Personal Audit: Men, Accountability, and the Daily Check-In

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And everybody, welcome to another episode of The Kickback. I am your host,

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The Dude. And as we do every Friday night, we have some great conversations with some great men.

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So I welcome you, employ you to come in and have some great conversation.

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And if you can't have a great conversation, listen to the conversation that

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we're having because it's all amazing and it's always a good time.

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So welcome to The Kickback. I am your host, The Dude.

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And as we do every Friday, we just have some great conversations.

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Welcome to The Kickback.

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The place for brothers.

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What's going on my brother how you doing broski man i'm doing all right how's

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your day going man it's all well man i'm doing this last one before i get on in the crib with it,

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okay you know they got they swear to god an arctic

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blast coming and you know everybody's out

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here losing their minds going bananas I mean straight bananas man I you know

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we have a you know just just in case we have a fireplace just in case the the

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power does go out we can't be,

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I stopped at Home Depot to try to get some wood, some firewood.

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And man, when I say all they had was the expensive stuff, but by the grace of

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God, I stopped by the, my brother was like, stop at the gas station.

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I bet you they got some wood.

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Driving down the street, looked over at the gas station. Man, they had plenty of wood.

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Gas station, keep that firewood off current. Right.

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So I pulled in. I said, let me get five of them bundles right there.

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And I picked up some firewood, but it is, man, my day or my week? Your week.

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My week has been up and down, man. It's been up and down.

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And, you know, just by the grace of God, I made it through what I do.

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You know, of course, you know, we drive school buses and we've got to drive her out.

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And so that has made kind of hectic for us during the week.

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So I'm covering like two routes so it's been up and down and it's just been,

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topsy-turvy but at the same hand it is what it is.

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It's a job and it's got to be done and then you know the evil forces always try to steal your joy,

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I don't know if you heard a few weeks back I was talking

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about how this man accused me of sleeping with his wife and the shit resurfaced

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again and it's like man either move on whatever you need to do but you still

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with this woman but you keep bringing it back up and i'm nowhere near you or her yeah.

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It's crazy. It is. Stuck on negativity.

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You know, they ain't, they don't know no other way out. All they know is stay focused on some BS.

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Forget trying to validate or confirm a claim or anything like that.

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All people know is negativity.

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Man, he's my lowest, but man, people love to be negative, man.

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And I'm zero tolerance when it comes to negativity, man. And if you don't have

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any positive energy about you, if you start off a conversation with someone,

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I'm not messing with you, man.

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And that's just the end of it, man. I don't want to hear it. Right.

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I don't want to hear it at all either. But, you know, it still comes. It still happens.

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You know, people want to feel like they, I guess negativity gives them some

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kind of driver motivation because they want to be mad all the time.

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And misery love company.

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Right. You know, they try to bring you in on it in one way or another.

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They try to expand their music, man.

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But when you got God with you and in you, man, your spirit is unbreakable, man.

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Every time, every time, man.

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And that's I think that's what some people don't understand is what you just said.

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As long as you have your higher power, whoever, whoever you call them,

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God, whatever, you know, long as you have that higher power in you and you're

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about him, nobody can break you.

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But people still try. Yeah, for sure.

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They try all the time. Yeah, the attempt won't stop. That's why you find yourself as important.

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Man, listen. I stay prayed up every day. Every day.

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I really just step away from myself out here for real to I'm focusing on self,

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man, and it ain't nothing wrong with it.

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And if somebody getting mad at me for it, hey, that's all the more reason to stay away from me.

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Right. But that's I was just going to say that's you're giving them more of

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a reason to be mad at you than if you were giving in to whatever it is that

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they want you to conform to.

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I figured it. I learned this. Great men are usually lonely.

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Yeah. Great men are usually lonely because they don't need a big circle of people

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around them to validate whatever it is that they have going on.

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They don't need a conglomerate of big people around them to,

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because they're nothing but yes men and followers and people that are trying to steal.

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You realize as a great man and as an in-depth individual, you are the minority and not the majority.

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So it causes you to be lonely because you want to hang with folks.

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But at the end of the day, like, you know that it's not a benefit with most

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circles that are available. So you tend to stay alone because there's not many

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like minded people around.

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And it's sad, but it's very true. It's very true.

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You got to guard there versus compromising because compromise can lead to complete annihilation.

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Right.

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And and also falling into whatever it is that they're they're into.

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And that's what a lot of people don't understand. Your core friend circle.

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And this is going to sound horrible, whatever.

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But your core friend circles talks a lot about who you are.

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Even in my case, even everyone, the people that you keep around you talk.

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It says a lot about who you are now at

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the same hand we don't always see

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what's going on in the background like you may have

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a friend they may be messing up doing whatever blah

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blah blah but you may be i mean i'm gonna

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use this word but preaching to

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them yeah if you can understand what i'm saying you're

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preaching to them but how long do you preach to

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them before you get tired exactly man i

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said that i got over there last year like i can

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only say the same thing there's so many ways and

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so many times before i get frustrated i can't if i can't get you to get it and

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i don't have to explain it in multiple ways then it's not meant for you to get

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not not right now no and it's like with the with the with the you are the company you keep,

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mold on fruit will expand if you don't get it away from the other fruit, man.

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Very true. Very true. You got to pee. You know, all faiths talk about seeing.

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Signs as you get sick. Right. See the signs you got to adhere to.

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I'm thinking we may have lost you for a minute. I don't know.

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You might be getting in the car or whatever.

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But tonight's show is, the topic of tonight is personal. Gets lonely? Yeah.

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I would rather be lonely and moving forward than guilty by association and stank.

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Amen. Amen. Amen. I'll take that any day.

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Amen, my brother. But I was saying, when you kind of faded out a little bit,

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tonight's topic is personal audit.

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It goes along with what you're talking about. And it's understanding the great

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load that we all carry as men and how we are dealing with the people around us,

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our jobs, our families, all of those stuff.

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Exactly what we're talking about. Great top. personal audit personal audit is

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something that needs to be done almost every day.

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Every other day or some sort because you will look up and you will be far from

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who you know yourself to be or who you want yourself to be if you're not careful,

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right you know what I mean like making sure that it all goes back with your goals,

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yes accountability,

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accountability it goes back to accountability and understanding that you have

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to be accountable for not only the moves you make, but the people around you make.

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Because like you just said, guilty by association will get you every time.

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What they say all the time, man, that's my dog, man. That's my brother, man.

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I can't justify and,

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a dumb decision every time. We lose the job.

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Right or wrong. That's my brother. Listen.

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No, sir. I don't want it.

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Right. You feel me? Nah. I don't want it. You talk about personal audit and

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the direction that you want to go in life. You feel me?

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Personal audit goes along with that.

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You have to make sure that you holding yourself accountable in order to reach

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these goals that you set for yourself.

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If you're not checking yourself, you will rank yourself.

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And everything and everybody around you. It's like, I can't understand how people...

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You're right, though. You're right, but I hate people that just feels like the

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world owes them something.

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The world, their mama, their dad and their brother, their sister,

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their best friend, their kids. The world owes them something.

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And they don't owe the world nothing. It's self-entitlement.

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Right. But in that, are we being accountable?

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Or let's go back to the other thing. Are we being a liability or asset?

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With a mentality like that, you're a liability.

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Because if you think somebody owe you something, unless you got some IRS documents

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to prove this, You are, you are so far gone.

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Man, it's like my wife was telling me today she was watching a show and a guy

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met a girl, moved into her house. He was he didn't want to work.

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He didn't want to do anything.

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So she decides, OK, I'm going to get rid of him. I'm going to turn all the lights.

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I'm going to turn the lights off. I'm going to do all this. I'm going to do all that.

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And I'm going to move out of my own house. Ah!

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And leave him there. So he takes her to court to try to take her house away from her.

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He didn't pay for it. He ain't paying. She's still paying the mortgage,

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but he wants her to sign the house over to him.

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You know, I think today's men are such a, are such a, like, I ain't gonna say

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disgrace, but disappointment to what it means to be a man.

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And, you know, these guys nowadays that are going up out here,

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man, prefer to persuade a female to let them live with them,

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lay up in their house, not pay no bills, just thinking sex is going to pay for everything.

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Right. I'm thinking sex is the answer to every problem that you face.

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And it's just, it's sad, man.

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But here's a real question. Here's a real question. And it's no disrespect to

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nobody, but it's just along the topics of what we're talking about.

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Here's a real question because we're all men here's a

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real question if and it's

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gonna sound real crazy and real weird but it's

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it's a real truth and i want and that's the question i've been asked by a woman

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before can you cut your penis off and take it to the light to the light company

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of course not can you cut your penis off and take it to the mortgage place nowhere,

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right so what what on god's green earth makes me and think that if they lay

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down and they put it down on a woman real good that is a supplemental enough

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of a payment to take care of everything.

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Monetary where do we get that mindset because we're all men where do we get

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that mindset that if i lay this pipe down on them then i ain't gonna have to

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do nothing but play my playstation five and and and do a little bit of nothing

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around here what how do we get to that,

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I don't get it. Community versus government.

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Our current firm, our government overreach has modified the family structure. Very true.

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But even with that being said, that the family structure has been modified,

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how do we get to a place as men where we feel like we need to be catered to

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and that we don't have to have a job?

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That's why I put in the comment what I did, because the government sees a way

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to control. Government is about control.

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Community is about growth, in my opinion.

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Government is about control. So they want to control resources.

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They want to control who gets what and when.

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Community is more of a holistic approach at living within a society.

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Take, for example, the Amish community.

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They are they have a value set

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that they rarely go outside of and

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as long as you stay within the societal norms the compounds of that right everybody

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pulls their share they do their part if there's a barn raising everybody's going

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to be involved in the barn raising while the men raise the barn for this new

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married couple the women are getting together having a quilting be putting quilts together.

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They all jump in and they do stuff together. They teach the young ones how to do it.

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The young ones learn OJT on the job while the things are being done.

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They instill a sense of quality in everything that they put their hands on,

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whether you're getting greens from them or whether you're buying a gazebo from them.

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You know those greens are going to be good, and you know that gazebo is going

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to stand the test of time.

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But when the government gets involved and we know that the government has always

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been made up of bad actors and our current form of government is a perfect example

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of the worst embodiment of bad actors solicited and collected by one very bad leader.

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And the only thing they're doing is enriching themselves and they're controlling

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the people through fear and hate and collecting resources for the 1%,

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which is going to lead to,

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violence at the bottom of the food chain.

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And as far as your question, as far as men laying in bed, you know,

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thinking they need to be kept, that's part of the government's overreach in

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dealing with certain segments of society.

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When you lock people out of the American dream, when a black man can't get a loan,

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when black families can't buy a house in certain areas because they're being redlined,

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when blacks and brown people can't get jobs that they're qualified for,

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or even jobs that they're overqualified for because of racial bigotry and ignorance,

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then once again, you set your country up for failure.

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And in the meantime these people black and brown they have to find a way to survive,

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and so you know they when you bring drugs from another country into this country

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and set it up in the communities where black and brown people live things are

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going to go sideways and that's what's happening you know what I'm saying I

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get it all over the internet.

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People are selling courses get rich quick schemes.

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Only to pull you in today, their forum, their quick PowerPoint meeting,

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whatever you want to call it, and then they be trying to sell you the actual courses.

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They done convinced you to pay for nothing but 10% of the process.

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To pay to get any more of the process, you got to pay some more money.

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People are gatekeeping the ways out of this systematic breakdown to where,

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like you said, people are higher up and really ain't trying to give you what you need.

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They're only giving you a spoon-feeding you to where, when the bottom.

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Realize what's going on is going to be anarchy and pure and pure chaos out here

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because people can only take bs for so long right now on the topic of the night

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like i said it is personal audit,

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with all of that being said do you think that

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these men are taking stock of

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because okay first of all let me go back i know

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everybody didn't have a father i get it everybody didn't

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have a father everybody didn't have a great male role model i get all of that

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but in my logical mind you still saw your neighbor's dad you saw your uncle

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you saw some other man that was actually doing man activities,

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like going to work, paying bills, doing all those things.

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I'm pretty sure you saw those things.

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How do you not mimic that? How do you not take a personal stock when you see

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yourself going down this path of not feeding yourself?

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And that's general, but going down a path of not feeding yourself and not taking

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advantage of the opportunities that are being placed in front of you.

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Instead, you say, and I get it what you said, Dave, about the systematic breakdown,

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but instead you say, I'm finna live off your quito.

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Yeah. Like you said, though, people are not personal auditing because if they

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would, that would lead to self-empowerment.

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If you personally audited yourself, you would come to realize that most of the

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things that you crave are attainable by yourself.

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You can go on the internet and look up some examples as to what you need to

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do. YouTube is there all day, every day. And then, like you said, neighbors.

00:20:53.073 --> 00:20:56.013
You can look at your neighbor's family, your homeboy's family.

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Well, who's actually personally auditing themselves?

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Who's holding... How many people

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out here are actually holding themselves accountable of doing their part?

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I think it comes down to who is your mentor. And if you don't have that uncle,

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if you don't have that father, who's mentoring these young men today? The Internet.

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Yeah. Streaming. Yeah. Right now.

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And when you when you whoever you're giving your time and attention to,

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that's where you're going to take your keys for maturity or immaturity from.

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So, yeah, if I'm listening to rap music and it's telling me that,

00:21:33.392 --> 00:21:38.132
you know, life is all about getting paid and getting laid and living off of

00:21:38.132 --> 00:21:40.052
a woman or however the case may be.

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And if that's what I feed my spirit, then guess where my guess where my butt's going to go?

00:21:46.292 --> 00:21:51.332
You know, you made me think about one of my students today on my bus and he

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gets on the bus and all he talks about is drill rappers.

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Little dark little this little

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that little somebody did you hear about the beef did

00:22:02.032 --> 00:22:05.432
you hear about this did you hear about that why is

00:22:05.432 --> 00:22:08.412
why rappers dying so fast wow my favorite

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rappers either dead or in jail i was

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like because that's what they glorify i said do you listen to anything else

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mr joe what kind of music you listen to i said i listen to rm i listen to literally

00:22:20.752 --> 00:22:25.512
i actually really actually listen to everything if I was to put on my playlist

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right now and let it play this whole entire time we was on this show you guys would be like what?

00:22:31.652 --> 00:22:37.492
Because it's going to literally play everything from country music to rap music

00:22:37.492 --> 00:22:43.932
to R&B to soul to maybe even some techno music,

00:22:44.432 --> 00:22:48.172
it's going to play a little bit of I mean rap, rock, everything it's going to

00:22:48.172 --> 00:22:51.592
play Tori Amos Yes, it's going to play some Torrey Amos too.

00:22:51.712 --> 00:22:52.852
It's going to play all of that.

00:22:53.112 --> 00:22:57.512
Elton John, Joe Diffie, ACDC.

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It's going to play a little bit of everything because I am a diverse person.

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I'm not one dimensional.

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I don't stay in that life. That's eclectic. You all over the place.

00:23:09.169 --> 00:23:10.229
Call it whatever you want to.

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Eclectic. Yes. I'm with me too. Yeah. You're going to hear all that.

00:23:14.689 --> 00:23:18.309
It's eclectic. But the fact of the matter is he's right.

00:23:18.849 --> 00:23:24.969
These children are listening to these artists or this music and that's all they

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know. They don't even know what it's doing to their subconscious.

00:23:27.989 --> 00:23:33.349
Nope. Exactly. And that's the thing. And Hollywood has a lot to do with it, too.

00:23:34.209 --> 00:23:38.089
Yeah. What you see in those eye gates and what you let in your ear gates,

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if that's what you focus on, that's where it's going to take you.

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They know that music is one of the lame. Music is considered black culture.

00:23:49.689 --> 00:23:53.289
But what was you going to say, Zane? Brush Hollywood off.

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Like Hollywood, California, brush all that shit off.

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I mean, entertainment, eh, I'll sit at home and watch this shit.

00:24:06.161 --> 00:24:08.081
But see, Zane, you're a grown man.

00:24:09.941 --> 00:24:15.001
You've grown up enough to where you can discern when something is good or bad

00:24:15.001 --> 00:24:17.941
for you and you can engage without moving with the bullshit.

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Are you sure about that? These people nowadays don't have the feel of the energy.

00:24:22.561 --> 00:24:26.081
They don't have the willpower to

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listen to a song that's talking about drilling

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and killing and step outside of it are you

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are you sure about that because of course and then i see it every day brother

00:24:36.921 --> 00:24:41.161
i'm out here in it i'm i'm i told you i'm gonna why in myself in in one aspect

00:24:41.161 --> 00:24:45.841
or dimension these little niggas turn excuse my language no but i guarantee

00:24:45.841 --> 00:24:49.301
you you hop in the I'm going to give you a prime example.

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No, give me a decent example. I'm finna give you a prime example.

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This is prime. The word prime. I'm finna give you a prime example.

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What's your boy name from Memphis? Poo Sicey? Just got out.

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First day out. First day out.

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And one of his lyrics, he said, teardrops are old. Go get your favorite bullet tatted on your face.

00:25:11.281 --> 00:25:14.881
That's crazy. You know now people are getting tattoos of bullets on their face

00:25:14.881 --> 00:25:18.461
because subconsciously, this is what's been pushed into their mind,

00:25:18.521 --> 00:25:20.461
and they idolized Poo Shiesty.

00:25:21.581 --> 00:25:24.881
They disregard the fact that he just did such and such years in the feds.

00:25:24.981 --> 00:25:29.421
They couldn't wait on him to get home so they could continue praising his music and his lifestyle.

00:25:30.863 --> 00:25:34.543
If you tell one of these young guys to go to church or go to a mentorship with

00:25:34.543 --> 00:25:38.363
you versus going to a pool shite or NBA Young Boy concert, did you see what

00:25:38.363 --> 00:25:40.123
they was doing at the NBA Young Boy concert?

00:25:40.523 --> 00:25:44.723
These little boys was crying, falling on their knees, praising this man like he God or something.

00:25:45.263 --> 00:25:49.543
And this is the music industry. The music industry is one of the main influences out here today, bro.

00:25:50.023 --> 00:25:54.723
So go back to Hollywood and it's all just fake.

00:25:55.743 --> 00:25:59.763
It's useless, has no meaning. It's all entertainment.

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It's to what's the purpose you about to hit on it explain what's the real purpose

00:26:07.043 --> 00:26:15.363
of Hollywood it's to put a perspective on what like what's to be controlled,

00:26:16.343 --> 00:26:20.683
when you think you don't have your own mind because,

00:26:21.963 --> 00:26:29.083
of Pooh Shiesty and Lil Durk and all these drill rappers and all these rappers

00:26:29.083 --> 00:26:31.243
from Memphis Gucci Mane,

00:26:31.423 --> 00:26:40.363
Yo Gotti like all of me it's a forced beef for absolutely no reason at all,

00:26:40.863 --> 00:26:43.003
aside an industrial.

00:26:44.303 --> 00:26:50.103
Complex of mind control systematic breakdown that's it,

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we agree brother we just said the same in two different ways I mean I love a

00:26:57.725 --> 00:27:03.625
good beat I love some good lul but I'm almost 40 fucking years old man that's,

00:27:04.365 --> 00:27:09.665
all this shit is relevant all this shit is relevant exactly,

00:27:10.565 --> 00:27:16.445
a 40 year old man almost 40 year old man it's easy for him to engage a cousin

00:27:16.445 --> 00:27:22.825
that's not good for him but make sure he's not letting the bad take over his mind.

00:27:24.085 --> 00:27:27.945
Like you said, it's the understanding. It's the understanding.

00:27:29.085 --> 00:27:38.265
And at 13, 14, 15, 16 years old, they don't have that level of understanding.

00:27:38.625 --> 00:27:43.005
Them kids on your school boys wake up in the morning and get ready to them boys.

00:27:43.585 --> 00:27:46.505
Go to school and go to class with that mentality.

00:27:47.645 --> 00:27:52.365
Right. And that's getting into your, and that's a perfect example of what you

00:27:52.365 --> 00:27:56.385
just said on life, not just the kids, but on life, check this out.

00:27:56.785 --> 00:28:01.445
So you wake up in the morning and that's the first thing that goes into your

00:28:01.445 --> 00:28:04.725
ear gates. That's the first thing you hear early in the morning.

00:28:05.125 --> 00:28:09.005
So then what does the rest of the, okay. The topic is personal audit.

00:28:09.125 --> 00:28:11.725
So let's, let's, let's just go with this. Okay.

00:28:12.865 --> 00:28:15.765
That's what you wake up in the morning listening to you

00:28:15.765 --> 00:28:22.625
wake up in the morning and you put on first day out by push ice that's what

00:28:22.625 --> 00:28:28.245
you put that's your that yeah that's your that's your get ready song that's

00:28:28.245 --> 00:28:33.945
your song you listen to as you brushing your teeth and you pulling out your outfit or whatever,

00:28:34.625 --> 00:28:38.625
what does the rest of your day look like because you just heard you,

00:28:39.067 --> 00:28:42.827
Tattooed tears are old. Go put your favorite bullet on your face.

00:28:43.127 --> 00:28:43.707
You ain't trying to do that.

00:28:44.227 --> 00:28:46.387
And you're a 15-year-old boy,

00:28:46.387 --> 00:28:50.147
and your mama said you can't get a tattoo because you're not old enough.

00:28:50.307 --> 00:28:55.647
But then you finna go to school and try to make it through the day at school.

00:28:56.827 --> 00:29:02.407
Where's your mindset? Man. A lot of learnings. Not with the teeth in.

00:29:02.667 --> 00:29:05.827
Not with the math. Not with the history.

00:29:06.267 --> 00:29:08.387
Not with the math. Not with nothing.

00:29:09.007 --> 00:29:14.007
The mama just told you no. So now you're thinking, what is it that I need to

00:29:14.007 --> 00:29:16.027
do in order to go get this tattoo on my face?

00:29:16.087 --> 00:29:18.387
Because my mama not going to let me get it. Drill.

00:29:18.847 --> 00:29:22.627
I don't have much of those six fours that was waiting outside like he said.

00:29:23.127 --> 00:29:27.167
So what is it that I need to do to get these fours? Because I'm 15.

00:29:28.147 --> 00:29:34.347
Forget about somebody taking life experience and years to accumulate these things.

00:29:34.907 --> 00:29:39.667
What could I do to be this type of famous tomorrow? Go ahead and hop up out that bunk bed. Right.

00:29:40.287 --> 00:29:42.707
Really. Go ahead and hop up out that bunk bed.

00:29:43.927 --> 00:29:48.647
Hop up out the bunk bed. It's bunk bed. Go ahead and hop up out that bunk bed.

00:29:51.587 --> 00:29:55.447
Hop up out the bunk bed. Thanks for listening.

00:29:56.227 --> 00:30:00.847
Go ahead and eat you a ramen noodle, that damn crushed up Cheeto pizza.

00:30:04.487 --> 00:30:10.367
Hop up out the bed. Turn my swag on. That's a totally different era, Joe.

00:30:11.241 --> 00:30:11.681
I know.

00:30:14.641 --> 00:30:18.841
They're not talking about hopping up out the bed and getting a swag on.

00:30:19.041 --> 00:30:25.361
They're talking about hopping about the bed out of a fucking bunk bed and going

00:30:25.361 --> 00:30:27.961
right back to being real. Man.

00:30:29.201 --> 00:30:33.281
Man, going right back to jail. That's what I'm saying. It's terrible.

00:30:35.521 --> 00:30:39.021
And what we're talking about is control. That's control.

00:30:39.381 --> 00:30:43.041
Now that you're in the system, guess what it

00:30:43.041 --> 00:30:47.301
sounds good though not gonna lie no they glorify

00:30:47.301 --> 00:30:50.261
sounds good they glorify it to make it

00:30:50.261 --> 00:30:53.401
sound good but it's not good and it's it does

00:30:53.401 --> 00:30:58.841
not build a sense of community that that elevates people and and improves anybody's

00:30:58.841 --> 00:31:05.861
needs man it's a community void of substance that is true that what music about

00:31:05.861 --> 00:31:11.521
hopping up out the bunk bed sounds so good and seeing six horns man.

00:31:17.001 --> 00:31:23.361
He said hopping out the bunk bed and seeing six horns who's doing that that's

00:31:23.361 --> 00:31:26.381
what he said in the song that's what he said in the song man.

00:31:27.681 --> 00:31:31.981
I guess I'm behind the times because I ain't heard the song yet I guess I'm

00:31:31.981 --> 00:31:35.461
gonna have to listen to it And I barely done heard the song one full time completed

00:31:35.461 --> 00:31:37.541
because it's just so goofy.

00:31:37.921 --> 00:31:43.301
This dude has been pushing murder and whatnot since he's been in the ref game.

00:31:43.821 --> 00:31:49.241
But, shit, he locked up for four years, right? And he said he ain't done shit.

00:31:49.461 --> 00:31:51.541
He ain't put a call out. Three.

00:31:52.341 --> 00:31:57.061
Man, these kids, these are they idols.

00:31:58.341 --> 00:32:01.241
Right. But the fact of the man is...

00:32:01.825 --> 00:32:07.465
Disregard what they actually go through in life. His rap music make himself

00:32:07.465 --> 00:32:11.645
so cool that I'm about to be trying to be just like him.

00:32:11.885 --> 00:32:17.925
It's just terrible, man. So like you said, personal audit is what needs to happen.

00:32:19.105 --> 00:32:20.585
Most things that are good for

00:32:20.585 --> 00:32:25.645
us, in my opinion, are better the sooner the better. You know what I mean?

00:32:26.285 --> 00:32:31.025
We need to pull the scales off of people's eyes and make them realize that what

00:32:31.025 --> 00:32:34.925
they're seeing and what they're listening to is not the truth and it's not real.

00:32:35.085 --> 00:32:38.605
Because the last time I hopped up out of the bunk bed, I was at boot camp and

00:32:38.605 --> 00:32:40.285
I was about making myself better.

00:32:40.805 --> 00:32:45.525
I was in an organization that was going to give me discipline and guidance and

00:32:45.525 --> 00:32:51.425
direction and skills that I can use to become a vibrant member of society.

00:32:52.385 --> 00:32:58.365
It's not Otis Redding anymore sitting on the dock of the bay. It's Pooh Shiesty.

00:33:02.045 --> 00:33:09.785
Popping out of jail with a fucking AK-47 bullet tattooed on his face ready to do a drill again.

00:33:10.585 --> 00:33:13.805
Man, he pull out a whole bunch of money at the bank, make the video,

00:33:14.045 --> 00:33:16.665
go put all the money back in the bank because it's not his.

00:33:17.325 --> 00:33:21.105
Man, three million can't fit my hand either. Motherfucker. Man, bro.

00:33:22.089 --> 00:33:25.529
Personal and personal honor because but go

00:33:25.529 --> 00:33:29.169
sit on a dog don't go

00:33:29.169 --> 00:33:32.369
sit in a boat put in by your buckle right

00:33:32.369 --> 00:33:35.289
and and see you see the

00:33:35.289 --> 00:33:40.349
way the way society has things hemmed up now kids don't have the luxury and

00:33:40.349 --> 00:33:44.769
the freedom to be able to have that that time and space to sit and do personal

00:33:44.769 --> 00:33:49.709
reflection because they're too busy on tiktok they're too busy on instagram

00:33:49.709 --> 00:33:52.629
They're too busy trying to go internet famous.

00:33:52.889 --> 00:33:57.389
They're too busy listening to music or watching something streamed.

00:33:57.569 --> 00:34:01.689
They don't have that time and space to focus and to reflect.

00:34:01.989 --> 00:34:04.949
That tells me they have all the time in the fucking world.

00:34:05.389 --> 00:34:08.289
And what their time on isn't worth.

00:34:08.769 --> 00:34:12.609
Their world is worth. And guess what's the five-prunk of it, Dave?

00:34:13.389 --> 00:34:18.429
When that's what's pumped into their head, by contrast, somebody who's actually

00:34:18.429 --> 00:34:22.249
trying to help them It's looked down upon somebody who's like,

00:34:22.269 --> 00:34:26.489
of course, you jumped out of the bunk bed in a place where you was bettering yourself.

00:34:27.149 --> 00:34:30.509
They don't they not going to want to hear your story because we're being pumped

00:34:30.509 --> 00:34:34.869
in their ears. It's too shy to hop in out the bunk bed to six floors. Right.

00:34:35.669 --> 00:34:40.269
And why do you think the government allows that that form to continue?

00:34:41.129 --> 00:34:45.009
Self annihilation. If they go to their self, we ain't got to do it.

00:34:45.009 --> 00:34:48.629
Exactly and if they don't annihilate themselves they'll do something that we

00:34:48.629 --> 00:34:53.769
can lock them up for and then make money on it because the penal system is publicly

00:34:53.769 --> 00:34:59.709
traded on the New York Stock Exchange you can do better doing some bad shit,

00:35:00.538 --> 00:35:04.018
man. You know me, Dave. I'm zero tolerance around here, man.

00:35:04.118 --> 00:35:08.238
If you ain't on that, you ain't on positive prosperity and progress,

00:35:08.278 --> 00:35:12.118
I don't even want to rap with you. I beat him up.

00:35:14.018 --> 00:35:20.118
Not beat him up. Listen, man. Negativity, man, is something that I don't do.

00:35:20.298 --> 00:35:22.338
I'm going to tell you how bad it is.

00:35:22.598 --> 00:35:26.018
I had one situation with my brother and my homeboy who like my brother.

00:35:26.178 --> 00:35:27.338
Blood can make us no closer.

00:35:28.337 --> 00:35:34.537
Kim and my brother are always arguing about irrelevant, insignificant things.

00:35:35.337 --> 00:35:38.977
So I told them one night, oh, I was trying to tell them one night,

00:35:39.077 --> 00:35:40.857
listen, y'all always are.

00:35:41.097 --> 00:35:43.957
Y'all love each other. Y'all always are. Okay, cool.

00:35:44.577 --> 00:35:48.257
At least give each other the chance to have the floor.

00:35:48.577 --> 00:35:52.177
When one person speaks, let him have the floor. And after he's done speaking,

00:35:52.617 --> 00:35:55.477
give him three to five seconds to process what he's saying to you before you

00:35:55.477 --> 00:35:59.057
be responding. because if you don't, then that means you just reacting like

00:35:59.057 --> 00:36:01.737
you already know what somebody's saying versus actually listening to them.

00:36:01.917 --> 00:36:04.457
It took me two hours to explain that to them.

00:36:04.717 --> 00:36:08.397
My homeboy got diabetes in some moment. I told him F his diabetes and everything.

00:36:08.597 --> 00:36:10.617
Get up out of my driveway, bro. Go home.

00:36:10.977 --> 00:36:14.257
Go get your medicine at your house. Stefan, you can walk home for all I can

00:36:14.257 --> 00:36:15.697
because all niggas don't even know how to list.

00:36:16.157 --> 00:36:21.117
I shot off on them, man, just because the conditions are so bad, bro.

00:36:21.257 --> 00:36:27.597
If you don't have somebody's drug, somebody's intoxicant, ready for them to

00:36:27.597 --> 00:36:31.037
do while you talk to them, it's like the results, man.

00:36:31.097 --> 00:36:38.137
If you don't have the results or the drug that's going to entice them,

00:36:39.017 --> 00:36:42.577
it's like a slam the nun out here, bud.

00:36:44.297 --> 00:36:48.117
Sounds like you have a Republican and a Democrat trying to have a conversation

00:36:48.117 --> 00:36:49.337
because they don't do that.

00:36:49.457 --> 00:36:52.477
They just talk at each other and nothing gets done.

00:36:53.037 --> 00:36:54.977
Hey, it's like you better off just

00:36:54.977 --> 00:36:58.817
doing things yourself and providing the example. You know what I mean?

00:36:59.337 --> 00:37:03.557
Just being a good example. That way, if somebody is, at least they taking something good.

00:37:04.037 --> 00:37:09.737
Well, that's all we can do. Go through some bullshit and try and help somebody.

00:37:13.079 --> 00:37:16.479
They're not going to understand your bullshit until

00:37:16.479 --> 00:37:19.319
they go through the same bullshit that you tried to

00:37:19.319 --> 00:37:24.319
preach to them yeah and then when you try to preach to them and then they go

00:37:24.319 --> 00:37:29.179
to it and then they're in it then they're going to come to you and you're just

00:37:29.179 --> 00:37:37.839
going to sit there kind of almost lackadaisical like hey i kind of told you so what what do you do,

00:37:38.779 --> 00:37:45.239
do you sit back and tell them hey I told you so or do you what's the word for

00:37:45.239 --> 00:37:50.879
it or do you like connect with them and not tell them that you told them so

00:37:50.879 --> 00:37:53.239
but you sit and understand,

00:37:53.919 --> 00:37:55.339
and make them understand,

00:37:56.259 --> 00:38:03.319
I think I go wrong I personally say that I got tough love when I see somebody

00:38:03.319 --> 00:38:05.219
feeling something that I try to tell them about,

00:38:06.228 --> 00:38:09.768
try to take that as an opportunity just to reiterate, so to speak.

00:38:10.528 --> 00:38:15.548
Not really like console them because I'm not finna baby you because at the end

00:38:15.548 --> 00:38:18.948
of the day, you chose to disregard what I tried to advise you on.

00:38:19.548 --> 00:38:23.788
So now that you done went through it and seen it for yourself, I try to reiterate.

00:38:24.208 --> 00:38:27.408
But after that, I can't do nothing but back up and continue to lead by an example

00:38:27.408 --> 00:38:30.808
for myself because at the end of the day, we can't make decisions for people.

00:38:30.908 --> 00:38:37.468
We can only advise them and people only take advice when they willing so why would you reiterate.

00:38:41.508 --> 00:38:48.888
Because now that they are in a state of damage and pain from not listening hopefully

00:38:48.888 --> 00:38:54.628
they are listening now and i'll never really know but hey i would rather the

00:38:54.628 --> 00:38:59.488
best thing i could do is try to reiterate in a more soothing way.

00:38:59.588 --> 00:39:04.148
I guess it's at a time where you're vulnerable and you're weak because you got

00:39:04.148 --> 00:39:06.128
the cartoon not on your head, so to speak.

00:39:06.848 --> 00:39:13.988
But does that not affect you having to be like having to reiterate and repeat yourself?

00:39:14.428 --> 00:39:21.288
I ain't tripping because I do it out. My advice and my attention towards people

00:39:21.288 --> 00:39:23.128
is it comes from a place of love.

00:39:23.308 --> 00:39:28.968
So I don't mind having to reiterate something towards somebody I care about. But at the end of the day,

00:39:29.993 --> 00:39:32.453
I reiterate it, then I move on. Because at the end of the day,

00:39:32.593 --> 00:39:34.373
I can't make the decision for you.

00:39:34.533 --> 00:39:41.933
So hopefully you're taking heed because... A caring heart will take in the knowledge

00:39:41.933 --> 00:39:46.473
that's coming from somebody that actually gives a fuck.

00:39:49.173 --> 00:39:51.813
At the end of the day, I'm going to make you out to do me at the end of the

00:39:51.813 --> 00:39:54.193
day. I can't tell you what to do.

00:39:54.973 --> 00:39:59.273
But if you care so much, it can't affect you.

00:40:00.093 --> 00:40:04.533
Yeah, if you let it. If you, yeah, I mean, exactly.

00:40:04.613 --> 00:40:10.393
If you let it, but you can only be so repetitive so many times until it starts affecting you.

00:40:10.693 --> 00:40:13.733
Exactly. I think we might have said that before you even got on here.

00:40:13.873 --> 00:40:17.733
Like, you can only say things to people so many times in so many ways before

00:40:17.733 --> 00:40:21.893
it starts to frustrate you for having to say the same thing over and over.

00:40:22.133 --> 00:40:24.333
And that's the let go stage, right?

00:40:24.593 --> 00:40:28.373
Yeah, that's where I'm going to let go and let God because it's clearly you're

00:40:28.373 --> 00:40:29.353
not getting it through me.

00:40:29.993 --> 00:40:33.253
There we go. Yeah, for sure. For sure there, bro.

00:40:34.033 --> 00:40:36.973
Because at the end of the day, you can't make people listen.

00:40:37.093 --> 00:40:40.933
That's why it's good to give advice once somebody asks for it versus you knowing

00:40:40.933 --> 00:40:44.633
something and you hearing a conversation being spoken on and you well-versed

00:40:44.633 --> 00:40:46.733
in it and just throwing your opinion in there.

00:40:47.033 --> 00:40:50.053
Because it would be received wrong if didn't nobody ask for it.

00:40:50.713 --> 00:40:54.133
If you don't hear me the first three times, you ain't listening.

00:40:55.073 --> 00:41:01.553
Yeah, but man, people continue asking for it. You give it to them and still won't receive it.

00:41:02.093 --> 00:41:07.673
They still won't. And, yeah, it's frustrating because they coming to you and

00:41:07.673 --> 00:41:13.453
asking you and you give it to them straight out, even from their own experiences.

00:41:13.853 --> 00:41:15.453
And they still won't take it in.

00:41:18.893 --> 00:41:24.233
It's like we were saying last week or a couple weeks ago, a hard head make a soft butt.

00:41:25.862 --> 00:41:28.862
You can lead up through the knowledge, but you can't make them think like they said.

00:41:29.742 --> 00:41:32.562
Man, I love that. You can't make them think. I love that right there.

00:41:32.682 --> 00:41:34.222
You can't make them listen. I love that.

00:41:34.382 --> 00:41:38.762
All you can do at the end of the day is just try to vibrate at a high frequency

00:41:38.762 --> 00:41:44.782
and have good energy so that when somebody does notice, they taking something

00:41:44.782 --> 00:41:48.742
good from you versus you having the worst of you on display.

00:41:50.062 --> 00:41:53.702
Right. But that's why you should always take a personal audit every day.

00:41:54.522 --> 00:41:57.342
Because you don't want to wake up with the worst of you. the wrong attitude then somebody calls

00:41:57.342 --> 00:42:00.722
it because here's the thing you can

00:42:00.722 --> 00:42:04.662
even if you wake up with a bad attitude still i

00:42:04.662 --> 00:42:07.522
think personal audit is something that not just

00:42:07.522 --> 00:42:10.442
happens every morning but it's something that

00:42:10.442 --> 00:42:14.242
it may be you may need to check yourself every hour every

00:42:14.242 --> 00:42:17.042
few hours and to make sure that you are

00:42:17.042 --> 00:42:20.362
on the right path and to make sure that you are doing

00:42:20.362 --> 00:42:24.002
what you're supposed to do because your rep your representative that

00:42:24.002 --> 00:42:27.502
you send out to this world somebody i guarantee

00:42:27.502 --> 00:42:30.922
somebody is watching so somebody's waiting

00:42:30.922 --> 00:42:36.062
for your your downfall and somebody's waiting for your come up and either way

00:42:36.062 --> 00:42:41.462
can be bad so you have to take a personal audit of what you have going on in

00:42:41.462 --> 00:42:49.082
this world because you never know where the next opportunity may present you so you can.

00:42:50.942 --> 00:42:57.882
Prosper or the opportunity for you to have a fall So you have to make sure you take it. Okay.

00:42:58.042 --> 00:43:00.322
Wait a minute. Wait a minute. Wait a minute. Wait a minute. What am I doing right now?

00:43:00.962 --> 00:43:07.562
Okay. Okay. I'm good And then the next hour you may go on and you're like, okay, wait,

00:43:08.677 --> 00:43:13.597
Damn, I shouldn't have did that. And then you got to check yourself in and make

00:43:13.597 --> 00:43:21.317
sure that your representative that you are showing this world is who you want this world to see.

00:43:21.477 --> 00:43:25.777
Because you can think about it. If you're if you're out, like,

00:43:25.877 --> 00:43:31.097
let's say it's your off day and you and your spouse are out running errands

00:43:31.097 --> 00:43:36.297
and you go to this store to that store to this building to that building.

00:43:37.197 --> 00:43:40.157
You all could have a conversation inside the car

00:43:40.157 --> 00:43:44.277
on your way somewhere and it could get a little bit elevated so

00:43:44.277 --> 00:43:49.437
now your representative is aggravated at the conversation you all just had now

00:43:49.437 --> 00:43:53.977
you're about to get out the car and go into a building so at that moment you

00:43:53.977 --> 00:43:58.737
have to take some self-reflection and audit who you are okay wait a minute we

00:43:58.737 --> 00:44:02.677
just had this hard and most people don't because I ain't going to sit here and tell you I do.

00:44:03.857 --> 00:44:07.737
But it's just giving you something to think about a personal audit.

00:44:07.937 --> 00:44:11.897
Think about where your finances are. Think about where your relationships are.

00:44:12.597 --> 00:44:16.497
Relationships, all of them, brother, family, mother, whoever,

00:44:17.037 --> 00:44:18.657
spouse, work relationship.

00:44:19.217 --> 00:44:24.517
Think about all those things and take audit of those things to make sure that

00:44:24.517 --> 00:44:29.797
They're not a source of stress, of anguish or whatever, because if they are,

00:44:29.957 --> 00:44:32.437
maybe it's time for you to get get away from them.

00:44:33.685 --> 00:44:40.005
Well, you know, Joe, in order to do that, you have to have some sense of discipline

00:44:40.005 --> 00:44:44.125
about yourself and about, you know, what you're what you're doing.

00:44:44.565 --> 00:44:50.225
And when you don't have discipline, I find it hard to believe that that person

00:44:50.225 --> 00:44:53.285
would actually do an audit. Very true.

00:44:54.385 --> 00:45:00.505
But I feel like to some degree, all of us and I'm not just talking about the people in this room.

00:45:00.505 --> 00:45:08.205
So humans, we all have some some sort of discipline. We all have some sort of

00:45:08.205 --> 00:45:13.005
discipline, whether we want to ignore it or we want to focus on it.

00:45:13.425 --> 00:45:19.945
There was discipline taught at some some spot in your life that discipline was taught.

00:45:20.345 --> 00:45:28.325
Now, I know a lot of people who choose to ignore what they were taught because I've realized.

00:45:28.325 --> 00:45:31.265
And and maul this ain't no knock

00:45:31.265 --> 00:45:34.225
against you but you just in that age range

00:45:34.225 --> 00:45:44.865
that 20 to 35 crowd they have this disease called i'm grown but then they want

00:45:44.865 --> 00:45:50.405
their parents to hold their hand through some shit but wait a minute you're

00:45:50.405 --> 00:45:54.085
grown but when i tell you about something,

00:45:54.665 --> 00:45:58.165
an experience, because I've experienced this from some people in that age range.

00:45:58.265 --> 00:46:03.305
When I tell you about my life experiences, oh, the world ain't like it no more.

00:46:04.653 --> 00:46:09.873
Then six months later, the same shit happens. Hey, where I come from, grown means gone.

00:46:10.853 --> 00:46:14.093
I mean, even with that, grown means gone. You're right.

00:46:14.373 --> 00:46:18.653
But I'm even talking about kids that move out, that are on their own.

00:46:18.853 --> 00:46:22.673
Grown-ups, adults, quote-unquote, because I'm doing quotation marks,

00:46:22.913 --> 00:46:28.933
adults out here in this world, coworkers, people at stores and restaurants.

00:46:28.933 --> 00:46:31.913
You just explain what happens

00:46:31.913 --> 00:46:34.793
in my job almost every week that i go to work

00:46:34.793 --> 00:46:37.513
when you're grown enough to go out there and

00:46:37.513 --> 00:46:40.473
get the charge but you come to the

00:46:40.473 --> 00:46:45.193
to the booking with your grandmama or your mama holding your head and doing

00:46:45.193 --> 00:46:50.993
the talking for you that burns me up more than anything when i see that and

00:46:50.993 --> 00:46:55.813
that's in there you went out here and stole somebody's car yeah but now grandma

00:46:55.813 --> 00:46:59.013
in here defending you. Yeah, talking for you and everything.

00:46:59.393 --> 00:47:01.213
You can't even talk for each other when you come in.

00:47:03.593 --> 00:47:08.833
Well, you can't stop enablers and that's a big problem when you got females

00:47:08.833 --> 00:47:13.453
who are matriarchs because there are no patriarchs.

00:47:13.533 --> 00:47:18.633
When you got matriarchs leading the family and they have that caring heart in there,

00:47:18.973 --> 00:47:23.853
you know, they always want to try and cuddle and coddle and make excuses for

00:47:23.853 --> 00:47:28.953
but there comes a time when you You just got to let Joomba do his time. He did the crime.

00:47:29.133 --> 00:47:32.413
He got to do the time. That's the only way he's going to learn. You can't keep...

00:47:33.262 --> 00:47:36.742
Sugar-coating things for grown people. That's why I say grown is gone.

00:47:37.262 --> 00:47:41.982
You in my house, and you 19, 20, and you don't want to live by my rules.

00:47:42.122 --> 00:47:45.642
This time you go get your own place so you can live the way you want to.

00:47:45.882 --> 00:47:49.322
And once you're gone, you don't have entitlement to my refrigerator no more.

00:47:49.382 --> 00:47:51.822
You just can't walk up in my house and go in my refrigerator.

00:47:52.582 --> 00:47:58.842
But like you said, enablers, enablers, and they get an attitude with us when

00:47:58.842 --> 00:48:02.702
we don't talk to them, and we talk to the one who got the paperwork.

00:48:03.262 --> 00:48:07.502
And they keep married and walk out with attitude. And we ask them to step out in the hallway.

00:48:08.062 --> 00:48:13.442
But they married us because we won't talk to them. We forced them to talk to us.

00:48:14.502 --> 00:48:19.362
Now, in essence, we're all men.

00:48:21.562 --> 00:48:25.942
And I get it. Enablers. There's fathers. There's mothers. That's whatever.

00:48:27.102 --> 00:48:30.602
So is it because I've noticed a lot of women do that.

00:48:30.602 --> 00:48:35.962
A lot of women try to overcompensate for the man not being there,

00:48:36.062 --> 00:48:42.262
and that's how people get into the situations of enabling and things of that nature.

00:48:45.202 --> 00:48:48.802
So do you think that young

00:48:48.802 --> 00:48:52.102
man or those young people that

00:48:52.102 --> 00:48:55.182
come into rally's job took a

00:48:55.182 --> 00:48:59.022
personal audit of themselves before they

00:48:59.022 --> 00:49:02.162
went in that building or you think they just straight

00:49:02.162 --> 00:49:05.142
went to grandma or mama and said hey

00:49:05.142 --> 00:49:07.922
i need you to fix this for me or was that their

00:49:07.922 --> 00:49:14.062
level was that their accountability and their personal audit was the fault going

00:49:14.062 --> 00:49:20.242
straight to that enabler man people are like water they take the path get his

00:49:20.242 --> 00:49:24.462
way if it worked for him once he's right back to that well until that thing

00:49:24.462 --> 00:49:27.242
run dry no personal audit needed,

00:49:29.842 --> 00:49:30.822
spags Dave.

00:49:34.226 --> 00:49:38.666
Know a lot of people look down on learning new things yeah why

00:49:38.666 --> 00:49:41.686
because learning is a process and people

00:49:41.686 --> 00:49:45.046
want to skip the process oh oh

00:49:45.046 --> 00:49:50.086
most definitely i agree with that i totally thought of the comfort zone yeah

00:49:50.086 --> 00:49:53.746
yeah that's it right there oh we talked about but see we that's that's what

00:49:53.746 --> 00:50:00.406
we talked about last week that comfort zone but for me the comfort zone is mark

00:50:00.406 --> 00:50:02.626
you said it. Comfort zone is a trap.

00:50:03.226 --> 00:50:05.786
Oh, I definitely believe that.

00:50:06.946 --> 00:50:12.686
Comfort breeds stagnation. It's a false word.

00:50:13.586 --> 00:50:16.466
A false sense of security. Yeah.

00:50:16.978 --> 00:50:19.578
The only way to expand your comfort zone is to step out of it.

00:50:19.898 --> 00:50:23.638
There's a lot of people that just afraid to step out of it. There you go.

00:50:24.518 --> 00:50:26.278
That's the key word right there.

00:50:27.338 --> 00:50:36.738
Thank you, man. That's it. That is it. No, pain is included in learning new things.

00:50:37.018 --> 00:50:40.698
Anything where you have to grow and expand, there's pain involved.

00:50:41.338 --> 00:50:45.078
And people like me in their comfort zone. If it hurt, I'm finna run back to

00:50:45.078 --> 00:50:50.278
my comfort zone before I'm willing to endure and reach that finish line,

00:50:50.358 --> 00:50:52.778
bro. People are different nowadays.

00:50:53.718 --> 00:50:56.798
It's sad to say, man, but they got them plugged in like the Matrix, bro.

00:50:57.618 --> 00:51:01.138
It's hard if you take somebody out of the Matrix, man. You see how hard it was

00:51:01.138 --> 00:51:02.678
to get Neo up out of there.

00:51:02.798 --> 00:51:05.778
Not the blue pill. The blue pill.

00:51:11.218 --> 00:51:14.598
We're comfortable or other people fighting our battle.

00:51:15.238 --> 00:51:19.658
Experiences, you can tell a person your experiences, but until you actually

00:51:19.658 --> 00:51:22.818
live your own experience, I mean, it's just a story.

00:51:23.638 --> 00:51:26.878
That's why a lot of people don't really, I believe a lot of people don't take

00:51:26.878 --> 00:51:30.958
it like the old, don't put your hand on the fire, but put your hand on the fire anyway.

00:51:32.638 --> 00:51:38.978
So you can have your opinion on your experiences, but until I've experienced

00:51:38.978 --> 00:51:40.918
that, it's still your experience.

00:51:42.018 --> 00:51:46.598
So, you know, I just can't, I don't see it like you do until I'm in the same

00:51:46.598 --> 00:51:49.678
scenario as you do. Now I understand it.

00:51:50.018 --> 00:51:56.978
And the point, the point at that point is whether it's a lesson or a regret.

00:51:59.480 --> 00:52:03.620
I regret this instead of I'm learning a lesson from this.

00:52:03.840 --> 00:52:08.240
That's when you start sharing and understanding when it comes to lessons.

00:52:08.940 --> 00:52:13.200
At that point, it's both because you it's a lesson because you might have learned

00:52:13.200 --> 00:52:16.300
something from it. But you regret that you didn't follow the person that gave you the information.

00:52:17.880 --> 00:52:21.400
I don't. You can't. Maybe you can regret that.

00:52:24.460 --> 00:52:27.940
You may or may not regret it. Two things can be done at once.

00:52:27.940 --> 00:52:30.880
I mean, I, I believe I can, you can chew both gum and walk, you know,

00:52:31.240 --> 00:52:35.660
I, I, I look at it more, well, I guess I'm just an older person now.

00:52:35.780 --> 00:52:38.320
I don't, I don't, I try not to have regrets. You know what I mean?

00:52:38.780 --> 00:52:42.240
I, I, it's a, it's an experience. It's a lesson.

00:52:43.453 --> 00:52:47.373
You know, if I ever find myself in that scenario again or that scenario type

00:52:47.373 --> 00:52:53.693
of approaching, I know how to deal with it in a more intelligent manner. You know what I mean?

00:52:54.133 --> 00:52:57.693
Versus being stuck. Because the regret means you're kind of stuck there.

00:52:58.293 --> 00:53:01.653
You know, you can't get past. Versus your lessons.

00:53:03.713 --> 00:53:08.993
You move forward. You have a better probability of moving forward in a more positive direction.

00:53:10.053 --> 00:53:12.853
Amen to that. It got quiet. Quit.

00:53:13.453 --> 00:53:19.113
No, no, I ain't never quiet when you're talking.

00:53:19.373 --> 00:53:22.213
I'm just listening. Me too, brother.

00:53:23.633 --> 00:53:28.573
Yeah, listening. I'm just listening. You know, I ain't never quiet when you're

00:53:28.573 --> 00:53:29.493
talking. I'm just listening.

00:53:30.053 --> 00:53:35.173
You got to close your mouth to use your ears. Thank you. You don't learn nothing

00:53:35.173 --> 00:53:37.513
by talking at the same time the other person's talking.

00:53:38.213 --> 00:53:41.273
I totally agree. Hey, that's one of my worst ones, man.

00:53:42.033 --> 00:53:46.613
Like people do never gauge healthy dialogue. I hate when people are talking over.

00:53:47.213 --> 00:53:50.893
Say that, say that, say that, say that.

00:53:51.093 --> 00:53:55.953
That is one of those things that, like I said, the title is personal audit.

00:53:56.253 --> 00:53:59.673
Okay. So what you just said is a great segue.

00:54:01.593 --> 00:54:04.313
People talk instead of listening.

00:54:05.806 --> 00:54:11.846
Now, in a conversation setting, just like Mark was speaking and everybody was listening.

00:54:12.086 --> 00:54:17.186
Now, it could have been somebody that just shot off and was like, well, OK, Mark.

00:54:18.886 --> 00:54:27.026
In that situation, being who we are, are we auditing during that conversation?

00:54:27.246 --> 00:54:30.586
And let me explain to you what I mean by a conversation. In conversation,

00:54:30.586 --> 00:54:34.466
you have people that that respond to just respond.

00:54:34.466 --> 00:54:39.866
You have some people that actually download some of the things that the person

00:54:39.866 --> 00:54:45.046
is saying and then make a conscious rebuttal.

00:54:46.546 --> 00:54:56.626
How do we as human beings understand that in that process, there's no auditing?

00:54:56.986 --> 00:55:01.246
Because if you're just responding just to just to have something to say,

00:55:01.486 --> 00:55:03.566
then what are you actually getting from it?

00:55:04.386 --> 00:55:08.286
Nothing because it's not being communicated communication

00:55:08.286 --> 00:55:11.166
is a sender you have your sender and you

00:55:11.166 --> 00:55:14.746
have a receiver in order for it to be communicated that person

00:55:14.746 --> 00:55:21.106
has to receive what is being said and like you said bids are downloaded to to

00:55:21.106 --> 00:55:26.206
cipher through it or whatever to be able to have a response to it to be communicated

00:55:26.206 --> 00:55:31.466
but like you said you're just talking before you can can you know,

00:55:31.646 --> 00:55:35.506
cypher to it and dialected and communicated,

00:55:36.706 --> 00:55:39.106
you just go through the promotion of it.

00:55:40.150 --> 00:55:46.230
I like that. I like what you said at the beginning. You said a sender and a

00:55:46.230 --> 00:55:51.210
receiver, a sender and a receiver.

00:55:53.250 --> 00:55:58.910
Most people don't really look at conversations in that manner.

00:55:58.910 --> 00:56:06.070
But that what you just said is amazing because it's it's but it's simple.

00:56:06.070 --> 00:56:15.590
It's so simple there's a sender and a receiver and how can you receive if you're

00:56:15.590 --> 00:56:17.990
sending at the same time they're sending,

00:56:20.230 --> 00:56:21.670
signal jake.

00:56:24.010 --> 00:56:28.050
Low communication that's what it is,

00:56:28.950 --> 00:56:35.970
right but the fact that goes back to what I was saying about like giving a three

00:56:35.970 --> 00:56:41.870
to five second pause to comprehend what somebody is saying to you before you respond.

00:56:43.355 --> 00:56:48.595
People don't even take the time and just sit there and let it sit there. You know what I mean?

00:56:48.895 --> 00:56:51.415
Let it marinate on you for a minute before you respond.

00:56:52.135 --> 00:56:56.775
Think about what is being said and then think about what's trying to be communicated,

00:56:56.955 --> 00:57:01.235
what's trying to be seen before you respond and try to receive.

00:57:02.315 --> 00:57:06.055
Right. But that's why I said download. Yeah, man.

00:57:06.335 --> 00:57:10.615
A lot of people don't care to like, a lot of people are plugged in,

00:57:10.775 --> 00:57:12.575
bro, and can't plug out even if they want.

00:57:13.735 --> 00:57:15.135
Explain. Get what?

00:57:16.315 --> 00:57:21.395
Somebody might run into one of us tonight and be like, man, I ran into this dude.

00:57:22.575 --> 00:57:27.495
But I guarantee you in two, three days before they took my social media,

00:57:27.635 --> 00:57:28.755
took my neighborhood thing.

00:57:29.215 --> 00:57:32.315
In two, three days before they reach back out to me to get some more of that,

00:57:32.915 --> 00:57:35.715
they'll be back on social media, scrolling away.

00:57:36.215 --> 00:57:38.755
They'll be back around that same company they've been teaching.

00:57:39.495 --> 00:57:43.895
Not growing, not expanding. because you

00:57:43.895 --> 00:57:47.675
are something that happens once in a lifetime versus something

00:57:47.675 --> 00:57:52.995
that's happening on a daily that's why people don't know how to this topic tonight

00:57:52.995 --> 00:57:57.255
personal audit people can't even get off their phones or something do you know

00:57:57.255 --> 00:58:04.775
how short people attention span is today yes yes sir man it's yeah bro it's sad yeah,

00:58:05.311 --> 00:58:08.331
Yes, it is. You could be putting a blueprint to a million dollars,

00:58:08.531 --> 00:58:10.071
but it's just over. It's like.

00:58:12.031 --> 00:58:15.131
I truly know how short people's attention is. I travel a book.

00:58:15.131 --> 00:58:18.771
I look in their cars every day and see them holding their phone. I knew what's coming.

00:58:19.011 --> 00:58:21.991
I knew what's coming. I truly know how short their attention is.

00:58:22.031 --> 00:58:25.631
They be sitting at the red light on the phone and like time green. You hear me?

00:58:27.551 --> 00:58:33.751
I knew what's coming. They paying attention to their phone and the road at the same time.

00:58:33.751 --> 00:58:37.011
I just I was just saying this earlier

00:58:37.011 --> 00:58:40.651
okay I was driving down a road I'm

00:58:40.651 --> 00:58:43.291
on the one side of the road I see the traffic on the

00:58:43.291 --> 00:58:47.851
other side of the road there's a man so engulfed in his phone the light turns

00:58:47.851 --> 00:58:53.631
green I start going we're going in opposite directions I start going the car

00:58:53.631 --> 00:58:59.111
besides him start going he still said man he's so in engaged in his phone he

00:58:59.111 --> 00:59:02.131
doesn't even look up to see that the light is green.

00:59:03.431 --> 00:59:09.931
Because most people believe that their mind is multitasking versus priority-based.

00:59:10.271 --> 00:59:15.331
You know, I can do this and I can do that at the same time, but studies have

00:59:15.331 --> 00:59:18.611
proven that the mind is not multitasking. It's priority based.

00:59:18.971 --> 00:59:22.191
You know, if your priority is if you have complications, you have it on the

00:59:22.191 --> 00:59:23.231
phone, then that green light,

00:59:24.090 --> 00:59:27.410
really mean anything. Yeah, it's irrelevant at the moment. Yeah,

00:59:27.770 --> 00:59:31.250
because your priority right at that moment, and, you know, we're not talking

00:59:31.250 --> 00:59:32.930
spans of, like, seconds.

00:59:33.050 --> 00:59:35.930
We're talking nanoseconds, you know, microseconds, you know,

00:59:36.090 --> 00:59:39.490
and, you know, we need to get a better understanding of time,

00:59:39.510 --> 00:59:43.330
you know, because we think, you know, time is an elaborate thing where,

00:59:43.430 --> 00:59:47.850
you know, a nanosecond, your life can be over, you know what I mean?

00:59:47.870 --> 00:59:52.930
You could be running your mouth on the phone and run through a red light and

00:59:52.930 --> 00:59:54.970
kill someone or get yourself killed.

00:59:55.730 --> 01:00:00.410
You drive. Because you're not multitasking. You're prioritizing.

01:00:00.770 --> 01:00:08.390
And the majority of the time when you're on the phone, your mind at that moment

01:00:08.390 --> 01:00:12.330
is prioritizing the phone call versus safety in your vehicle.

01:00:14.770 --> 01:00:18.910
It's that instant gratification versus that delayed gratification, man.

01:00:19.410 --> 01:00:22.390
No. You know, Instagram and all these social media platforms,

01:00:22.390 --> 01:00:25.910
they providing dopamine an instant lamp for dopamine,

01:00:26.530 --> 01:00:32.910
and if that feels good you want to get that to a now if I'm not getting this

01:00:32.910 --> 01:00:35.610
with that signal with somebody for 5 to 10 minutes I'm gone,

01:00:37.018 --> 01:00:41.798
That's it. That is it. Five seconds. Scroll down to another video. I'm high again.

01:00:42.158 --> 01:00:46.138
I'm telling you, bro. It's like, and I'm a, I've been a victim of it myself.

01:00:46.638 --> 01:00:51.018
Well, I sit there and I'm my subconscious is saying, bro, you've been sitting

01:00:51.018 --> 01:00:53.758
right here. You starting to sweat. You've been sitting right here for so long.

01:00:54.518 --> 01:00:59.218
But you still won't let the phone go. You still said it was three in the morning.

01:01:00.438 --> 01:01:05.278
Man, that's what don't want to do to you. That's what don't want to do to you

01:01:05.278 --> 01:01:06.678
make you not want to let go.

01:01:07.018 --> 01:01:12.618
To where when you do let go and you start to experience other dynamics and dimensions

01:01:12.618 --> 01:01:16.378
and other groups of people and whatnot, if you're not getting that instant...

01:01:16.378 --> 01:01:23.098
Man, people can go to a funeral and be on their phone instead of commemorating

01:01:23.098 --> 01:01:25.298
and talking about and remembering the dead, bro.

01:01:26.278 --> 01:01:29.398
Every day? Your cousin just died. He used to change your diaper.

01:01:29.938 --> 01:01:32.918
He's right here in the grave. He ain't got nothing you want to say to him. You don't understand.

01:01:34.598 --> 01:01:38.618
What about the people that be trying to take the pictures at the fair put it on social media.

01:01:41.018 --> 01:01:45.218
We living in some bad times y'all that's why I'm glad I found the kickback for

01:01:45.218 --> 01:01:50.738
real because I get to talk to you guys I get to enjoy seeing like-minded gentlemen

01:01:50.738 --> 01:01:54.978
who just want to release a little bit and collectively,

01:01:56.018 --> 01:02:00.418
reach areas of common ground you know what I mean like it's that feels good man,

01:02:01.945 --> 01:02:05.585
feels great. Man, I appreciate this place, man, because every time I group that

01:02:05.585 --> 01:02:09.265
link, I'll be like, okay, whether it's five minutes or the whole kickback,

01:02:09.405 --> 01:02:12.365
I gotta let it be known that I'm here. Right.

01:02:13.705 --> 01:02:17.865
And that's why I say every week, just invite somebody, because just like you

01:02:17.865 --> 01:02:21.765
got that bit of understanding, and you like being here, I'm pretty sure there's

01:02:21.765 --> 01:02:24.505
some other men out here, but they just hadn't discovered us yet.

01:02:24.725 --> 01:02:30.125
Man, my little guys that I already told about this place goes right back to

01:02:30.125 --> 01:02:31.625
that dopamine we just talked about.

01:02:31.945 --> 01:02:34.825
Yeah, that hit feel good, but it took too long for you to get.

01:02:34.985 --> 01:02:39.185
So now you ain't even encouraged to keep getting it because it's taking too long for you to get high.

01:02:40.905 --> 01:02:46.065
But you talk to me about stuff we talk about in this group. But when I see you

01:02:46.065 --> 01:02:48.645
in the group, you too busy, man.

01:02:49.525 --> 01:02:54.485
You're too busy. You're on the game playing 2K. This is the world we live in now, man.

01:02:55.305 --> 01:02:59.605
Of course. Guys get on the game and create their 2K players and be living through

01:02:59.605 --> 01:03:01.765
their 2K players and be broke, jobless.

01:03:01.945 --> 01:03:08.485
No clothes, no food, nothing in real life, but be co-superstar NBA players on the game.

01:03:10.005 --> 01:03:14.765
It's crazy, man. It's wild, man. Like, for real.

01:03:15.305 --> 01:03:20.985
Yeah, serious. Your 2K player, you're more invested in your 2K player than your own self.

01:03:21.945 --> 01:03:30.045
Wow. Wow. So you're more invested in, I mean, but that's the world we're moving towards is virtual.

01:03:30.045 --> 01:03:37.005
Everybody wants to be everybody wants to escape their reality why why is it

01:03:37.005 --> 01:03:44.125
we all want to escape and that's a valid question why do we want to escape our

01:03:44.125 --> 01:03:47.205
reality so bad because reality sucks,

01:03:48.525 --> 01:03:52.725
it's hard for a lot of people to deal with knowing that my reality don't suck

01:03:52.725 --> 01:03:58.205
player most of those can have the high I agree with you.

01:04:00.262 --> 01:04:05.482
Said something. Go ahead, Zane. Did you grow up during the 90s? Yes, sir.

01:04:06.262 --> 01:04:10.102
Yeah, I mean, that's a big reality there.

01:04:11.502 --> 01:04:17.422
All right. Depending on where you grew up at, that's kind of.

01:04:21.382 --> 01:04:26.342
Cleveland ass. Lishy ass. I'll wait until everybody else go before I respond.

01:04:27.302 --> 01:04:33.142
Come on, Mark. Talk to me. Shelby and South A. She'll be in South 7.

01:04:33.842 --> 01:04:39.902
I don't know. You know, reality, you know, it's, for some people,

01:04:40.062 --> 01:04:44.622
it's hard to face constant, you know,

01:04:46.191 --> 01:04:51.611
constant setbacks, constant, you know, letdowns, constant, you know,

01:04:51.751 --> 01:04:56.891
and they have a, and today's world, they have a remedy for it.

01:04:57.111 --> 01:05:02.131
It's called the avatar on, you know, on your phone or on your laptop or on your

01:05:02.131 --> 01:05:03.411
desktop or something like that.

01:05:03.471 --> 01:05:06.651
It's an escape from the normality.

01:05:07.111 --> 01:05:12.811
You know, that's the dopamine. You know, I'm able to do things on my phone or

01:05:12.811 --> 01:05:19.671
on my computer on my mobile device that I can't do when I step out the door. Amen.

01:05:20.511 --> 01:05:27.391
A little character that you locked in. A little character that you make up to

01:05:27.391 --> 01:05:30.871
put online for somebody else to view. Yeah.

01:05:33.511 --> 01:05:39.291
I can't get jiggy with that shit. You know what? I'm going to say it blatantly.

01:05:40.211 --> 01:05:42.851
Bitch, I'm no character that I put online.

01:05:43.991 --> 01:05:51.791
I'm a character in real life you know Joe I don't I don't get that I don't get

01:05:51.791 --> 01:05:58.491
this parenthourism I don't get this AI bullshit where people are,

01:05:59.351 --> 01:06:07.551
here it's like my face profile on everything that you see is some AI driven

01:06:07.551 --> 01:06:13.171
thing derived out of something that I feel but I can't express,

01:06:14.191 --> 01:06:16.751
I can make my film right there. Yes, sir.

01:06:17.531 --> 01:06:20.411
That I can express. I'm an invasion. It's my best.

01:06:21.651 --> 01:06:29.011
If I have to make myself a character online that I can express in person,

01:06:30.171 --> 01:06:32.791
then what the fuck is everybody else going to believe?

01:06:34.273 --> 01:06:41.233
Fuck is everybody else going to see me as? I don't do that AI bullshit.

01:06:42.033 --> 01:06:48.833
I don't make characteristics or characters out of myself online.

01:06:50.093 --> 01:06:53.113
I agree. I don't either. Come on with it.

01:06:54.153 --> 01:06:59.253
So you asked why do people not want to face reality? Am I correct?

01:07:00.113 --> 01:07:05.453
Yes, sir. Alright, so check this out. Reality, basic reality,

01:07:05.893 --> 01:07:09.913
comes with a whole lot of realizations.

01:07:10.813 --> 01:07:16.693
Once you realize that there are powers that are controlling things that you

01:07:16.693 --> 01:07:22.213
wish you had control of, when you realize that somebody has provided this curriculum

01:07:22.213 --> 01:07:25.133
for you versus you being able to choose what you want to study,

01:07:25.673 --> 01:07:32.133
that encourages you to go to a dystopian type of place to where you can create your own reality.

01:07:32.813 --> 01:07:39.813
And live in it. Okay. Versus taking those realizations and then personally auditing

01:07:39.813 --> 01:07:48.453
yourself so that you can fortify yourself to become strong enough to face and even conquer reality.

01:07:49.721 --> 01:07:52.801
Going to survive if people study

01:07:52.801 --> 01:07:55.861
history and go even further back to what was going on before all

01:07:55.861 --> 01:07:58.861
of this stuff it was literally survival of the fittest you're

01:07:58.861 --> 01:08:02.741
going to be subject and it's still today it's contemporary you're

01:08:02.741 --> 01:08:06.421
going to be subject or you're going to be sovereign man and

01:08:06.421 --> 01:08:09.201
a lot of people don't want to face the fact that

01:08:09.201 --> 01:08:12.841
they are subject so whether it's a video game whether

01:08:12.841 --> 01:08:15.621
it's a social media page whether it's

01:08:15.621 --> 01:08:18.641
a tiktok avatar it's an escape

01:08:18.641 --> 01:08:25.941
because reality of t paying for the face for a lot of people okay i mean and

01:08:25.941 --> 01:08:31.121
from that perspective i get it i understand and and here's the thing if you

01:08:31.121 --> 01:08:36.361
and i know everybody's not strong and i know everybody's got issues,

01:08:36.641 --> 01:08:43.741
and I know everybody's got problems, but at some point, now other than being

01:08:43.741 --> 01:08:46.281
a child, other than being a child,

01:08:46.601 --> 01:08:51.061
because I get it, some parents are horrible, some situations are horrible,

01:08:51.241 --> 01:08:58.321
things are happening to them that they cannot control, but once you get to a certain age in life,

01:08:58.501 --> 01:09:02.201
how are you not controlling your destiny?

01:09:02.201 --> 01:09:07.961
As cliche as that shit sounds, how are you not controlling your own destiny?

01:09:08.141 --> 01:09:10.481
And that's when it goes back to the earlier topic.

01:09:10.901 --> 01:09:16.821
It's painful to grow. It's painful to grow yourself in all of the aspects of

01:09:16.821 --> 01:09:20.161
growth, whether it's learning new knowledge, whether it's working out in the

01:09:20.161 --> 01:09:22.741
gym, whether it's learning how to drive a car.

01:09:23.061 --> 01:09:27.201
It hurts to learn something new. And a lot of people can't deal with pain, bro.

01:09:27.981 --> 01:09:31.641
Only the strong going to survive. I just don't understand that I got to go through

01:09:31.641 --> 01:09:34.001
some pain in order to reach where I want to go.

01:09:34.521 --> 01:09:40.221
And if I'm not strong enough, then I would rather settle for a video game where

01:09:40.221 --> 01:09:42.541
I can dump and earn. I can do everything I want to like this.

01:09:45.490 --> 01:09:49.570
That's why you said it gets lonely. You remember when we was talking about that at the beginning?

01:09:50.010 --> 01:09:55.090
It gets lonely because the majority out here are plugged in and don't want to

01:09:55.090 --> 01:10:00.130
hear the way out because it's too long to comprehend, let alone achieve.

01:10:00.790 --> 01:10:06.450
For them, anyways. And that's most people's head out here. Nah, man.

01:10:07.350 --> 01:10:12.370
I'd rather go do this. Why go get me a job and work my way up when I can go

01:10:12.370 --> 01:10:13.850
take something that don't belong to me?

01:10:13.850 --> 01:10:20.490
But we've seen the outcomes of that yeah but they get ignored people think what's

01:10:20.490 --> 01:10:24.670
insanity bruh think you're going to get some different think you're going to

01:10:24.670 --> 01:10:26.790
get some different results by doing the same thing,

01:10:28.107 --> 01:10:34.267
People be having uncles, daddies, cousins, brothers, and everything go to prison,

01:10:34.267 --> 01:10:39.907
but still glorify and engage in the same things that let all his family members do.

01:10:40.247 --> 01:10:44.327
Instead of taking heed and changing chords.

01:10:44.647 --> 01:10:49.007
Like, and I don't really know why it's so hard.

01:10:49.307 --> 01:10:53.907
Maybe because the examples are fewer and far in between. You know what I'm saying?

01:10:54.567 --> 01:10:58.547
Because nine times out of ten, it's the results thing, man. And it's the dopamine,

01:10:58.827 --> 01:11:01.187
the instant gratification versus delayed gratification.

01:11:01.647 --> 01:11:04.347
People don't even be trying to listen to their teachers if their teachers ain't

01:11:04.347 --> 01:11:07.427
got no porn out there in the driveway, in the parking lot.

01:11:08.187 --> 01:11:13.747
But the real understanding is it's the journey. It's the journey.

01:11:14.467 --> 01:11:18.367
And I think that's what we're missing. It's the journey.

01:11:18.627 --> 01:11:22.687
Because along the way of the journey, you're going to meet some people and you're

01:11:22.687 --> 01:11:25.267
going to go some places and you're going to do some things.

01:11:25.967 --> 01:11:30.727
From my personal experience in life, like I said, I don't want to escape my reality.

01:11:30.747 --> 01:11:34.967
I love my reality, but it was a journey to get here.

01:11:35.187 --> 01:11:37.827
And I'd argue that the journey is the best part.

01:11:38.467 --> 01:11:42.867
It was, because it makes me appreciate where I'm at right now.

01:11:43.427 --> 01:11:48.667
But people don't realize that while they're going through these things until

01:11:48.667 --> 01:11:49.667
they're on the other side.

01:11:49.827 --> 01:11:54.387
Do you think it could be just fear, People just don't want to accept the responsibility.

01:11:54.707 --> 01:11:59.727
Some people just don't want to fail, so they just quit. Yes.

01:12:00.267 --> 01:12:07.707
Or never start. Or the fear of success. Exactly. Or fear of failure. Yes. Yes. Yes.

01:12:08.680 --> 01:12:13.660
You have success or failure, make it inaction. I don't have to responsibility.

01:12:13.860 --> 01:12:17.600
I've heard, even my children, that, you know, I don't know if I want to,

01:12:17.720 --> 01:12:20.460
you know, I want to have kids or I don't want to do this because,

01:12:20.460 --> 01:12:23.380
you know, because I see what you went through.

01:12:23.460 --> 01:12:26.000
And it's a lot of responsibility, you know.

01:12:26.480 --> 01:12:30.280
And I'm like, you know, in the end, it's really worth, you know.

01:12:30.700 --> 01:12:35.180
But it's a fear of, you know, they see others and how they struggle with it.

01:12:35.180 --> 01:12:39.200
So they don't want that responsibility or that level of responsibility or that

01:12:39.200 --> 01:12:41.520
fear of, you know, failure or letdown.

01:12:41.920 --> 01:12:46.860
You know, I believe this is a multi-level issue when it comes to,

01:12:47.180 --> 01:12:48.500
you know, I don't want to.

01:12:48.640 --> 01:12:52.080
I don't want the responsibility. It's too much. And I'm not ready to, you know.

01:12:54.300 --> 01:13:01.620
Hey, it's too scary to know. It's the unknown. The unknown. Yeah. The fear of the unknown.

01:13:03.620 --> 01:13:07.220
I would tell you one of the best things that ever happened to me when I was

01:13:07.220 --> 01:13:08.800
playing football at Tennessee State.

01:13:09.000 --> 01:13:13.280
I was a senior, and my coach, we was doing warm-ups, getting ready for a game,

01:13:13.320 --> 01:13:16.780
and his coach was walking by just talking. He was just talking,

01:13:16.800 --> 01:13:22.460
and he said, you can't always take the easy way out, Riley Walton.

01:13:22.520 --> 01:13:27.220
He mentioned my name, and I'm like, why you know my name?

01:13:27.660 --> 01:13:30.800
You know what I'm saying? I never said it behind that. I'm like,

01:13:31.040 --> 01:13:32.320
where you calling my name from?

01:13:33.040 --> 01:13:37.900
From that case for, man, I'm always like, if you're going to be easy, I don't want it.

01:13:38.420 --> 01:13:41.940
I mean, that call was the best thing he ever said to me. You can't always take

01:13:41.940 --> 01:13:45.740
the easy way out. But he was talking to all of us, but I chose him personal.

01:13:47.180 --> 01:13:50.840
I'm like, where you calling my name from? I don't take the easy way out,

01:13:50.980 --> 01:13:55.240
but I always appreciate the moment I had to go.

01:13:57.140 --> 01:14:00.520
Apparently, Coach knew how to motivate you. He lit that fire under your keister.

01:14:03.968 --> 01:14:10.428
But as we think about a lot of people want to ease the way out you know how to ease the way out yeah.

01:14:12.408 --> 01:14:16.328
When we talk about Joe signing that deal yeah.

01:14:18.288 --> 01:14:23.608
Either give me a hundred million dollars right now give up everything you know,

01:14:24.188 --> 01:14:28.408
right now give up everything you know the life you know right now that you can

01:14:28.408 --> 01:14:30.588
get a hundred million dollars or,

01:14:31.568 --> 01:14:39.828
you get $500,000 it was the opposite way around give up everything you know

01:14:39.828 --> 01:14:46.228
and everything you got rights to but it's $100,000 or take the loan route and believe in it,

01:14:47.388 --> 01:14:50.448
take the loan route and you're going to guarantee

01:14:50.448 --> 01:14:53.868
the million dollars at the end of the day but you keep

01:14:53.868 --> 01:14:57.148
the aspects of who you are and all your relationships

01:14:57.148 --> 01:15:06.468
but being used not necessarily used but being noticed as something of work as

01:15:06.468 --> 01:15:13.148
Mark said with a coat being called out for good use or being called out for

01:15:13.148 --> 01:15:15.988
you know good sportsmanship.

01:15:17.768 --> 01:15:23.108
That just means somebody else that just means somebody else sees something greater

01:15:23.108 --> 01:15:26.408
in you that you may not see in yourself,

01:15:28.008 --> 01:15:33.708
One of the great aspects of sports is the end of the game when you got to line up and say, good game.

01:15:34.208 --> 01:15:39.828
Yeah, but somebody sees something greater within you and they see a good respect

01:15:39.828 --> 01:15:42.588
from you that you can do for other people.

01:15:43.428 --> 01:15:45.868
And they try to pass it on to you.

01:15:48.708 --> 01:15:53.268
So, how do we fix this?

01:15:53.268 --> 01:16:04.048
This holding yourself accountable doing personal audits and on top of that acknowledging

01:16:04.048 --> 01:16:09.368
someone else and letting them know that you,

01:16:10.021 --> 01:16:15.561
Maybe something you're saying or doing is valuable because like we talked about

01:16:15.561 --> 01:16:18.981
the youth and we've talked about this before.

01:16:19.261 --> 01:16:24.401
The youth don't see any value in you if you're not a content creator or if you're

01:16:24.401 --> 01:16:27.321
not an athlete, if you're not any of those things.

01:16:27.481 --> 01:16:33.141
But I think when we grew up different time, different era, even if they were

01:16:33.141 --> 01:16:39.781
the neighborhood dope boy, the neighborhood pimp, the neighborhood numbers man.

01:16:40.021 --> 01:16:43.081
The neighborhood man that ran the store.

01:16:43.581 --> 01:16:51.641
We idolize those people. And we saw these people in real life, real time.

01:16:51.881 --> 01:16:57.561
And they took care of them. Now, we look at the screens and we see these people and we're idolizing.

01:16:57.701 --> 01:17:04.721
How do we navigate this new world and help these young people understand that,

01:17:04.941 --> 01:17:09.721
hey, what I do and who I am is just as valuable as that person on the screen?

01:17:10.021 --> 01:17:13.841
Pass on the knowledge, pass on the experiences.

01:17:14.541 --> 01:17:20.221
Don't explain them too much because you don't want this younger generation to

01:17:20.221 --> 01:17:22.401
go through what he had to go through.

01:17:22.721 --> 01:17:29.161
You just have to be relative with the experiences, but with also the knowledge

01:17:29.161 --> 01:17:33.301
that you have to not go through those experiences.

01:17:33.601 --> 01:17:39.681
To get through those experiences and be a betterment of yourself for not only

01:17:39.681 --> 01:17:42.401
yourself, but also those around you.

01:17:45.041 --> 01:17:48.761
It's not necessarily about you.

01:17:50.217 --> 01:17:57.117
Those experiences that you've been through, you don't want anybody else to go through.

01:17:57.437 --> 01:18:01.877
But you also want them to understand that they don't have to go through those.

01:18:02.057 --> 01:18:06.557
So it's not the information that you're telling them.

01:18:07.037 --> 01:18:11.897
It's the information that you're passing on to them to be a better person at

01:18:11.897 --> 01:18:16.817
the end of the day for the next person that gets to experience,

01:18:17.677 --> 01:18:22.117
or lack that experience to be a better person.

01:18:22.737 --> 01:18:26.617
But do you think that some people need to go through certain things in order

01:18:26.617 --> 01:18:28.837
to understand what's, you know, that,

01:18:29.503 --> 01:18:33.243
Versus how you put it, some people, yes,

01:18:33.883 --> 01:18:42.943
they do need to go through that, but those people are also not,

01:18:42.943 --> 01:18:47.803
I'm going to say this just as me as a person,

01:18:48.083 --> 01:18:50.503
those people are not cultured.

01:18:50.503 --> 01:18:53.843
Those people are not diversified those people

01:18:53.843 --> 01:19:02.383
don't understand other people other cultures those people are just bland as

01:19:02.383 --> 01:19:11.623
fuck let's just put it blank like as it is if you go through some shit why do I say that.

01:19:13.643 --> 01:19:19.643
We're a diversified country are we not I look at a little bottle but yes,

01:19:19.903 --> 01:19:24.443
I would say I'm a person you're a person,

01:19:25.783 --> 01:19:32.063
that should be blatantly clear but this could be blatantly clear to you but

01:19:32.063 --> 01:19:36.463
not blatantly clear to me because the light doesn't come on at the same time

01:19:36.463 --> 01:19:40.663
different lights come on at different times during the day,

01:19:40.763 --> 01:19:49.283
during the night so when your light comes on faster than modern or vice versa or it comes on slower.

01:19:49.623 --> 01:19:52.583
That makes it just different. Is that...

01:19:53.323 --> 01:19:56.523
It makes us human beings. But we're different.

01:19:56.763 --> 01:20:00.543
I mean, we all, I know we're hooked. It makes us different human beings.

01:20:00.663 --> 01:20:07.343
I mean, I can't blame somebody for me for not being where I'm at or me not being where they're at.

01:20:07.443 --> 01:20:11.063
And I can't blame anybody in the same sense that you're talking about.

01:20:12.923 --> 01:20:17.583
I've had to go through what I had to go through to get to where I'm at.

01:20:18.003 --> 01:20:21.483
You had to go through what you had to go through to get where you're at.

01:20:21.483 --> 01:20:25.323
Joe helped him go through where he had to go through to get where he's at.

01:20:25.663 --> 01:20:30.703
And what we all did is we'd come together as people to share our stories,

01:20:30.703 --> 01:20:37.843
to go through the same shit as human beings, just to get to where we want to fucking be.

01:20:38.123 --> 01:20:45.243
It's like the comment I put in a minute ago, the person that is able to learn

01:20:45.243 --> 01:20:49.283
from someone else's experience is a borderline genius.

01:20:49.283 --> 01:20:53.703
Because when you can learn the lesson without having to go through the experience

01:20:53.703 --> 01:21:00.363
and you can adjust properly, you are 10 steps ahead of society already because

01:21:00.363 --> 01:21:04.023
most people need experience in order to learn lessons.

01:21:06.723 --> 01:21:13.663
I'm struggling here. Yeah. I'm struggling here. I do believe that it's like,

01:21:13.743 --> 01:21:16.163
hey, you watch this movie.

01:21:16.403 --> 01:21:20.903
You're like, oh, this movie's great, man. I mean, or it sucks. It sucks. We'll do that.

01:21:21.203 --> 01:21:25.703
This movie sucks. So I won't watch this movie because I'm going by your experience.

01:21:25.943 --> 01:21:30.423
You know, you know, it is just really a very, very simple, you know, example.

01:21:30.843 --> 01:21:34.223
So when I do finally, you know, I got nothing else to do. I sit down and watch

01:21:34.223 --> 01:21:36.203
the movie. I actually like it.

01:21:36.843 --> 01:21:42.843
Watch that movie. You know, so my question is, it's like...

01:21:43.762 --> 01:21:51.742
Are we living through other people's experience or experience as the better teacher?

01:21:53.062 --> 01:21:59.522
It's more of being open-minded on your experience but being,

01:21:59.762 --> 01:22:07.842
I guess the word for it is nowadays woke on Hey!

01:22:08.582 --> 01:22:11.842
I'm with you. being can

01:22:11.842 --> 01:22:16.982
it be that if I have to go through this experience I think this is kind of where

01:22:16.982 --> 01:22:23.862
I'm at I think I want to be if I have if someone's giving me their experience

01:22:23.862 --> 01:22:28.942
in this scenario and if I ever find myself in that,

01:22:30.062 --> 01:22:37.122
scenario I probably still have to go through it but I have I have a little I have some wisdom,

01:22:38.322 --> 01:22:43.402
on my path through it, you know, versus, you know, because I still,

01:22:43.422 --> 01:22:48.002
I still don't really understand what you went through until I went through it myself.

01:22:49.102 --> 01:22:53.702
Understandable, but the consciousness and understanding of just being a person,

01:22:54.542 --> 01:22:58.422
I mean, I think a lot of us think that that's not enough.

01:22:59.262 --> 01:23:03.742
What's not enough? Trying to understand different people's perspectives,

01:23:04.502 --> 01:23:10.782
trying not to understand different people's environments, trying not to understand

01:23:10.782 --> 01:23:14.442
different people's updraignments.

01:23:15.262 --> 01:23:19.602
I mean, it's be a person, be a human being.

01:23:21.095 --> 01:23:25.415
It speaks on what people believe, too, because a lot of people done said in

01:23:25.415 --> 01:23:29.735
this group that a lot of people don't believe the fire is hot until they put

01:23:29.735 --> 01:23:32.355
their hand in themselves. Yeah, touch it there.

01:23:33.455 --> 01:23:39.055
Touch it until you get burned. But you ought to be able to get it when somebody

01:23:39.055 --> 01:23:43.655
whose hand is burnt and there's a scar there is telling you don't put your hand in there.

01:23:44.555 --> 01:23:50.875
But a lot of people need to burn in order to get it. If you put your hand there and you got burned.

01:23:51.095 --> 01:23:53.135
There's an understanding, is there not?

01:23:53.875 --> 01:23:57.775
That's why I said it's not hearing yet. Experience is a better decision because

01:23:57.775 --> 01:23:59.695
some people need to feel the burn.

01:24:01.015 --> 01:24:06.215
But the people who can get it without getting burnt are 10 steps ahead because

01:24:06.215 --> 01:24:11.635
they never have to get burnt in order to understand it. Are they really ahead?

01:24:11.975 --> 01:24:13.795
Are they really ahead?

01:24:16.155 --> 01:24:20.435
Listen, listen, it's nobody being ahead of anybody else.

01:24:21.095 --> 01:24:26.075
I don't know about that. I beg the difference. I beg the difference.

01:24:27.395 --> 01:24:32.635
I beg the difference. The man who got burnt has to take time to heal versus

01:24:32.635 --> 01:24:36.475
the man who never got burnt and stayed away from the fire because somebody told

01:24:36.475 --> 01:24:39.235
him that he would get hurt. Have you ever met anybody that never got burnt?

01:24:39.915 --> 01:24:44.055
Yeah. I know a lot of people. I know a lot of people that I've grown up with

01:24:44.055 --> 01:24:50.175
that have succeeded in life because not only did they learn from other people's experience,

01:24:50.175 --> 01:24:54.915
but they already knew and had a base level understanding of the difference between

01:24:54.915 --> 01:24:57.835
right and wrong and what they should be doing what they like,

01:24:58.655 --> 01:25:01.255
I'm not getting the right or wrong right here.

01:25:02.740 --> 01:25:08.620
I'm not doubting the right or wrong or the impact of understanding,

01:25:08.620 --> 01:25:12.360
you know, that, hey, you gave me some advice.

01:25:12.680 --> 01:25:18.280
And if I find myself in that scenario, you know, I can't avoid it and I actually

01:25:18.280 --> 01:25:22.540
have to go through it, that I have the wisdom from someone that has had that

01:25:22.540 --> 01:25:23.760
experience to go through it.

01:25:23.880 --> 01:25:26.860
I have that luxury of having to go through it.

01:25:26.960 --> 01:25:31.360
Maybe I can't avoid it. You're not going to be able to avoid every negative

01:25:31.360 --> 01:25:35.140
experience that someone has told you that they had, and you find yourself in

01:25:35.140 --> 01:25:36.000
it. You have to go through it.

01:25:36.080 --> 01:25:40.120
But to me, to be well-armed, what they say, to be well-armed,

01:25:40.220 --> 01:25:44.940
to be well-armed, I can't remember how it goes, but it's something like to be

01:25:44.940 --> 01:25:47.100
forewarned and be well-armed or something like that.

01:25:47.100 --> 01:25:52.380
Is this not why we have collaborated

01:25:52.380 --> 01:26:01.240
as brothers and people during this podcast just to correlate and share things

01:26:01.240 --> 01:26:07.420
on different aspects with each other to ensure that not only you're good,

01:26:07.620 --> 01:26:09.780
but I'm good, Dave's good,

01:26:10.140 --> 01:26:14.480
Joe's good, Jamari's good, Mark's good, Riley's good.

01:26:14.480 --> 01:26:17.120
I mean, is this not a place where we can.

01:26:20.173 --> 01:26:25.853
We're all grown we're all grown men that have come to crossroads in our life

01:26:25.853 --> 01:26:30.253
that have led us here and we're willing to be open and understand and hear each other.

01:26:31.513 --> 01:26:35.233
We're past, at least I am I can't speak for your advice, let me speak for myself

01:26:35.233 --> 01:26:42.533
I'm past a lot of that you know, so I'm here you know, because of my life experiences,

01:26:42.693 --> 01:26:44.733
you know and my failures,

01:26:44.953 --> 01:26:48.413
my listeners, I hurt this person, I didn't hit this person. I took this advice.

01:26:48.513 --> 01:26:49.653
I didn't take that advice.

01:26:50.053 --> 01:26:56.773
And I, you know, in my experiences to each one, you know, I have learned who I, you know, who I am.

01:26:56.933 --> 01:26:59.873
And so I'm older.

01:27:00.133 --> 01:27:05.153
I'm more receptive to these conversations versus when I was 18, 19 years old.

01:27:05.273 --> 01:27:08.293
I would try to hear it. To be honest with you.

01:27:09.133 --> 01:27:16.693
We're not 18, 19 no more. And that's what I'm saying. We're in a more receptive state.

01:27:17.153 --> 01:27:19.213
We may feel like that.

01:27:20.133 --> 01:27:27.733
And trust me, it's a good feeling. But that's not us. We're grown.

01:27:28.253 --> 01:27:33.733
We have retros. We have past. We have history. We have knowledge.

01:27:34.853 --> 01:27:39.953
And what we're doing is sharing. And let me ask you something.

01:27:40.633 --> 01:27:45.233
Is it a conscious choice to take heed?

01:27:46.453 --> 01:27:49.253
What are you saying I'm going to give you two examples.

01:27:50.713 --> 01:27:53.613
Military does recon before they go before they

01:27:53.613 --> 01:27:56.613
start a mission yeah you gotta understand

01:27:56.613 --> 01:27:59.653
i was in the military okay right so you you

01:27:59.653 --> 01:28:04.133
ought to know what i'm about to say understand what i'm about to say the military

01:28:04.133 --> 01:28:11.273
does recon before they execute and another example say you was running a race

01:28:11.273 --> 01:28:16.973
a five course race and a and a group of guys went before you and one guy comes

01:28:16.973 --> 01:28:18.353
back and say hey hey, course three,

01:28:18.593 --> 01:28:20.813
you got to jump because the flow going to give way.

01:28:21.273 --> 01:28:25.133
The only people who are going to make it pass without falling are the people

01:28:25.133 --> 01:28:27.753
who had their ears open and took heed to what he was saying.

01:28:28.313 --> 01:28:33.313
The other people are going to fall and are going to be behind because they didn't

01:28:33.313 --> 01:28:37.333
hear do when he said, hey, course three, the flow is going to give way.

01:28:37.673 --> 01:28:41.553
And that's crazy because I've seen it in so many different aspects of being

01:28:41.553 --> 01:28:45.613
in a military life and then being in a real world life.

01:28:45.613 --> 01:28:55.173
So you get what I'm saying when it's taking heed and knowing how to adjust properly

01:28:55.173 --> 01:29:00.753
before you have to take that fall or before you have to get burned. I can't.

01:29:02.759 --> 01:29:07.259
Of us, how many times have we have said at the age that we are now,

01:29:07.499 --> 01:29:14.659
younger or old, have we ever said, man, if I had known to take this different

01:29:14.659 --> 01:29:17.259
route, I would have done it a different way.

01:29:17.519 --> 01:29:19.499
How many of us ever have said that?

01:29:21.759 --> 01:29:25.699
Yeah, definitely. Yeah, I agree with both.

01:29:25.819 --> 01:29:30.499
I agree with both points because sometimes our own experience is just for us.

01:29:30.719 --> 01:29:37.039
That God made place in our lives just for us and we have nobody to mirror or

01:29:37.039 --> 01:29:43.419
file a suit with it because it's our own experience but at times if you got somebody that,

01:29:44.039 --> 01:29:50.099
is telling you hey this we're out to go you shouldn't do this or come to somebody

01:29:50.099 --> 01:29:57.019
give you advice or it just so happens that way when you get hit with that situation

01:29:57.019 --> 01:30:01.039
you don't know how to handle it so how many times we're saying Man,

01:30:01.219 --> 01:30:03.119
if I hadn't known what I know now,

01:30:03.379 --> 01:30:05.299
I would have done things a little differently.

01:30:06.059 --> 01:30:12.579
So is it not a great feeling to not think like that and be with a group of gentlemen

01:30:12.579 --> 01:30:17.419
that are understanding that don't think like that to move forward?

01:30:17.639 --> 01:30:19.959
Yes. No. Drake don't agree with that.

01:30:20.639 --> 01:30:23.619
But let me say this though.

01:30:24.159 --> 01:30:30.499
How many of us have had to go through experiences because we didn't take heat?

01:30:31.279 --> 01:30:34.539
Think about that. Think about the things that if we would have known now,

01:30:34.699 --> 01:30:39.879
we would have done back in the day, but things that we could have avoided, it could have used to be.

01:30:40.539 --> 01:30:45.879
Because I guarantee you half of my experiences in my life that I kind of wish

01:30:45.879 --> 01:30:49.719
I didn't have to go through, all I would have had to do is take heat and I would

01:30:49.719 --> 01:30:50.659
have never went through it.

01:30:51.857 --> 01:30:55.257
Most of us are hard-headed and got a hell of experience.

01:30:55.697 --> 01:31:03.237
Jamar, I can agree 110, 130% with me. I agree with that.

01:31:04.017 --> 01:31:09.137
I don't. What are your fucking people's sake? And just going about my daily

01:31:09.137 --> 01:31:14.097
life, but with the right priorities and the right mindset.

01:31:14.697 --> 01:31:18.817
It's like Dave said. But look what are the mentors. because the mentors are

01:31:18.817 --> 01:31:21.557
supposed to be the ones who's kicking out this stuff that you're supposed to

01:31:21.557 --> 01:31:23.857
take heed to. But look at this.

01:31:25.437 --> 01:31:31.317
I'm pretty sure everybody can relate to this. Growing up, your parents tell you stuff.

01:31:32.417 --> 01:31:36.477
It go in one ear, out the other. And then somewhere, somehow,

01:31:36.897 --> 01:31:41.857
as you get older, you have some experiences, and you wind up saying the same

01:31:41.857 --> 01:31:43.837
thing they told you. Exactly.

01:31:44.397 --> 01:31:49.237
In your mind you ain't pay no attention to it but you thought you wasn't anyway

01:31:49.237 --> 01:31:54.957
but it stuck listen to your elders right listen to your elders right.

01:31:58.401 --> 01:32:01.321
And the reason why it's going out of one end as the

01:32:01.321 --> 01:32:05.981
other is probably because you're too pliable and you can't do already know right

01:32:05.981 --> 01:32:10.261
okay but here's my question real quick real quick in the middle great conversation

01:32:10.261 --> 01:32:14.741
i love it you guys are on top of it mark we're gonna get to you after my question

01:32:14.741 --> 01:32:20.941
how many times does that happen where your parents tell you about something,

01:32:21.461 --> 01:32:27.481
and you don't listen and you ignore it, but then you go back because I'm guilty of it. I did it.

01:32:27.961 --> 01:32:31.581
My mother told me some stuff years ago. She's like, this is going to happen.

01:32:32.001 --> 01:32:34.301
You should stay away from this. You stay away from that.

01:32:34.821 --> 01:32:39.241
And then it happened. And I had to go back to my mother and say,

01:32:39.321 --> 01:32:41.261
Mama, you know what? You was right.

01:32:41.921 --> 01:32:46.801
I should have listened to you. How many of you all have had that moment?

01:32:47.161 --> 01:32:50.261
Yes, sir. Definitely. I don't listen to it. Thank you, Mama.

01:32:51.621 --> 01:32:57.441
Yes i have matter of fact matter of fact i had to uh call my mom and just tell

01:32:57.441 --> 01:33:01.681
her thank you for all the butt whoopings and all the you know for knowledge

01:33:01.681 --> 01:33:07.501
that she imparted on me you know because it's so back to that day i wish i would have listened.

01:33:10.181 --> 01:33:14.621
You know listen because you know what's crazy,

01:33:16.523 --> 01:33:20.583
Hold on. Mark, you didn't agree with all of this. Come on with it.

01:33:22.823 --> 01:33:27.123
I think who I am, you're the baddest, Francis, is who I am today.

01:33:27.403 --> 01:33:31.323
You know, and I'm happy with who I am. I wouldn't, you know.

01:33:34.043 --> 01:33:40.183
But that's a different... Do you think that sometimes that our children don't

01:33:40.183 --> 01:33:44.623
really look at us as ever being children, like we don't know?

01:33:45.223 --> 01:33:51.683
Because... Yes. That is a true statement. And I was having this conversation with somebody else.

01:33:52.843 --> 01:33:58.463
We look at our parents as parents and forget that they were children or they

01:33:58.463 --> 01:34:00.023
were young adults just like us.

01:34:00.143 --> 01:34:02.843
So you're right about that. That is a great guess, Mark.

01:34:03.323 --> 01:34:05.383
I agree with that 100%.

01:34:05.923 --> 01:34:08.023
I think that's a big issue.

01:34:08.883 --> 01:34:12.463
Where did your elders even come from, for real?

01:34:13.643 --> 01:34:15.503
Culture. Culture.

01:34:17.046 --> 01:34:21.446
Come on, Mark. I'm going to invest in mold. I'm going to receive a mold.

01:34:22.066 --> 01:34:27.046
OK, OK, OK. You receive a mold. OK. So, Maul, you asked the question, where did it come from?

01:34:27.286 --> 01:34:35.786
It came from it came from fictitious characters. It came from it came from what you see in Hollywood.

01:34:36.046 --> 01:34:38.286
If that's what we're going to call it, it came from Hollywood.

01:34:38.286 --> 01:34:46.006
It came from it came from seeing somebody on the TV or hearing something that

01:34:46.006 --> 01:34:48.166
says they're not going to do what their mom does.

01:34:48.386 --> 01:34:55.266
And so it just like now we had viral things back in the in the 90s and 80s and all of that.

01:34:55.446 --> 01:34:58.846
There were things that went viral just like they're going viral now,

01:34:58.926 --> 01:35:00.266
but they're not as visual.

01:35:01.406 --> 01:35:05.946
And they're not able to they weren't able to be passed around like they are

01:35:05.946 --> 01:35:11.086
now. But there were still things that went viral and there were still things,

01:35:11.266 --> 01:35:14.766
sayings and slangs and all those different things.

01:35:15.106 --> 01:35:20.706
So it started the rebellious trend started, from my opinion,

01:35:21.026 --> 01:35:24.086
when they changed the laws.

01:35:25.046 --> 01:35:27.926
Now, whipping your child is child abuse.

01:35:29.226 --> 01:35:32.246
When the laws changed, that's when things started.

01:35:32.466 --> 01:35:40.386
That's when not doing what your parents say and, you know, what you say, I'm going to call Taff.

01:35:40.486 --> 01:35:43.706
What was it called back in the day? Because I never tried to call this shit.

01:35:43.846 --> 01:35:46.326
But what was it called? The number you called?

01:35:46.666 --> 01:35:48.526
1-800-CHIL-ABUSE or something like that?

01:35:49.146 --> 01:35:52.526
It's called Steam. It's called Steam. The number wasn't. Because trust me,

01:35:52.546 --> 01:35:55.466
I got slapped in the mouth for trying that. Don't do that.

01:35:57.706 --> 01:36:01.566
Yep. Oh, don't do anything. No.

01:36:01.866 --> 01:36:06.746
So when they took the power away from the parents, that's when it changed.

01:36:06.946 --> 01:36:11.626
That's what I was just going to say because you shouldn't tell the D.A.R.E.

01:36:11.626 --> 01:36:13.226
Program. But you know what?

01:36:15.986 --> 01:36:20.246
Can I say something real quick? Go ahead. And then we're going to let the new

01:36:20.246 --> 01:36:21.126
gentleman say something.

01:36:21.406 --> 01:36:25.286
You know, it started, it all starts in the home.

01:36:26.306 --> 01:36:29.986
What first was to taking the father out of the home.

01:36:31.286 --> 01:36:35.906
Probably after that or even before that, a TV came about.

01:36:36.346 --> 01:36:40.486
A lot of people that I know that are older than me call a TV a stupid box.

01:36:42.036 --> 01:36:45.076
These are influences that are entering the home.

01:36:45.276 --> 01:36:50.736
After the TV, you had the cell phone, the radio, the iPod.

01:36:51.176 --> 01:36:54.576
Once you got access to all of this stuff, these things slowly but for surely

01:36:54.576 --> 01:36:57.556
influence you more than what's supposed to be influencing you.

01:36:58.776 --> 01:37:02.776
Disregard the fact of whether your parents' influence is even good or not.

01:37:03.296 --> 01:37:09.656
Their influence became less than what the TV was saying, what the music that

01:37:09.656 --> 01:37:13.516
you was listening to was saying. I was told I was stupid by somebody.

01:37:13.656 --> 01:37:19.476
One of the most important motherfuckers in my life, my dad, was doing some shit that I wanted to do.

01:37:20.176 --> 01:37:25.356
And it hurt you more than anything else, right? Yeah, while he was in jail. Right.

01:37:26.216 --> 01:37:31.436
Mr. B. Great, you opened up your mic and wanted to say something.

01:37:31.516 --> 01:37:33.136
Come on in, my brother. Welcome to the kickback.

01:37:33.636 --> 01:37:35.836
What's your input on tonight's conversation?

01:37:36.596 --> 01:37:40.896
Hello there. Hello there. I'm going to comment about the spankings right now.

01:37:41.276 --> 01:37:45.696
I used to be for spankings, right? But now I shift it.

01:37:45.896 --> 01:37:51.276
And I'm not saying I'm for or I'm against, but I will say spankings don't teach anyone.

01:37:52.436 --> 01:38:00.156
Okay. What I mean by this is spanking should be used as a tool, but.

01:38:01.454 --> 01:38:05.174
But a child doesn't really learn anything from it. It's a consequence, right?

01:38:05.934 --> 01:38:10.654
But if a child is able to actually be able to learn, you know,

01:38:10.854 --> 01:38:16.934
why, you know, why is this happening, then you get something from it.

01:38:17.154 --> 01:38:19.094
It's like training a horse.

01:38:19.574 --> 01:38:22.874
You know, I'm not comparing a child to a horse, but I'm saying like,

01:38:22.874 --> 01:38:26.774
you know, like training a horse, you can easily break a horse down by spanking.

01:38:26.894 --> 01:38:29.594
You know what I'm saying? but like you're able to talk to the

01:38:29.594 --> 01:38:33.214
horse as slow you know it's harder

01:38:33.214 --> 01:38:38.774
to do that but the bond is stronger right and

01:38:38.774 --> 01:38:42.534
i get exactly what you're saying it's a learning process but here's the thing

01:38:42.534 --> 01:38:49.214
here's the thing in that moment and and you have again it goes back to discipline

01:38:49.214 --> 01:38:53.634
it goes back to discipline and self-ordered in that moment where that child

01:38:53.634 --> 01:38:56.474
has violated whatever it is rule, consequence,

01:38:56.674 --> 01:38:58.754
whatever it is, and you're upset.

01:38:59.414 --> 01:39:09.814
Do you stop and take a personal audit of where your emotions are in the moment before you react?

01:39:11.230 --> 01:39:14.290
As a mature person, you should never hit your child at an angle.

01:39:15.190 --> 01:39:19.390
I didn't say hit your, I'm just, I'm asking a question, do you stop?

01:39:19.650 --> 01:39:23.950
I'm just saying, I'm saying out of experience, you know, so,

01:39:24.110 --> 01:39:28.230
so I'm saying if you do explain to your child, you should always explain to

01:39:28.230 --> 01:39:31.390
your child why and then to me it should be the last resort.

01:39:32.070 --> 01:39:36.090
Right, and it is in my household, it's the last resort.

01:39:37.650 --> 01:39:40.570
But, and I understand what you're saying but my

01:39:40.570 --> 01:39:43.190
children i have spanked my children i ain't gonna sit here and tell

01:39:43.190 --> 01:39:46.330
you no lie that i haven't spanked my children i have

01:39:46.330 --> 01:39:49.350
but so last last result because

01:39:49.350 --> 01:39:52.310
i rather understand why my child's

01:39:52.310 --> 01:40:01.050
doing this right yeah and it's it takes a long oh my god it takes a lot because

01:40:01.050 --> 01:40:06.390
it's called behavior modification because god whether right i rather understand

01:40:06.390 --> 01:40:10.830
where my child's coming from because sometimes it's an easy fix. Sometimes it's not.

01:40:11.490 --> 01:40:14.770
But we're trying to teach our child how to live without this.

01:40:15.730 --> 01:40:17.210
Right. Yeah.

01:40:18.270 --> 01:40:25.870
So tonight's topic was personal audits. That's the topic tonight.

01:40:26.410 --> 01:40:29.430
So you came in off of spankings.

01:40:30.030 --> 01:40:37.730
How do you evaluate yourself from a day-to-day basis and do you audit the representative

01:40:37.730 --> 01:40:39.810
that you're putting out into this world?

01:40:41.235 --> 01:40:46.755
I'm a foster parent So Yeah I do that a lot,

01:40:47.735 --> 01:40:52.495
So what I do is My wife So what I do is,

01:40:53.215 --> 01:40:58.715
I think about whatever I do And how it's helping my family And if it's helping

01:40:58.715 --> 01:41:02.555
me Because usually if it's helping me It's helping my family And sometimes that

01:41:02.555 --> 01:41:05.615
means I have to just Take a rest day sometimes,

01:41:06.275 --> 01:41:12.835
Because sometimes I push myself so much That I'm burnt out If I burnt out, I'm no good for knowing,

01:41:13.715 --> 01:41:19.515
So now I'm like I'll just take a rest Okay So, yeah,

01:41:21.315 --> 01:41:26.235
Spankings were spankings But beatings Were beatings.

01:41:28.272 --> 01:41:33.292
True. There is a difference. But what I've noticed with the younger generation,

01:41:33.292 --> 01:41:37.912
they don't know the distinguish between it because I hear so many people under

01:41:37.912 --> 01:41:43.092
under 35 say that they were abused as a child.

01:41:43.552 --> 01:41:47.312
And I know some of these children and I know some of these people and they were

01:41:47.312 --> 01:41:51.552
not abused, but they call spankings abuse.

01:41:52.112 --> 01:41:57.612
If they got hit one time, oh, they were abused. If somebody used a house shoe on, they were abused.

01:41:57.612 --> 01:42:03.232
If they got put in the corner they were abused that's not my abuse well i was

01:42:03.232 --> 01:42:05.872
hung upside down a beat that was a beat,

01:42:06.852 --> 01:42:11.752
i was definitely abused but i didn't realize i was abused until i became an adult,

01:42:12.352 --> 01:42:17.812
same here because to me i was being i was being this a part of us i'm realizing

01:42:17.812 --> 01:42:23.172
discipline the first thing the first thing my mom grabbed put her hands on that's

01:42:23.172 --> 01:42:26.392
what i'm getting it with I don't care if it's a pan or a lamp. I don't know.

01:42:26.712 --> 01:42:30.772
She always kept an axe handle or a pipe. Yay, yay.

01:42:31.012 --> 01:42:35.192
I'm right there with you. I don't feel stripped naked out in the middle of the field.

01:42:36.512 --> 01:42:40.912
But the birds and dogs. So I'm right there with you. She had choices.

01:42:43.312 --> 01:42:43.932
Let's go.

01:42:45.386 --> 01:42:52.406
What did we learn? What did we gain from how we were raised?

01:42:52.866 --> 01:42:55.366
Is that something we want to pass on?

01:42:55.866 --> 01:43:00.266
Beating the switches and remotes and Gatorade bottles?

01:43:02.866 --> 01:43:07.546
Wow. This just keeps going even further and further to the left.

01:43:09.006 --> 01:43:13.206
Is that what we're trying to pass on? That's what it's doing.

01:43:14.206 --> 01:43:19.806
Is that what we're trying to Are we trying to pass on discipline in a meaningful

01:43:19.806 --> 01:43:25.986
manner, or are we trying to pass on discipline in an abusive manner? And what works better?

01:43:27.566 --> 01:43:32.106
Okay. Is it something that we've been through, or is it something that we can

01:43:32.106 --> 01:43:40.046
get past, but still cause, make an understanding of how this could be us?

01:43:40.486 --> 01:43:44.306
Well, that's part of taking that audit that we were talking about, you know?

01:43:44.866 --> 01:43:47.566
Right. you don't want to be saying you don't want

01:43:47.566 --> 01:43:50.286
to be saying it's being this monster you know where you run into

01:43:50.286 --> 01:43:55.806
everybody and that's what I was going to say to the men in the room that have

01:43:55.806 --> 01:44:00.726
adult children what did you pass on to your children because they're adults

01:44:00.726 --> 01:44:06.086
now what did you pass on to your children by the way you disciplined them and

01:44:06.086 --> 01:44:08.746
how do they view you now as adults,

01:44:10.106 --> 01:44:11.746
are they trying to fight me.

01:44:14.006 --> 01:44:18.386
My oldest This is what I told her. She told me I kicked her out,

01:44:18.466 --> 01:44:20.166
right? But I didn't, okay?

01:44:20.846 --> 01:44:22.806
And it's because it's supposed to be disciplined. I have to make it short.

01:44:22.906 --> 01:44:28.286
This is what I told her. I asked her. I said, listen, you can go to college. And I felt paid for it.

01:44:29.020 --> 01:44:35.980
No. I said, well, you can go get a job, save some money. And she said, no.

01:44:36.340 --> 01:44:39.360
I said, what are you talking about? You got to do something.

01:44:40.000 --> 01:44:43.700
This is where this point comes in. I mean, you call us, do it on your own.

01:44:44.440 --> 01:44:49.500
This is what I told her. I said, listen, I am not going to keep on paying your bills.

01:44:50.460 --> 01:44:54.740
You got to do something. And he said, what? You kicking me out?

01:44:54.920 --> 01:44:59.720
I said, no, but if you don't do none of these things, you're kicking yourself out.

01:45:01.700 --> 01:45:06.300
Right. Yeah. I feel you on that. I feel you on that.

01:45:06.580 --> 01:45:09.760
I said, this is what I told her. I said, I love you with everything.

01:45:10.100 --> 01:45:13.940
I said, I might have did some things that you didn't like. I might have said

01:45:13.940 --> 01:45:17.200
something that might hurt your feelings. I said, but you know, I love you.

01:45:17.480 --> 01:45:19.740
I don't do you nothing to hurt you deliberately.

01:45:20.380 --> 01:45:25.080
I love you. If you don't understand that, then I don't know what to tell you.

01:45:25.700 --> 01:45:29.340
And I love you with that. I agree with you 100%. I've been there,

01:45:29.420 --> 01:45:30.840
done that. My oldest is 44.

01:45:31.600 --> 01:45:36.820
And I use nature as an example. I say, you tell me, young man,

01:45:36.920 --> 01:45:38.160
young woman, because I've got both,

01:45:38.920 --> 01:45:44.060
what mama bird continues to feed the baby bird when the baby bird is big as

01:45:44.060 --> 01:45:48.260
her, can fly and can search for his own self?

01:45:48.260 --> 01:45:51.200
When you see the mother bird pluck up a worm out

01:45:51.200 --> 01:45:54.520
the ground and look at him and fly off and eat that

01:45:54.520 --> 01:45:57.500
lets him know right there I have brought you to

01:45:57.500 --> 01:46:00.300
this point in life I have trained you I have given you

01:46:00.300 --> 01:46:04.700
all that you need to have to be successful now you have to learn how to fly

01:46:04.700 --> 01:46:09.220
why do some birds push the bigger birds to the edge of the nest and know they

01:46:09.220 --> 01:46:12.900
can fly and push them out the nest because they need to have that experience

01:46:12.900 --> 01:46:19.640
if we don't motivate our children to move forward We're handicapping them.

01:46:19.820 --> 01:46:24.360
We're making them, we're not making them as strong as they should be. We're making them weak.

01:46:24.660 --> 01:46:29.040
So I think as parents, we have to motivate our children sometimes to take that

01:46:29.040 --> 01:46:30.420
step off the edge of the nest.

01:46:30.660 --> 01:46:32.860
Put a phone number of iPads in their hands.

01:46:34.367 --> 01:46:40.927
Babysitter. And like I said before, grown means gone. If you want to be grown, you got to go. Right.

01:46:42.647 --> 01:46:45.527
That's right. You want to be grown, you got to go, Dave.

01:46:46.307 --> 01:46:52.947
Amen to that. You hear me? She called the cops on my kids and stuff because

01:46:52.947 --> 01:46:54.907
she didn't like how I was talking to my children.

01:46:55.287 --> 01:46:58.527
And this is what I told her. I said, listen, we love you and everything,

01:46:58.667 --> 01:47:00.647
but you're not going to keep up in conflict in this house.

01:47:01.307 --> 01:47:03.127
Right. And that was it.

01:47:03.847 --> 01:47:08.147
So as our children get older, this is what I told her you know,

01:47:08.327 --> 01:47:11.067
I said listen, we love them and everything but you're not going to tell me how

01:47:11.067 --> 01:47:14.427
to live my life I'm going to say how you live your life but I'm doing the best

01:47:14.427 --> 01:47:17.027
I can for you but if you don't like it, well,

01:47:19.047 --> 01:47:25.547
and my brother I'm sorry you had these days you're not grown as a parent you're

01:47:25.547 --> 01:47:33.407
a friend no no no no sir you got to step step when you dig it That's just how it is, man.

01:47:35.127 --> 01:47:41.647
And when you lay the law down as a parent and not a friend, that's when shit goes haywire.

01:47:42.007 --> 01:47:46.807
In today's society, yeah, because they set it up. They set it up that way. Yeah.

01:47:50.508 --> 01:47:53.428
Welcome to the world Welcome to the

01:47:53.428 --> 01:47:56.408
world Nobody enjoys nowadays Welcome to

01:47:56.408 --> 01:47:59.968
the world That's now happening That

01:47:59.968 --> 01:48:09.528
none of us Were raised in That welcome to the world Where What a child says

01:48:09.528 --> 01:48:15.968
Means more Than what the fucking parent says That made the child Because of

01:48:15.968 --> 01:48:18.928
an influencer because of the internet,

01:48:19.308 --> 01:48:24.928
because of whatever the fuck is out there that they're allowed to watch means

01:48:24.928 --> 01:48:31.168
more than what the parent is teaching them or trying to instill in them as a

01:48:31.168 --> 01:48:34.308
person of blood and birth.

01:48:34.948 --> 01:48:41.568
It's a pass on. Oh, I don't have time for you. Here's a fucking iPad.

01:48:42.268 --> 01:48:46.348
As opposed to, I don't have time for you. You're a badass.

01:48:46.888 --> 01:48:50.628
I'm going to whoop your ass. That's very frowned upon.

01:48:51.248 --> 01:48:58.288
But I guarantee you, everybody in this chat right now got their ass beat because

01:48:58.288 --> 01:49:00.708
of some stupid shit they were doing.

01:49:03.268 --> 01:49:06.988
But here's the objective of this conversation.

01:49:07.588 --> 01:49:12.928
The objective of this conversation was exactly what it was. And that's the reason

01:49:12.928 --> 01:49:14.888
why, and here's where it goes.

01:49:15.108 --> 01:49:18.748
The reason why I asked the question is this. There are some of us in here that

01:49:18.748 --> 01:49:19.948
still have small children.

01:49:20.268 --> 01:49:22.788
There are some of us in here that have grown children.

01:49:23.628 --> 01:49:29.028
Me, on the other hand, I got a mixture of everything. My children range from 30.

01:49:31.666 --> 01:49:37.446
But at the same hand, these conversations are had to have a better understanding as men.

01:49:38.586 --> 01:49:44.326
Reach one, teach one. Some man in here may be about to have their first child.

01:49:44.526 --> 01:49:47.806
Some man in here may be having problems with their child.

01:49:47.806 --> 01:49:57.346
So getting a diverse group of men sharing how they've dealt with discipline within themselves,

01:49:58.166 --> 01:50:04.006
within their households, within their communities is always a great time because

01:50:04.006 --> 01:50:05.726
then you understand that maybe

01:50:05.726 --> 01:50:10.866
you're not alone in whatever you're feeling or how you see this world.

01:50:11.306 --> 01:50:14.446
Mark, you're not by yourself just because you think you are.

01:50:14.666 --> 01:50:16.706
Some of us see the world the way you do.

01:50:17.806 --> 01:50:22.966
We all have similarities in the way we do things.

01:50:22.986 --> 01:50:27.406
We all have similarities in things that we don't like about this world.

01:50:27.646 --> 01:50:31.066
I don't like the fact that my children think I'm their friend.

01:50:31.226 --> 01:50:32.306
I ain't your fucking friend.

01:50:32.886 --> 01:50:37.946
But like Zane said, in this world right now that we live in,

01:50:38.506 --> 01:50:39.946
your word means nothing.

01:50:40.146 --> 01:50:44.586
What they're saying on the Internet means everything. And if you're engaging

01:50:44.586 --> 01:50:49.846
with your child in that nonsense, then yes, you are a friend.

01:50:50.286 --> 01:50:54.086
But if your interest is somewhere else and different, then you're not.

01:50:54.596 --> 01:50:59.356
Those lines. And I think too many people out here are blurring the lines when

01:50:59.356 --> 01:51:03.176
it comes to relationships, whether it's your children, your parents,

01:51:03.336 --> 01:51:06.176
your sister, your brother, your cousin, or whoever, you're blurring the lines.

01:51:06.956 --> 01:51:12.996
Take an audit of yourself and make sure your representative that you're putting

01:51:12.996 --> 01:51:17.636
out in this world, first of all, is showing grace to everybody.

01:51:17.976 --> 01:51:22.256
And your presence is gracing the world. You're a man.

01:51:22.816 --> 01:51:29.296
Make sure you show everything that you think you, not me,

01:51:29.596 --> 01:51:34.856
not the brother next to you, but you think the man, a man should be and take

01:51:34.856 --> 01:51:37.816
audit of the things that you're putting out into this world.

01:51:37.876 --> 01:51:42.456
Because as I said before, at the beginning of this, somebody is watching.

01:51:42.516 --> 01:51:44.456
They're watching for your downfall.

01:51:44.776 --> 01:51:50.236
They're watching for your glow up. Either way, somebody's watching.

01:51:50.596 --> 01:51:54.656
It could be a child. It could be your co-worker. It could be your mother.

01:51:54.936 --> 01:51:57.696
It could be your father. But somebody's watching.

01:51:58.096 --> 01:52:06.376
So make sure you take a personal audit of how you represent yourself every day,

01:52:06.776 --> 01:52:13.276
every day, because you never know what opportunities will be placed in front of you.

01:52:13.276 --> 01:52:16.296
You never know who you're talking to.

01:52:16.436 --> 01:52:18.776
You can be talking to an angel. You can be talking to a business person.

01:52:18.916 --> 01:52:20.156
You can be talking to anybody.

01:52:21.936 --> 01:52:25.196
Make sure you're auditing. If it's

01:52:25.196 --> 01:52:28.596
stressing you out, if it's causing you health problems, get rid of it.

01:52:29.136 --> 01:52:34.936
Hell, I don't care who it is or what it is. Get rid of it because it means you no good.

01:52:35.916 --> 01:52:39.996
Fellas We got three minutes left Always,

01:52:39.996 --> 01:52:43.576
always great conversations And as I say every week Just invite somebody,

01:52:43.576 --> 01:52:48.736
one person You ain't got to invite the world Invite one person Let them know

01:52:48.736 --> 01:52:51.556
how these conversations go down This is real,

01:52:51.696 --> 01:52:57.996
raw, uncut No judgment zone Men, come have conversations Like men,

01:52:59.619 --> 01:53:03.039
everything. Anybody got anything to say before we get up out of here?

01:53:03.219 --> 01:53:04.959
It's always a blessing to be here, brothers.

01:53:05.279 --> 01:53:07.779
It's always a good Friday when we have this podcast.

01:53:08.819 --> 01:53:12.579
I chose anybody to take a personal audit on a day.

01:53:13.499 --> 01:53:16.779
When your water don't go, if you don't, y'all have a great evening,

01:53:16.839 --> 01:53:20.219
gentlemen. Y'all have a great weekend. Stay warm.

01:53:20.759 --> 01:53:25.239
Stay off the road as you can, because people can't grab Nashville anyway, so I'm just saying.

01:53:25.539 --> 01:53:28.819
They said it ain't good. They done changed it now. They said it ain't coming until the afternoons.

01:53:29.219 --> 01:53:31.079
Okay. You stay off the road.

01:53:35.479 --> 01:53:42.659
I enjoy all y'all's knowledge, experience, life experience. That's all good.

01:53:43.879 --> 01:53:49.939
I take it in. God bless you, God. I'm the youngest, older. I listen.

01:53:50.679 --> 01:53:58.979
I'm always going to have something to say. But I hope you guys say y'all be Keep your family safe.

01:53:59.819 --> 01:54:03.059
Say a good prayer tomorrow. Say a good prayer. Yes.

01:54:03.999 --> 01:54:09.979
Make sure everything is okay and everybody is at a time. I think about you guys.

01:54:10.379 --> 01:54:11.359
I think about you gentlemen.

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Just make sure everything is okay. Live life easy. Don't think too hard.

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Just be easy. Try it. Be easy.

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I like it. Just be easy. Be easy. Try it. Be pleasing, be restricable.

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If somebody has something to say to me, take it in. Don't be so judgmental.

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If you have to be judgmental, make it meaningful.

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Stay safe.

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Stay safe, always.

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Each and every one of you guys are loved.

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Whether it's buying Individuals, children Alright my brothers Just Taste pain.

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Everybody I love y'all I'll hear y'all next Friday I will hear everybody come

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back again next Friday We have a great conversation I got a great topic for

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next week Make sure you hear next week Thank y'all, I love y'all I'll hear y'all next week,

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Alright my brother let's get snowed in snowed in stay safe stay warm make sure

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everybody around you is okay.