

00:55:51.160 --> 00:55:56.470
And I hate to see that, like, it's like as soon as a young lady gets pregnant

00:55:56.470 --> 00:56:03.140
nowadays, like, they need jerk reactionists to panic and break up with the man.

00:56:03.140 --> 00:56:08.230
So the child support seems like more security than actually having the father

00:56:08.230 --> 00:56:09.381
of the child in the picture.

00:56:09.873 --> 00:56:15.020
It's like, I don't understand how you get pregnant and now everything goes left.

00:56:15.020 --> 00:56:21.263
This is when everything is supposed to be rejuvenated and stricken. Right.

00:56:22.546 --> 00:56:26.540
Well, all it is is when they shot. Oh, I'm saying what's going on?

00:56:26.540 --> 00:56:29.340
It's supposed to be a little tighter, but instead you're thinking of plan B.

00:56:30.301 --> 00:56:35.188
Yeah, yeah. Again, that's the trick of the enemy, and that's the society speaking.

00:56:35.420 --> 00:56:39.530
Yeah. You know, even looking at the pro athletes today, whether it's baseball,

00:56:39.530 --> 00:56:43.150
basketball, football, they want to interview. You know, you go through the draft,

00:56:43.150 --> 00:56:44.453
especially the NFL draft.

00:56:45.060 --> 00:56:48.740
Right. They'll interview mama. Daddy will be sitting right there.

00:56:48.740 --> 00:56:50.256
They won't ask daddy nothing.

00:56:50.923 --> 00:56:56.020
No, they won't. The NFL wants to perpetuate this idea that young,

00:56:56.020 --> 00:56:59.935
strong black men don't have fathers. A father has been in their life.

00:57:00.173 --> 00:57:04.660
And it's such an incredible NFL story that this boy grew up without a father

00:57:04.660 --> 00:57:09.100
and now he's the star wide receiver of the NFL franchise when his father's been

00:57:09.100 --> 00:57:10.140
there every step of the way.

00:57:10.500 --> 00:57:13.370
They don't want to tell that story. They don't want to talk about how the father

00:57:13.370 --> 00:57:17.150
coasting in pop warner coasting through middle school coaching in high school

00:57:17.150 --> 00:57:20.013
they don't want to hear that right yeah they don't want to hear it,

00:57:20.775 --> 00:57:27.280
they'd be amazed they'd be amazed when we still prevail to medical christy yeah

00:57:27.280 --> 00:57:32.330
you gotta watch this stuff man they gotta watch it tell you yeah man it's crazy

00:57:32.330 --> 00:57:35.292
man and when you elevate your mind man,

00:57:35.860 --> 00:57:38.660
like i remember i used to have hoop dreams but.

00:57:40.231 --> 00:57:46.651
Man, listen, man, it'll be a means to an end if I was to get drafted versus

00:57:46.651 --> 00:57:51.411
this is what my life is. I'm so glad and grateful that I'm able to entertain

00:57:51.411 --> 00:57:53.647
people on a daily basis by bouncing the ball.

00:57:54.599 --> 00:58:03.408
Or throwing the ball. Life is way more important and fast than a sport which is just entertainment.

00:58:03.760 --> 00:58:04.819
It's just entertainment.

00:58:05.519 --> 00:58:10.180
It's only for a season in your life because you can't do it for 40 years. So great.

00:58:10.476 --> 00:58:15.358
And then also with football, they talk about the damage that it does.

00:58:15.896 --> 00:58:17.284
There's some damage now.

00:58:18.688 --> 00:58:20.446
There's some damage.

00:58:21.959 --> 00:58:25.579
There's some damage. on the mad concussion. I don't never forget that movie.

00:58:25.579 --> 00:58:27.387
This is where that folk call Rick was in right here.

00:58:31.719 --> 00:58:36.312
If you want to be king, you got to be able to stand on it. You got to be able to stand back.

00:58:36.851 --> 00:58:40.899
Man, I just want to wake up in the morning and take care of my livestock, man.

00:58:42.660 --> 00:58:49.359
That's all I want to do, man. Make sure my plants are looking good for a good old harvest this year.

00:58:49.840 --> 00:58:54.708
I'm trying to be chewing a straw. you're right chewing something,

00:58:56.739 --> 00:59:00.219
I got news saying ain't chewing too many straws right now right now they're

00:59:00.219 --> 00:59:04.419
chewing their fingernails because these are a 6.50 gallon and they pop on a whole lot of beefs.

00:59:06.779 --> 00:59:12.378
We don't realize that everything can be done everything that is essential to our survival is free man,

00:59:13.539 --> 00:59:18.659
that's another thing about our people we don't know nothing about going outside

00:59:18.659 --> 00:59:22.219
and cutting the tree down there and building something, man.

00:59:22.336 --> 00:59:29.569
Planting the seed and watering that thing, man. It's so sad how slow niggas is, man.

00:59:29.569 --> 00:59:35.829
For real. I hate it, man, but it kills me for real, man, because like me and

00:59:35.829 --> 00:59:38.351
brother Joe was talking about earlier when we first got on the call.

00:59:38.816 --> 00:59:41.057
People are so much of consumers that.

00:59:41.978 --> 00:59:47.036
Lost when it comes to producing something. So you're a subject citizen now because

00:59:47.204 --> 00:59:51.618
you are dependent upon what I provide for you versus you being able to provide

00:59:51.618 --> 00:59:52.579
something for yourself.

00:59:52.935 --> 00:59:57.083
That's the plan, my brothers. That's what I'm going to say. Public service announcement.

00:59:57.431 --> 00:59:58.868
Anything you go through, any

00:59:58.868 --> 01:00:03.735
produce you go through and buy now that has seeds in it, save your seeds.

01:00:04.002 --> 01:00:09.648
Because the industry is trying to go everything seedless so they can control

01:00:09.648 --> 01:00:12.678
the food and control the people so,

01:00:13.278 --> 01:00:19.229
so so let's say this and the saddest part to it we fund everybody other,

01:00:19.778 --> 01:00:25.448
a nationality but ourselves man we we fund everybody and we have the means to

01:00:25.448 --> 01:00:29.718
do that but we funding we're too busy funding everybody else man,

01:00:30.276 --> 01:00:32.453
and then the ones that make it a little bit,

01:00:33.136 --> 01:00:37.339
be so be so broken inside that they don't even want to heal,

01:00:37.840 --> 01:00:42.188
that they make a million justifications and excuses as to why they not,

01:00:42.675 --> 01:00:46.458
building something because if you know i can respect you not doing it for people

01:00:46.458 --> 01:00:50.358
that you thought you wanted to do it with but as long as you still doing it for instance

01:00:50.738 --> 01:00:55.228
building a community center for everybody versus just trying to go to the hood

01:00:55.228 --> 01:00:58.104
and pick some niggas up and show them how to do what you just did,

01:00:58.628 --> 01:01:04.427
building a community center is contribution enough for a guy like me because you tried versus,

01:01:05.001 --> 01:01:06.447
you talking about trying.

01:01:07.426 --> 01:01:11.989
A lot of people get that money man that go buy a hundred chains christian dior

01:01:12.343 --> 01:01:15.193
uh chanel you don't even know these folks man,

01:01:16.089 --> 01:01:19.438
these folks is a billion dollar industry off of your dollar and you don't even

01:01:19.438 --> 01:01:22.527
know them they won't even let you dwell in the same room with them,

01:01:26.515 --> 01:01:28.842
but your whole outfit is chanel,

01:01:32.053 --> 01:01:36.643
come on now man miss me with that man i'm cool with a white tee i'm,

01:01:38.203 --> 01:01:42.942
cool with a white tee a pair of jeans something i can work in you're right,

01:01:44.243 --> 01:01:49.033
well i wish we could share i wish we could uh make a million of you and set

01:01:49.033 --> 01:01:51.222
you out on the street because unfortunately,

01:01:51.983 --> 01:01:55.343
you are the anomaly and uh yes,

01:01:55.943 --> 01:02:01.043
that that message definitely hasn't filtered down to the other younger brothers man man,

01:02:01.584 --> 01:02:06.373
i'm a i'm an exception to the rule out here man you're a true unicorn you know

01:02:06.373 --> 01:02:10.443
what they used to say i'm black man you a true unicorn what's the uh what's

01:02:10.443 --> 01:02:15.296
the saying uh back in the day where your backbone at man please,

01:02:16.063 --> 01:02:21.323
man people ain't got a spider they got a rubber band back here you mean a rubber,

01:02:21.943 --> 01:02:25.170
band they got they got a laugh at a laughy taffy back here you mean.

01:02:29.744 --> 01:02:34.383
In the boss's pocket that's where my backbone at boss's pocket because as long

01:02:34.383 --> 01:02:39.893
as he keep cutting each other i'm getting it kind of way hey where are you saying

01:02:39.893 --> 01:02:42.313
I was like, hey, dude, over here, just eat her.

01:02:44.003 --> 01:02:45.963
You're supposed to eat her whole shit. When I started,

01:02:48.200 --> 01:02:53.036
to drive a little bit, and when I started to get to the end of the field,

01:02:56.892 --> 01:02:58.893
I said, when the people had that

01:02:58.893 --> 01:03:03.829
mentality, it dropped me. When I was just acting, I thought about that.

01:03:04.344 --> 01:03:09.430
When I thought about it, why is this thing left with me? Amen.

01:03:10.613 --> 01:03:14.967
It's a sad story, man, because if the opportunity presented itself for real,

01:03:15.560 --> 01:03:19.948
you would see people's true colors where a lot of people would rather be subject,

01:03:20.891 --> 01:03:24.456
versus having their own will. And that's the cold, hard truth, man.

01:03:24.862 --> 01:03:27.978
Yeah. A lot of people would rather be subject, man.

01:03:29.528 --> 01:03:33.648
That's really disgusting to me. It's been hard.

01:03:34.664 --> 01:03:37.794
It's been a hard couple of years for me to realize.

01:03:39.935 --> 01:03:44.398
How dormant and how complacent people really are.

01:03:44.398 --> 01:03:53.788
I've always had an ambition to go public or the drive to do the best at whatever

01:03:53.788 --> 01:03:55.694
I'm doing. It didn't matter.

01:03:56.488 --> 01:04:00.618
I ain't got to be the best. Let's just do my best at what I'm doing.

01:04:00.618 --> 01:04:03.168
I ain't never going to tell you I'm the best at it, but hey,

01:04:03.168 --> 01:04:04.570
I'm pretty good at what I do.

01:04:05.163 --> 01:04:09.058
Well, personal integrity and leadership go hand in hand.

01:04:09.530 --> 01:04:14.788
You can't have one without the other. And, you know, not everybody is born leader.

01:04:15.328 --> 01:04:19.044
Very small percentage of our population are born leaders.

01:04:19.443 --> 01:04:25.716
Most leaders come up through ranks as supporting us and they learn the leadership

01:04:25.919 --> 01:04:28.067
abilities from people that they emulate,

01:04:28.635 --> 01:04:32.228
and then when it's time for them to step into that role they do so like you

01:04:32.228 --> 01:04:38.288
know when Moses went off the scenes they learn how to serve first before they become a great leader,

01:04:39.608 --> 01:04:46.098
you follow until it was your turn to lead exactly but some people don't know

01:04:46.098 --> 01:04:48.543
how to follow which takes them out of a leadership,

01:04:51.748 --> 01:04:56.308
and then some people get so good at following they become too complacent and

01:04:56.308 --> 01:05:04.428
they're afraid to leave nah nah yeah man and then some are the people that's

01:05:04.748 --> 01:05:06.248
so bad that they don't even know how.

01:05:09.755 --> 01:05:13.398
To follow they don't even know how to follow they're so used to chaos they don't

01:05:13.398 --> 01:05:18.048
even think they can't even keep cool what's going on Yeah, I'm not sure if you're good.

01:05:21.352 --> 01:05:25.622
To me don't want to too good to follow anybody every them wars will be looking

01:05:25.622 --> 01:05:28.772
for a Million dollars tomorrow.

01:05:36.130 --> 01:05:38.782
They just wanted to follow me now. They don't want to iron it.

01:05:38.782 --> 01:05:44.452
They just wanted to follow me now Ain't no way man. That ain't how life works

01:05:44.452 --> 01:05:49.782
my life so you mean so you want me to go work for this million dollars can't

01:05:49.782 --> 01:05:52.241
you just give it to how'd you just give it to,

01:05:56.012 --> 01:05:58.392
you already gas with me can't you just give me more.

01:06:04.234 --> 01:06:09.488
It'd be so crazy because uh what you're not ready for even if you get blessed

01:06:09.703 --> 01:06:12.512
You're going to destroy your flesh, man. You're going to destroy your flesh, man.

01:06:13.178 --> 01:06:16.092
I was locked up during COVID, man. I was locked up during COVID,

01:06:16.092 --> 01:06:20.586
man. And when them PPs and all of that stuff was going on. All of that stuff was going on.

01:06:20.968 --> 01:06:24.392
Man, do you know what $2,000 can do in my community?

01:06:25.272 --> 01:06:27.332
Let alone $25 for free.

01:06:28.612 --> 01:06:32.492
For free. Yeah. Man.

01:06:33.552 --> 01:06:36.672
Man. Them PPs lasted 90 days.

01:06:38.592 --> 01:06:39.192
90 days. yeah because they didn't do the right,

01:06:42.752 --> 01:06:42.752
they didn't do the right,

01:06:45.742 --> 01:06:51.187
you never saw yourself in that type of you never saw yourself in this you never saw yourself in this.

01:06:54.820 --> 01:06:58.590
Somebody's in a dandy code somebody's in a dandy code so you so you set the

01:06:58.590 --> 01:07:03.540
tone and you said the subject for the night and you told the story on how why

01:07:03.540 --> 01:07:05.355
you came up with the subject for the night,

01:07:06.705 --> 01:07:12.830
because i get my brain all i've been i've been i found out this information

01:07:12.830 --> 01:07:15.700
early this week and when i was told,

01:07:17.067 --> 01:07:22.941
i started praying i started praying and i came over and i talked to my wife for God.

01:07:23.208 --> 01:07:28.351
He said, this is what my wife says. He said, listen, that I need to learn from you.

01:07:28.997 --> 01:07:37.058
And God is working on me. He's about to elevate me in some form or fashion or put me in some position.

01:07:37.848 --> 01:07:43.170
Maybe not in the job, but put me in some position where I need to learn the

01:07:43.170 --> 01:07:44.900
lesson, the high school.

01:07:44.900 --> 01:07:53.788
I'm like, when you go through with this trust, this trust, Að ég fór að sjá.

01:07:56.089 --> 01:07:59.696
When you rise above, you still have to know how to speak to those beneath.

01:08:02.337 --> 01:08:04.711
Right. Or you'll grow into some type of tyrant, man.

01:08:08.249 --> 01:08:13.682
That I never want to be. Yeah, but when you the leader, you also got to listen to your followers, too.

01:08:14.237 --> 01:08:17.621
If you don't listen to your followers, who you need?

01:08:19.698 --> 01:08:24.551
You can never grow a big head, man. Every leader ought to have someone that they follow.

01:08:26.581 --> 01:08:29.669
Even if that's just God. There's no one else.

01:08:30.429 --> 01:08:34.459
The day that we live in right now, leaders think, well, if I listen to somebody

01:08:34.459 --> 01:08:37.131
beneath me, that diminishes my authority.

01:08:38.250 --> 01:08:41.679
That's what people think now. If I can't listen to my supporters,

01:08:41.679 --> 01:08:42.998
that diminishes my authority.

01:08:43.639 --> 01:08:47.699
Yeah, that's what this Instagram is doing. That's what the likes and all of

01:08:47.699 --> 01:08:51.325
these hearts and comments and stuff is doing to them now.

01:08:51.759 --> 01:08:55.440
Because you love a million views.

01:08:56.145 --> 01:08:58.868
But then you hate a thousand comments.

01:09:00.920 --> 01:09:06.000
On there and bash the people who are all in your comments with an opinion instead

01:09:06.000 --> 01:09:14.297
of taking it into consideration but that's badly society together that is just that is he the pity,

01:09:16.060 --> 01:09:20.160
like you said who consumes so another step up we,

01:09:21.300 --> 01:09:27.530
are continuously consuming so we have to consume and we're getting so big and

01:09:27.530 --> 01:09:32.069
talking about that i'm just saying we're doing so dude to right here,

01:09:32.906 --> 01:09:36.810
if you if you're doing something that's what i'm doing i'll keep speaking of

01:09:36.810 --> 01:09:41.639
just what i'm doing then what is it the chancellor now i gotta cancel you.

01:09:44.089 --> 01:09:46.894
You're making better than you you're.

01:09:54.943 --> 01:09:58.775
Or i even got to bring you back down to my level Yeah, man, it's a well-oiled machine out here, man.

01:09:59.568 --> 01:10:05.755
And we are the minority, gentlemen. Oh, yes. Okay. We are the minority.

01:10:06.576 --> 01:10:09.510
That's why this place is so important, man. The kickback is very important,

01:10:09.510 --> 01:10:14.270
man. If some of the people are talking about these conversations we was talking

01:10:14.270 --> 01:10:17.953
about, you can be on that council, coach. Ha, ha, ha.

01:10:19.536 --> 01:10:23.677
All right, what did you just say earlier about views and comments?

01:10:24.176 --> 01:10:28.766
Views and comments. Or likes and comments, whatever. Yeah, likes and comments

01:10:28.766 --> 01:10:33.386
are the new appraisal. But like they were saying, you don't want to listen to

01:10:33.386 --> 01:10:35.490
someone speaking up under you.

01:10:35.629 --> 01:10:41.171
So people are going to love when they get a million hearts on their posts.

01:10:41.775 --> 01:10:46.336
But those 50 comments that they got, they're not even going to consider them.

01:10:46.356 --> 01:10:49.096
And they're just going to go in there and read and then they're going to respond

01:10:49.096 --> 01:10:53.616
to the drama and the negativity instead of considering what people are saying

01:10:53.616 --> 01:10:58.226
in regard to what you just posted for public consumption. Right, right.

01:10:58.610 --> 01:11:03.096
But once again, people don't understand that you grow from criticism and you

01:11:03.096 --> 01:11:04.687
should be humbled by praise.

01:11:04.931 --> 01:11:13.006
Anybody that puts praise over criticism, like 47, is easily played and easily

01:11:13.006 --> 01:11:15.416
manipulated. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

01:11:15.956 --> 01:11:17.956
Flattery right flattery right.

01:11:20.068 --> 01:11:25.606
That's one of those war tactics man i flatter you man i can't i can guide you

01:11:25.606 --> 01:11:32.380
into anything i want to man and that's what that's what no backbone bro yeah no backbone,

01:11:32.971 --> 01:11:37.220
that's what you ain't got no backbone man any situation or circumstance that's

01:11:37.627 --> 01:11:41.666
that seems favorable to you you may be willing to compromise everything that

01:11:41.666 --> 01:11:45.475
you're supposed to be standing for In today's world, most people.

01:11:48.376 --> 01:11:53.443
Society is a well-oiled machine to where the majority of society wants to be,

01:11:54.070 --> 01:11:56.984
caught up to the next trend every time a trend comes about.

01:11:57.269 --> 01:12:02.952
Even if that is crop tops for men and spaghetti string white beaters,

01:12:03.796 --> 01:12:07.240
if somebody make it look good, now everybody's doing it.

01:12:08.455 --> 01:12:12.326
And I don't understand it. Hold on, hold on, hold on. Jamal,

01:12:12.326 --> 01:12:14.144
did you say crop tops for me?

01:12:15.176 --> 01:12:17.784
Yeah, man. They got crop tops out here for the guys now, man.

01:12:18.185 --> 01:12:23.386
No, sorry, though. No, sorry, though. Yes, they do, man. They cutting the bottom of the t-shirts, man.

01:12:25.316 --> 01:12:30.186
Them man and making them look like like they female shirts man but they making

01:12:30.186 --> 01:12:35.156
it to where it look a little masculine to where you can get don't you know who

01:12:35.156 --> 01:12:38.856
all in agreement that adornment and,

01:12:39.656 --> 01:12:44.488
and beautifying yourself is there's a difference between grooming,

01:12:45.361 --> 01:12:49.780
and and beautifying yourself yes there's a difference.

01:12:51.189 --> 01:12:54.629
Tell that to a young fashionista out here nowadays.

01:12:55.329 --> 01:12:59.569
You can't tell him he ain't dripping in the sauce, man. He dripping so much

01:12:59.569 --> 01:13:03.561
sauce, it might get on your shoes or something. You can't tell him nothing.

01:13:04.007 --> 01:13:08.709
He don't want to hear it. His fee costs $3,500. He don't want to hear it.

01:13:08.709 --> 01:13:13.849
You can't afford it, this, that, et cetera. He gonna justify an excuse a crop top, man.

01:13:14.844 --> 01:13:19.769
This crop house costs $900, boy. You can't. You ain't even get paid that this

01:13:19.769 --> 01:13:23.111
week, bud. You're going to be like, oh, man, there ain't no point.

01:13:23.319 --> 01:13:24.782
See that? That's what we talked about earlier.

01:13:24.997 --> 01:13:26.089
That's the conversation that

01:13:26.089 --> 01:13:29.461
is not even necessary to have because you see where somebody's mind is at.

01:13:30.082 --> 01:13:34.616
Brother, look, there's only two spirits in the world, the spirit of truth and the spirit of error.

01:13:34.813 --> 01:13:39.429
And there's a whole lot of error going on out here today. Yup. Yup.

01:13:40.389 --> 01:13:45.663
No sign. No sign. That criticism. That criticism. Don't nobody want to hear that.

01:13:46.046 --> 01:13:50.440
It's supposed to be a free world and everybody's pleasures and,

01:13:51.058 --> 01:13:56.259
desires are supposed to be respected and that's what man like it's it's just

01:13:56.259 --> 01:14:01.199
be crazy to me man because my eyes be wide open for real man and i just don't

01:14:01.199 --> 01:14:02.744
get some stuff man you know,

01:14:03.244 --> 01:14:09.239
like how can how can rights be asserted for a certain community of people when

01:14:09.239 --> 01:14:10.749
if you read religious texts,

01:14:11.387 --> 01:14:15.978
a whole nation or society was destroyed with the kids.

01:14:17.109 --> 01:14:18.875
As it was in the days of Noah.

01:14:19.445 --> 01:14:24.029
Poof it. I heard this the other day, and there's no disrespect to nobody.

01:14:24.029 --> 01:14:25.855
Today's credit. What you want to hide from?

01:14:26.150 --> 01:14:28.855
And I'm just going to be looking the way I feel.

01:14:29.342 --> 01:14:31.944
You want to hide the same fucking movie you should have been in the day.

01:14:32.617 --> 01:14:35.450
Oh, yeah, for sure. For sure, man.

01:14:36.249 --> 01:14:39.869
And I had my own taste of that, bro. When I gave my brother a book,

01:14:39.869 --> 01:14:43.641
and about 90 days later, that nigga said he ain't read a page, man.

01:14:45.121 --> 01:14:49.381
Yeah, boy, I better not ever give you a book again. No. I'm going to send you

01:14:49.381 --> 01:14:52.481
an audio book or something next time if you get lucky.

01:14:52.501 --> 01:14:55.270
If you want to hide something, that's where you put it.

01:14:59.237 --> 01:15:04.327
Had their book for 90 days and didn't read a page, y'all. No, that's too much worse.

01:15:04.722 --> 01:15:10.306
A book has the capabilities to literally change your whole trajectory, man.

01:15:11.103 --> 01:15:14.162
I can't tell you where I would be if I hadn't read some of the books I've read.

01:15:15.081 --> 01:15:18.320
Well, you wouldn't be where you're at, put it that way. Yeah, exactly.

01:15:19.324 --> 01:15:22.817
I would not be where I am today, man, had it not been for those books,

01:15:22.817 --> 01:15:27.132
man. That's how you elevate your mind, because if you don't elevate,

01:15:27.705 --> 01:15:28.993
you're going to stagnate.

01:15:30.057 --> 01:15:32.824
And then degenerate. Yup.

01:15:34.777 --> 01:15:37.516
But you can't tell these young folks that you understand that.

01:15:38.102 --> 01:15:42.497
You can't tell them that. It's just me. It's your community.

01:15:43.404 --> 01:15:47.747
You muffle the kid, Joe. I said, you can't tell these young people out here

01:15:47.747 --> 01:15:50.613
that. If you tell them that, you're being negative.

01:15:51.288 --> 01:15:55.637
So let's come up with some unique solutions right now. How do you get the ear

01:15:55.637 --> 01:16:00.140
of a person that is reluctant to listen? You can.

01:16:01.106 --> 01:16:02.348
There's got to be a way.

01:16:03.381 --> 01:16:10.067
No, sir. You was here for the conversation where I said people going to stand

01:16:10.067 --> 01:16:12.377
on that hill and they're going to die on the hill. Once they stand on it,

01:16:12.377 --> 01:16:15.427
oh, they're going to die on that. You're not going to change their mind.

01:16:16.357 --> 01:16:19.217
No. No, sir, you're not. Oh, yeah, yeah.

01:16:20.797 --> 01:16:24.277
They're going to die on that one. All the niggas ran out of the plantation,

01:16:24.277 --> 01:16:27.728
bro, like, no, master said I got to stay right here. That's it.

01:16:28.617 --> 01:16:32.517
That's it. I'm not going nowhere. Ain't no fences around it.

01:16:32.517 --> 01:16:35.971
Ain't no fence around here. Ain't nobody in sight.

01:16:36.575 --> 01:16:40.379
I ain't going to tell on y'all, but if he asks me, I got to tell the truth.

01:16:40.927 --> 01:16:43.483
That's it. That's a cold one there.

01:16:45.497 --> 01:16:50.157
Leave him. I ain't going to tell on y'all, but if he asks me where y'all went,

01:16:50.157 --> 01:16:52.637
I got to tell the truth. Why?

01:16:54.425 --> 01:16:57.997
What's wrong with y'all? Y'all went to the window tonight, man. laughing.

01:17:01.155 --> 01:17:08.658
Hey, you ain't got one fence. But yet, if you run, I can't run with you.

01:17:10.622 --> 01:17:17.456
Hey, what is this man, man? Thanks so much. I ain't going to tell on you.

01:17:17.874 --> 01:17:21.691
But if they ask, I'm telling you. I got to tell him the truth, man.

01:17:22.334 --> 01:17:24.220
I'm a good boy.

01:17:26.342 --> 01:17:31.305
I'm a good boy. You're a rabbit, man. Y'all, y'all, man, you don't understand

01:17:31.305 --> 01:17:37.613
how, how, like, I've seen that in my life, you know. I've seen these people.

01:17:38.152 --> 01:17:40.795
I mean, you're not- They went that way. You were right.

01:17:43.718 --> 01:17:47.455
It was probably you, y'all. You said, I've always had a critical battle.

01:17:47.855 --> 01:17:51.855
Ring, ring. I've always had a critical battle. They're like, oh.

01:17:53.030 --> 01:17:58.155
And I see these guys, they're just like, oh, I can go nowhere.

01:17:58.854 --> 01:18:04.740
Whatever they feed me i got three meals a day i got a roof over my head okay,

01:18:05.326 --> 01:18:07.995
i was about to eat this if you took any longer that's,

01:18:09.655 --> 01:18:17.855
what i know i know okay i know now they went they went that way they didn't

01:18:17.855 --> 01:18:20.242
even ask no question they just started pointing they went that way.

01:18:23.191 --> 01:18:28.895
Ain't asked one question you just looked at them they went that way about 10

01:18:28.895 --> 01:18:31.038
minutes ago. If you leave now, you can catch...

01:18:42.514 --> 01:18:44.152
Man, I was the opposite,

01:18:48.145 --> 01:18:52.371
man. If I was the one who did something and everybody was being quiet,

01:18:52.918 --> 01:18:53.778
thank you, have a good night.

01:18:54.376 --> 01:18:57.934
Everybody was being quiet to not be labeled a snitch.

01:18:58.376 --> 01:19:02.909
My heart wouldn't let everybody fall for something I done, man. Thank you.

01:19:04.009 --> 01:19:07.859
Couldn't do it. It's not a good feeling when you're watching people suffer because

01:19:07.859 --> 01:19:10.690
of something we did. Right. Okay. Well.

01:19:11.605 --> 01:19:16.249
And that's that accountability we be talking about. It is. That's the word you

01:19:16.249 --> 01:19:19.668
look at. That's that word right there. Accountability. Yes, sir.

01:19:21.049 --> 01:19:27.509
Could be that God's seed that's planted in you. Yes, sir. That seed from God makes you do right. Yes.

01:19:28.469 --> 01:19:33.399
That's a part of every one of my prayers is that I ask him to forgive me the

01:19:33.399 --> 01:19:37.639
things I've done that was displeasing in his sight and to please send the spirit

01:19:37.639 --> 01:19:39.629
of conviction to show me me,

01:19:40.109 --> 01:19:45.128
so that I can be better and not displease you again in that same fashion yes

01:19:45.418 --> 01:19:51.129
I've did something the last couple of weeks that nobody ever thought I would

01:19:51.129 --> 01:19:54.776
do and I did it because nobody thought I was going to do,

01:19:55.451 --> 01:20:00.194
it I done actually took off the last two Fridays and two Mondays,

01:20:01.734 --> 01:20:02.819
what See? You see what?

01:20:02.999 --> 01:20:06.140
You shocked about it. You got to say that again.

01:20:08.502 --> 01:20:13.843
You got to repeat that. I took off. I was off last Friday. I was off today.

01:20:14.104 --> 01:20:17.769
I was off last Monday. I'm going to be off this Monday. No, no,

01:20:17.769 --> 01:20:18.869
no. Hold up, bro. Hold up, bro.

01:20:21.009 --> 01:20:23.601
We need to find the people and bring the real Bubba back.

01:20:26.609 --> 01:20:28.181
Because you got to be a clone.

01:20:32.389 --> 01:20:38.069
Oh, they done got it, man. Not taking on Friday and Monday, two weeks in a row. Come on, man.

01:20:40.002 --> 01:20:44.679
Nobody saw it coming. They thought I was blowing smoke. Uh-uh,

01:20:44.679 --> 01:20:46.469
no, sir. I'm going to stand on this one right here.

01:20:46.769 --> 01:20:50.107
All right. Well, good. I'm proud of you. I am certainly proud of you, sir.

01:20:50.899 --> 01:20:55.449
Because the company turned this back on me, so I feel, hey, I might as well

01:20:55.449 --> 01:20:59.750
go ahead and use the time that you paid me not to use. Oh, yeah.

01:21:06.575 --> 01:21:10.170
So what was the subject for tonight? I'm sorry, I came on late,

01:21:10.170 --> 01:21:13.130
fellas. Heavy is the head that wears the crown.

01:21:14.481 --> 01:21:21.980
He said that, he was like, what do you do when you being better is causing people

01:21:21.980 --> 01:21:23.398
to bash you, essentially?

01:21:24.007 --> 01:21:28.090
Yes. From his experience that he had at work, because... When you being better

01:21:28.090 --> 01:21:30.920
is causing the haters, you get all the haters, all the haters.

01:21:30.920 --> 01:21:32.596
We're going to call it what it is. They hate us.

01:21:33.673 --> 01:21:39.246
Yeah. People start to hate you for being better, man. That's what I say, man. You know what?

01:21:39.566 --> 01:21:42.938
That's definitely my testimony. For my 30 years in the military,

01:21:43.200 --> 01:21:48.332
that was my testimony because people either hated there was no in-between.

01:21:48.464 --> 01:21:50.920
You was either on one end of the spectrum or the other.

01:21:51.380 --> 01:21:57.260
Either you loved me or you hated me because I stood on the UCMJ so tough.

01:21:57.777 --> 01:22:02.879
Between the UCMJ and the Word of God, That's what my two planks that I stood on.

01:22:03.268 --> 01:22:07.980
And if you violated either one of them, I was like the hatchet man. I didn't care.

01:22:10.518 --> 01:22:14.290
And that's what, hold on. This is what, this is what got me.

01:22:14.290 --> 01:22:19.430
This is what got me these last couple of weeks at work is you made this policy.

01:22:19.685 --> 01:22:24.183
And if I enforce, I enforce your rules on you. I'm wrong.

01:22:26.163 --> 01:22:29.941
What they say. Do, do as I say, not do as I do.

01:22:31.880 --> 01:22:36.728
I'd have heard that a million times in my younger time. That's like page three out of the deal.

01:22:37.557 --> 01:22:41.691
Man, you better not be like, mama, I saw you, bro.

01:22:42.623 --> 01:22:45.582
Do as I say. Not as I do.

01:22:47.724 --> 01:22:53.924
In the mouth for talking too much. Okay. When you walked in the room of adults,

01:22:53.924 --> 01:22:56.311
you didn't say nothing other than hello.

01:22:56.844 --> 01:23:01.094
That's all you did was speak and keep it moving. That's it. Keep it moving.

01:23:01.094 --> 01:23:02.987
You better not stop and have a seat.

01:23:03.744 --> 01:23:08.004
Ain't no dust settling on you. No. Not at all.

01:23:08.643 --> 01:23:11.921
Like you fit to get in the conversation or something. Like you sitting there

01:23:11.921 --> 01:23:15.627
to catch me up. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

01:23:16.073 --> 01:23:19.664
And I was smart enough to realize when i eased in the room and they didn't chase

01:23:19.664 --> 01:23:26.904
me out i i felt respected just for allowing to be in the room just a little bit just a little bit,

01:23:28.115 --> 01:23:32.444
until you got until you got that until you got that line go get you some business

01:23:32.444 --> 01:23:36.074
go find you some business yeah because the conversation was getting ready to

01:23:36.074 --> 01:23:42.163
change yeah you you need to go find you some business go for go you see any kids in here.

01:23:44.630 --> 01:23:51.191
But yeah it it stemmed from a situation and like like Bubba said the haters

01:23:51.191 --> 01:23:55.800
man and I feel like God has elevated me and put me in his place,

01:23:56.398 --> 01:24:00.731
for people to say that and you've heard it before Dave you think you better

01:24:00.731 --> 01:24:02.948
than me oh yeah all the time,

01:24:03.803 --> 01:24:08.261
you know I heard that but like I was saying you all light-skinned with curly

01:24:08.261 --> 01:24:11.936
hair you got that good you think you better than us right.

01:24:13.398 --> 01:24:17.541
But in my situation it had nothing to do with skin had to do something with

01:24:17.541 --> 01:24:22.874
drive determination and wanting better for myself yep,

01:24:23.776 --> 01:24:28.871
again that's integrity but that's doing too much i'm doing too much day i'm

01:24:28.871 --> 01:24:33.901
doing too much because your level of integrity shows their lack of integrity

01:24:33.901 --> 01:24:37.601
when people don't want to work as hard as you look Look, I'm the supervisor.

01:24:38.121 --> 01:24:42.851
If I come in 30 minutes early and stay an hour late, that's because I'm doing

01:24:42.851 --> 01:24:46.421
what I have to do. I'm not trying to be better than you, but I'm doing what

01:24:46.421 --> 01:24:50.622
I have to do to lead this team to make sure that we stay on top of our game.

01:24:50.854 --> 01:24:54.641
Now, if I got a subordinate that's going to come in and match my time coming

01:24:54.641 --> 01:24:58.615
in, I want to appreciate that because I see that they're catching a spirit.

01:24:59.321 --> 01:25:05.603
You know, you just show signs of leadership. You're going to appreciate that.

01:25:06.340 --> 01:25:10.641
Motherfucking leadership where we at right now don't appreciate it at,

01:25:11.549 --> 01:25:14.104
all I'll go ahead and break the store down for you because there you don't know

01:25:14.417 --> 01:25:19.221
so I had a family emergency last month I had to come up off my bus I missed

01:25:19.221 --> 01:25:25.111
the last two hours last two hours the first time that I've missed work in three years,

01:25:26.156 --> 01:25:29.151
in three years I've never missed an hour.

01:25:30.746 --> 01:25:36.490
Me, I was not, I was not getting my perfect attendance bonus.

01:25:36.937 --> 01:25:41.976
Man, you know what? That's your supervisor sucks because if they can't recognize

01:25:42.226 --> 01:25:44.704
how their bread is buttered, they stupid.

01:25:45.076 --> 01:25:48.681
They about, and that's how people, that's how people lose quality,

01:25:49.139 --> 01:25:51.264
uh, employees, quality workers.

01:25:51.560 --> 01:25:54.358
Because if I've got somebody that's coming in, busting their hump,

01:25:54.526 --> 01:25:55.833
doing what they have to do,

01:25:56.606 --> 01:25:59.786
and, and they have a family emergency come up, I'm like, nah,

01:26:00.126 --> 01:26:03.626
I'm take care of you you've been taking care of me by your by your labor

01:26:03.999 --> 01:26:09.166
coming in early or you know staying late or being on time you know having good

01:26:09.166 --> 01:26:14.152
customer service taking care of the children whatever whatever all of that is all on on the table,

01:26:15.033 --> 01:26:20.873
so if if they're not taking care of you like you said you got some sad supervisors

01:26:21.100 --> 01:26:24.403
that really don't know how to lead and don't know how to take care of people.

01:26:27.791 --> 01:26:32.293
That's it that's it I ain't going

01:26:32.293 --> 01:26:35.339
to disagree with you at all because nothing you said was wrong I mean.

01:26:37.348 --> 01:26:43.503
See they don't miss their water until the well run dry see now if you and the

01:26:43.503 --> 01:26:48.113
other good employees found another job and moved on they'd be sitting there

01:26:48.113 --> 01:26:52.213
with their face broken like pastors say looking cheap in the face oh yeah,

01:26:53.841 --> 01:26:55.443
and that's what happens a lot of time.

01:26:56.271 --> 01:26:59.918
There's no loyalty to jobs today.

01:27:00.289 --> 01:27:03.813
Back in the 40s, 50s, 60s, you got a job with this company?

01:27:04.173 --> 01:27:07.493
Man, shoot. That's where they started getting that gold watch because people

01:27:07.493 --> 01:27:11.719
are going to stay there 25, 30 years and get that gold watch for retirement. Not anymore.

01:27:12.281 --> 01:27:15.237
People jump from ship to ship. These days, I work here two years,

01:27:15.533 --> 01:27:19.093
go work somewhere else for three years, go back, get another job,

01:27:19.093 --> 01:27:22.873
work over here for another year and a half, or I'll go do DoorDash or whatever.

01:27:22.873 --> 01:27:25.263
There's too many options today. There's no loyalty.

01:27:25.577 --> 01:27:29.031
So when you have a good employee, you need to appreciate them.

01:27:29.658 --> 01:27:34.029
And you need to let them know that as a supervisor, you got their back.

01:27:35.747 --> 01:27:39.893
That very thing that you just said, because coming from where I came from and,

01:27:40.453 --> 01:27:43.120
being a supervisor, I said the very thing in the meeting.

01:27:43.432 --> 01:27:47.322
I said, so my loyalty and my dedication mean nothing. Exactly.

01:27:48.210 --> 01:27:52.129
Do you know they pulled out the policy on me and read me what the policy say.

01:27:59.412 --> 01:28:06.443
I laugh. I proceeded to say, well, that policy ain't got no humane ain't nothing

01:28:06.443 --> 01:28:08.104
inhuman in that policy at all.

01:28:09.513 --> 01:28:13.359
We are human beings and things happen out of our control.

01:28:14.000 --> 01:28:17.576
And it's not like you couldn't figure out whether or not I was telling the truth

01:28:17.872 --> 01:28:20.153
because it happen in one of your buildings.

01:28:21.798 --> 01:28:25.708
That accountability thing comes up. Integrity and accountability comes up.

01:28:25.853 --> 01:28:28.688
Because if you're not the supervisor in charge and something goes down in that

01:28:28.688 --> 01:28:31.808
building, the person in charge of that building is going to be questioning,

01:28:31.808 --> 01:28:33.569
why did this go down in your building?

01:28:34.588 --> 01:28:38.858
Right. And if you don't have the answers, or if the problem,

01:28:38.858 --> 01:28:42.468
if the supervisor knew the problem existed and didn't take care of it,

01:28:42.468 --> 01:28:47.208
now that's going to point the finger of responsibility on that individual.

01:28:47.208 --> 01:28:52.985
Because he didn't nip it in the bud, or she didn't nip it in the bud, She let it manifest.

01:28:54.783 --> 01:28:58.553
This is what I got in the conversation. This is what I got. This is what I got.

01:28:58.553 --> 01:29:02.623
I got, well, if we do it for you, then we, then somebody going to say,

01:29:02.623 --> 01:29:04.852
well, you did it here. You did it there.

01:29:05.340 --> 01:29:10.001
I say what, but then you wait, you weigh the situation and you wait, you weigh the person.

01:29:10.702 --> 01:29:16.090
Right. And is it the same exact circumstances? If the circumstances are the same.

01:29:16.987 --> 01:29:20.620
Are they the same exact circumstances? Does this person got much,

01:29:20.805 --> 01:29:23.210
as much loyalty and dedication as this person had?

01:29:23.442 --> 01:29:28.553
Have you been here like this person's been here right no exactly do you do you

01:29:28.553 --> 01:29:34.273
do you do you pick up and help out when when everybody around you need help.

01:29:35.623 --> 01:29:39.223
You know it's better than all of that though when you don't put no trust in

01:29:39.223 --> 01:29:42.890
nobody because you got your trust in your most high first and foremost,

01:29:43.531 --> 01:29:48.483
there you go that's true freedom right there amen ain't it dave what i'm talking

01:29:48.483 --> 01:29:52.453
about i just told the guys earlier like i'm working on building my relationship

01:29:52.453 --> 01:29:55.823
with him because he's your best friend if you let him be, man.

01:29:55.823 --> 01:30:01.673
When you put your trust and your hopes and your dreams and your desires into

01:30:01.673 --> 01:30:04.403
the source, it reciprocates.

01:30:05.483 --> 01:30:10.940
It comes back tenfold every time, man. As long as you put in your hopes of somebody,

01:30:11.406 --> 01:30:15.451
and broken when they let you down. Yeah, no, no, no.

01:30:16.183 --> 01:30:22.632
If you remain humble in yourself and you remain steadfast in your loyalty to your to your savior,

01:30:23.298 --> 01:30:26.063
you know he's going to lead you through whatever and like i said people are

01:30:26.063 --> 01:30:31.163
always going to talk they talked about jesus they crucified jesus so you can't

01:30:31.163 --> 01:30:32.677
you can't be in better company,

01:30:33.282 --> 01:30:38.293
that's how i took it i wore that as a badge of honor you talk about me 24 7

01:30:38.293 --> 01:30:42.656
you put me down 24 7 the more you talk about me the more my father's going to elevate me.

01:30:44.304 --> 01:30:47.794
Me down. You can talk about me if you want to, but you got to realize I got

01:30:47.794 --> 01:30:50.391
a daddy in heaven that sees everything you say.

01:30:50.849 --> 01:30:56.284
And it's amazing how many times people that meant bad for me had to come back

01:30:56.284 --> 01:31:01.693
and apologize or became my footstool ended up having to be subordinated under me.

01:31:02.472 --> 01:31:08.864
And they expected me to treat them bad, and I didn't. That's a word, right? That's a word.

01:31:10.338 --> 01:31:15.034
Every time you pull me, don't elevate me. Every time you pull me that and I

01:31:15.034 --> 01:31:18.292
didn't think about it like that. That's a word right there.

01:31:19.153 --> 01:31:25.114
Fellas. Grandma always said, if they're talking about you, if your name stays

01:31:25.114 --> 01:31:29.206
in somebody's mouth all the time, then you must be doing something right. Exactly.

01:31:29.595 --> 01:31:32.953
You live in rent-free in somebody's brain. Always.

01:31:33.922 --> 01:31:40.004
Fellas, we on the two-minute stretch. What y'all gotta say? Get up and out of

01:31:40.004 --> 01:31:42.227
here. I love living rent-free.

01:31:47.304 --> 01:31:47.744
I

01:31:50.145 --> 01:31:57.726
want to thank all of my haters because you just motivated me to keep doing what I do. Exactly.

01:31:58.161 --> 01:32:01.944
While you tear me down, my Lord is lifting me up.

01:32:03.024 --> 01:32:06.000
Amen. And it don't get no better than that.

01:32:06.354 --> 01:32:11.532
No, sir. That was good. I love it. I love it. Y'all just took us out of here, man.

01:32:11.904 --> 01:32:13.837
Don't do this again. Love y'all, brothers.

01:32:14.431 --> 01:32:16.074
Y'all enjoy y'all weekend.

01:32:16.727 --> 01:32:20.364
All right, everybody, stay safe, stay hydrated. Stay safe, stay hydrated.

01:32:21.069 --> 01:32:25.177
Hey, Joe, give me a call when you get set. All right. All right.

01:32:25.305 --> 01:32:26.831
Later, fellas. Y'all be blessed. Later.